Yesterday, a girl about 17 came up to my fiance and asked him if he was single and wanted to date her! I am worried that he might have done something with her because he was really drunk when I talked to him over the phone. He told me all about it and said nothing happened, he also said that he told her he was engaged to be married soon, but I have been cheated on in the past in other relationships, so it is extremely hard to believe him.
2006-07-06 13:20:58 · 32 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No my fiance doesnt drink all the time, this was just a once in a great while thing hanging out with his pals. They stopped at a gas station to get some gas and this girl stopped my man and asked him that.
2006-07-06 13:32:41 · update #1
no no don't do what the these girls are saying..
girl, you gotta talk to your boy, and if you don't trust him there is an instict that tells you whether he is or isn't cheating on you.
if you don't trust him, you aren't going to trust him when you get married. sometimes it's just good to wait. plenty of 17 year old girls are going to hit on your fiance, she's not the last. so it's not her you should be mad at.
2006-07-06 13:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by MORENITA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to trust him - no matter how hard it is. If you are secure in your relationship, and he is committed to you, he would have no problem discussing it with you (when he's sober, even). If there's really nothing going on, it should come out in the conversation. Be careful of what you say - don't go accusing him before you have evidence. Just ask him to talk about it, or tell you more about it, you might be surprised how honest an answer you get.
2006-07-06 13:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by michelsa0276 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you trust he goes to work everyday? Can you trust he isn't doing stuff when your not home? SERIOUSLY it is very hard to trust in a relationship but relationships are a huge risk and they have to be based on trust and if they arn't then the relationship is lost. You can worry yourself sick and try to drive him up the wall with questions to try to beat something out of him that may not even be there. What eventually happens? He will know that even if he don't cheat that you will still get mad at him. Damed if he does Damed if he doesnt... So my advice is to trust him. Honestly I do the same to my sweetie... I like to see the little twinge of jealousy he tries to hide... it shows that he does care ; )
2006-07-06 13:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to let go of what has happened to us in the past. Do you realize that your fiancee is someone totally different from anyone who has cheated on you in the past? He is not the same person and if you are going to marry him you need to trust him. Bottom line. You asked him and he said nothing happened. If you don't trust his answer you really need to start rethinking your relationship.
2006-07-06 13:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by Tact is highly overrated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to give him some benefit for openly telling you that the girl asked him out and that he declined..
Though I have to admit I would be skeptical as well but if he hasn't cheated on you then he is not like your other realtionships and perhaps you both should sit down and go over these feelings you have before going forward with marriage. Good luck...
2006-07-06 13:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by justme88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont think about other relationships is goin to be hard but u have to kno this is a new one if u trust him then dont worry about it if he said nuttin happened then u have no choice but to believe since u trust him but if u dont trust because he cheated in the past then maybe somethin did happened but an advice dont go on askin him about the incident numerous times because he is gonna get mad and prbly actually does it or feel like u dont trust him
2006-07-06 13:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say your boyfriend was really drunk and you are planning on marrying this guy? Does he do this often? It is time to back off from this relationship and give it a lot more time. If your boyfriend has an alcohol problem, run, don't walk away from this relationship.
2006-07-06 13:25:09 · answer #7 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't been cheated on by him then you need to trust him. He has nothing to do with your past relationships, so he could very well be telling the truth. You have no evidence, so you need to let it go until you have proof. Otherwise I suggest you trust him or he just might cheat on you.
2006-07-06 13:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by blondieinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the fact you've been cheated on in the past is scarring you in this relationship. I think you need to be trusting until proven that he did cheat.. Otherwise, that's no way to live a happy life together, am I right?
2006-07-06 13:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by tommywheelz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that your feelings are right. Your fiancee did not behave appropriately by drinking too much and taking advantage of the girl. The girl is not really to blame. She is just a teenager. You really need to talk with your fiancee face-to-face in order to see how honest he is. His explanations on the phone do not really help much to calm your feelings.
2006-07-06 13:31:44 · answer #10 · answered by metallica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋