I'm dating a very nice guy. We get along very well, and are very compatiable. But this is still early into the relationship though. Here's my issue . . . he is still friendly with his "ex" girlfriend. She has a new boyfriend, but for some reason they still do a lot of social things together. Not only that, but the guy I'm seeing is still very friendly with the "ex" girlfriend's sister. In fact, they went to London together for a week recently. He tells me that he is not interested in the ex's sister, but they are only close friends. He tells me that he never kissed her, or held her hand. I've never remained friends with my "ex" boyfriends. I have not hung around them after we broke up, just moved on. Is it me?!? These people are all in their early 30's ... not teenagers in other words. The guy I'm dating is a "late bloomer" (nerd), very sweet, sincere guy. He has invited me to go out with them, but I have declined. Should I go? I don't want to meet the "ex" or her sis!
2006-07-06 13:38:47 · 28 answers · asked by i_troll_therefore_i_am 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people really can be friends with their ex's. I wouldn't worry about it, and if you want to see how things are working when they hang out, I really would suggest meeting them. It may give you some peace of mind. I've remained friends with some of my ex's and still hang out with them occasionally. He's with you, not her. Obviously there is a reason things ended between him and his ex, and a reason they never started with a sister. There is also a reason he's with you, and I would concentrate on that. Whatever your fears and insecurities may be, relax and remember that he picked you!
2006-07-06 13:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Skitz628 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well if he says that he isn't interested, that pretty much means jack squat! It's his actions that show how he is. If he is going on trips with these girls, I would say be cautious. He may sincerely feel nothing toward either of them, but there is always a chance something could develop. Some men and women cannot be "just friends" when they spend so much time together, expecially if they don't take their girlfriends/boyfriends on these outtings with them. That just gives room for alone time, ya know? Be careful...
2006-07-06 13:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lorenia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced from my husband of 5 years and we are actually friends, and I have a very good current relationship. Do you trust your man? If you do and he's never given you a reason not to trust him then don't make something out of nothing. as you get older and more mature you learn that when you are "over" someone you can get to the point when you only want good things for them and have moved on so you can hang with them and there's nothing there. You should go out with them and listen to your guts. If things feel wrong then go from there.
2006-07-06 13:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might make an effort to meet his friends... I can understand not wanting to meet his ex-girlfriend, but perhaps if you got to know these girls better you'd feel more secure. If you get to know them and don't like them, or still feel something odd may be going on, you can sit your boyfriend down and tell him you're uncomfortable with these female friendships. At that point, you can show him you've given them a chance and it's not working for you. If he cares enough for you, he'll understand and spend his free time with you and not the others.
2006-07-06 13:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by Regularguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its outside your comfort zone, or goes against what you value then you may need to rethink this guy, but only YOU know the answer to that. Maybe its no big deal. I think you should take him up on the invite and hang out together, I think you're smart enough to see/feel the vibe exchanged among them. From that point on you can make a good choice on whether or not you want to proceed with guy. Good luck.
2006-07-06 13:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by cinnamon_latin_doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't be jealous just be well aware if, he wants to just hang out with them don't be jealous because that will scare a man away and it will make him think you're cheating. I always think like this" Keep your enemies close" and if you really think something is going on just befriend her get close but not to close. DON'T BE JEALOUS" because even if he was no matter how much you have feelings for him a man will whatever he wants to do especially while you're not around and you cant control that but, it's good that you trust him.
2006-07-06 13:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by Quac2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 16:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is kinda ugh...i mean i would not liek him doing that. But if yall get along very well and he tells you nothing id going on...and as the other person said unless you had a reason not to trust him i would. So yeah go and met them see what they are like she may be ugly so something...hey HE invited you so go and see what they are like and see if he is his type of girl. Go and have a Great time GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-07-06 13:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by victoria2chat2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont like to give bad advice but i say u should set him down one night that u 2 r by your selves n tell him that ur uncomfertable with him still hangin around with his ex girlfriend n its either u or her my lil sis has the same prob her bf rafe still hangs out with his ex (aka my lil sises bff) n she wont do anything about it patty the ex will call n he will put my sis on hold to talk to her my advice if he chooses her over u ur better off n hey there r plenty of fish in the c and i sure u can find one thats over his ex hope i helped l8er good luck
2006-07-06 13:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by hotnfun_2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being cautious not jelous. All this would be to much for me to handle. It almost seems like he can't let go of his past with this chick. i will tell him how you feel and if he does not understand then he is not the right man for you. I don't think he would like it if the shoe was on the other foot. Good Luck!
2006-07-06 13:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by lifeislove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋