Why does he come so soon?

Question

OK - so I have slept with this guy twice. Both times he has come within 2 minutes. He is 30, so he's not a young guy. What is going on? And what can I do to make it last, for my own sake?

Answer 1

Suggest that he masturbates himself before you get together, that way he should last longer. Or tell him you need a little longer to get off and get him to give you alternate stimulation via his fingers or his tongue so that you both end up satisfied. If you don't you will end up resenting him. Also, take this as a compliment that he finds you so attractive and tell him this, it may make him feel better about it and relaxation can only lead to better sex.

Answer 2

First and foremost, why did u allow him to come to you so soon?You must have been very careful. Do you really have to keep it going?If you want to make it last it has to be a two-way giving more than physical. If not, it's not possible to even continue and gone to a lifetime relationship.You should know on your own when you really have to make up your mind.

Answer 3

He has no control!!! He comes like a 14 year old. Make him slow down, take more time for 4-play. Make him make sure that you are looked after first, then you're not left hanging. Good Luck.

Answer 4

You just turn him on too much. Try getting Viagra. For young guys that dont need the pill it allows him to remain erect after orgasm for many many hours. I dont need it but when my woman wants one of her marathon sex nights I take a Viagra and can stay up for 12 hours after several orgasms. Of course we usually only do it for a few hours but I still have an erection 12 hours later. And of course consult your physician before taking any medication. I had to throw that in as a disclaimer.

Answer 5

As guys get older they get have this problem. My ex husband is in his 30's and has the same problem. I have heard of some theorys on how to get them to last longer if he'd be willing to try. One is before he's ready he pulls out and you gently queez the head of his d*#K. My boyfriend, to last longer when he feels ready he just stops and we both relax (if you move it can cause him to go) and then when the urge is gone we start again.

Answer 6

Dayum that a serious problem... I feel for you..

However, he should "practice so to say", have him make the effort while he is getting him self off to control the urge, or try having him stop right before he thinks he's about to blow so that it will lengthen the process, he might even want to think about something else cars sports...

Hope things improve before you go crazy!!!

Answer 7

More foreplay to make him less sensitive. Also slow down a little, if you go crazy on him right away, he'll loose it quicker. Tease more, it is harder for you but it can be fun and it will teach him control. It will make it a better experience in the long run, I promise you.

Answer 8

Use a thicker Condom, or you get on top and control the speed, may be even ask him like you you want to know "Is is true men think of baseball while having s** to avoid cumming soon"? laugh it off like you thought it was funny, but then it might plant a seed in his head that it's suppose to be pleasureable for the both of you.

Answer 9

Take the top position and slow him down!! and try to have intercourse more often, increase the foreplay, if all this fails, he may need to see a urologist for a more specific cure,but this is sort of a delicate issue, try to do that without removing his self asteem! lots of luck!

Answer 10

When you know he is getting close, try something different. A different position or just slow down. He might just be one of those guys that comes early. you prob cant change it.