Laws regarding what conditions you had to meet to have kids (if there was such a thing) ?

Question

Would you agree that there should be a law stating that you should meet the following criteria in order to have a child ?

The Parents would have to:
1) have a steady income
2) not smoke, drink or do drugs &
3) not have a criminal record

~~~~~ Abortions would be mandatory if you didn't meet all of the criteria or you had a kid due to being raped~~~~~

AND

~~~Stem cells would be used for research~~~

Would you be for it or against it ? Why or why not ?

My ex told me that peeps should have to meet that criteria in order to have kids. Just thought I'd ask what you all thought bout it lol. I think I might know what a lot of you might say tho :P

NO I didn't say that Tiffany. But I just thought I'd ask this Q cuz my ex said that these should be the conditions required to have kids. He himself smokes occasionally & drinks a lot. But, he's also unsure bout having kids. (He mentioned b/f "If we ever have kids..." Sorry for offending anyone.

Megalus, I'ma add something else. I think that the parent(s) should have to be 18+ So would you change your mind if abortion WASN'T mandatory ? Hmmm... But I esp wanna know what you all think bout the first 3 things. I'd qualify for not having the bad habits, not having a criminal record. BUT, I don't have much of an income... I couldn't support a fam so the guy would have to stay w/ me if this EVER (which it's not) came to be. (law passing that is)

I'm not gonna A your Q bout what that says bout you being a parent or whatever cuz I'm not gonna judge. To the 3 candidates thing, all I could say was "omg" :| And if you're mad bout this Q... don't get mad @ the messenger !!! :'( It was my stupid idiotic EX who said that these should be the conditions. I wanted to ask you all this Q a long time ago when I was wit him (broke up on June 7th, 3 wks ago). Oh yeah, & bout what I was saying earlier, I don't even know if I'd have kids... maybe not my own but... then again, I think it's best if parents raise their own kids... IF THEY CAN, as in being able to concieve.

Answer 1

No, there shouldn't be any rules. However, I do believe that a person who intentionally exposes her unborn child to life threatening / physically deforming chemicals (ex: coke, alcohol, dangerous medications, etc.) should not be allowed to keep the child. If a person can't protect her child before it is born, and in fact puts that child in danger, that mother shouldn't have the right to raise that child. I'm talking about intentional use/misuse of drugs, etc. Sometimes (as in the case of a woman on seizure medication, for example) a woman is on medication and has no clue that it is dangerous to the unborn child.

Now, in order for it to be possible to do this, the government would have to supply free prenatal checkups and counseling for both the mother and the unborn child. I don't have a problem with this, but the chances of the government then deciding whether a person is fit to parent in other ways (perhaps using the examples you gave) becomes too great. When the government pays for stuff, they begin to want control. It just doesn't work. Some states have laws that terminate parental rights upon the birth of a drug addicted baby. That's a good step, I think.

Yeah, we all actually stink as parents. We can be loving and doting and give our kids the best of everything, including discipline, and they still have stuff to blame us for when they are grown. It's just the way it works.

Of course, my parents didn't make these mistakes... ("Hi, Mom!" ♥)



As far as the abortion idea...

Nope.

I just can't stomach the thought of killing a human, especially for that reason. It just doesn't work. And, beyond my "religious convictions" is the thought that forced abortion will lead eventually to genocide -- something that we as human beings should do everything we can to guard against forever. Slippery slopes are just too dangerous.

Answer 2

I do NOT agree with that. For one, I smoke. 2, I used to smoke pot but what does that have to do with my ability to raise children? It's not like I do it now. My kids are very happy. Their father works. People that I don't even know come up to me and say how happy my kids look. You're pretty much telling me that I should have aborted my children. That's cruel.

edit-Conditions I feel needed to have kids: income, happy home-life, steady relationship between the parents, common sense. There are some people TOO STUPID to have kids. I'm talking about the ones that say"my 1 month old has a 102 temperature, what should I do?" There should be a major common sense test. With the drug thing are you considering pot as a drug? I would say that would be a good criteria if you don't include pot. My fiance smokes occasionally and he doesn't do it in our home. I don't agree with abortion though. Adoption would be better. Not all teen parents are bad parents. I was 18 when I had my first child, 19 with my second. I was on birth control with both. My fiance is 3 years older than me, so had and still has a good job.

Answer 3

Question 1:

If you knew a woman who was pregnant, who had 8 kids already,
three who were deaf, two who were blind,
one mentally retarded, and she had syphilis, would you recommend
that she have an abortion?




Read the next question before looking at the answer for this one.





Question 2:


It is time to elect a new world leader, and only your vote
counts. Here are the facts about the three leading
candidates.


Candidate A -

Associates with crooked politicians, and consults with histologists.
He's had two Mistresses. He also chain smokes and drinks 8 to 10
martinis a day.

Candidate B -

He was kicked out of office twice, sleeps until noon, used
opium in college and drinks a quart of whiskey every evening.


Candidate C -

He is a decorated war hero. He's a vegetarian, doesn't smoke,
drinks an occasional beer and never cheated on his wife.


Which of these candidates would be your choice? Decide first,

no peeking, then scroll down for the answer.

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Candidate A is Franklin D. Roosevelt.



Candidate B is Winston Churchill.



Candidate C. is Adolph Hitler.




And, by the way, the answer to the abortion question: If you said yes, you just killed Beethoven.



Pretty interesting isn't it? Makes a person think before judging
someone.

Answer 4

I think this is ridiculous. I know plenty of poor, struggling people who have kids who make a better home for and are better parents to their children than many wealthy people I know.

As for smoking around kids, while it makes me sick, I don't think people should have to quit. Drinking and drugs...yes. Those are two things that can actually kill children (i.e. dad gets sh!tfaced and takes little Timmy out for a drive)

Criminal records...this is wrong, too. Many people's criminal records are wrong. (i.e. wrongly convicted, etc.) Besides...just because a person has committed a crime doesn't mean they'll be a bad parent.

Abortions being mandatory...hell no. That's the most ridiculous thing I've read all day.

Stem cells...NO.

I assume these would be government laws? I'm sorry, but I think Big Brother has enough say-so when it comes to my life. Dictating to me what criteria I have to meet in order to have children is ridiculous.

Answer 5

Just because life aint perfect doesnt mean you cant be a good parent. I had my first child at 16 and my third at 19. Yes we have struggled a bit financially, but that doesnt mean my kids dont have everything they need and most of what they want. Oh, and by the way, I smoke and on the rare occasion I can find I babysitter, I DRINK LIKE A FISH! So go a head and judge but if you ever met my kids you would see that the only true pre-requisit for having kids is a desire to be a good, loving parent and do your damndest to make it work.

Answer 6

I don't think so, thats against our rights as a free country! Can you imagine how many babies would die because some idiot passed a law that abortions were mandatory? How crazy!
SO unless you live in a communist society (China) I think it's wrong!

Not that i'm in any of those situations or ever will be, but these are the freedoms we enjoy as a free country!
Do i think it's right seeing 14-15 girls pregnant! Heck no! That is what adoption is for!
I did think at one point there should be a maturity limit of girls having children or having sex! But we can't infringe on someones free agency!
But because abortions would be mandatory i have to say HECK NO! I'm so not for that!

Answer 7

If those were the conditions required, very few children would be born.

Parenting is the second oldest amateur sport in the world. Even people who meet the criteria listed have children, they can still screw up.

Answer 8

Yes , yes , yes!! You have to have a licence to have a dog and anyone can have a kid, its crazy especially with some of the so-called "parents" out there

Answer 9

I disagree, I did smoke, but once I found out I was pregnant I quit. the government shouldn't have the right to decide who does and doesn't deserve to have kids.

Answer 10

i disagree w/those conditions....exspecailly number 2 i can understand why you'd need number 1 though kids are expensive....why not have a maturity test to see if your prepared to handle a kid? now that would be a better option.....