I am in a relationship wit a 37 y/o partially deaf man...have known him for 13 years and he has always tried to get with me..i have only thought of him as a friend...until recently,we got involved....he doesnt have much experience in the dating field,and i think i am falling in love with him..i am an aries and he is scorpio,and on somedays i can figure him out and somedays not.ever since he loaned me 200 bucks for my car and i did pay him back, he has acted distant toward me.he moved to my city to be closer to me,he used to come over alot and we would kick it....now i feel if i keep trying to pursue him and be cool with him,i am giving up my dignity...i dont chase...
Point is,,,,should i just wait for him to come to me or leave him alone...
2006-07-06 13:00:42 · 6 answers · asked by bonnyfide2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait for him to come around, and see what happens from there...
2006-07-06 13:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not big on games or guessing what another person is thinking and when i do i'm usually wrong...best approach...communications!!!! Tell him you feel the distance was the lending of the money a factor. It could also just be you..sometimes when we "borrow/need" people we care about... it seems to affect our "independence", if you will. So, insecurities arise all out of our own thoughts...he may have never changed it could've just been you. If the man moved to be closer to you...hello...STOP TRYING to PURSUE and just be the YOU before the money lending. But, know this...love is patient and kind, never prideful or caught up in material things or self. If you love him be smart enough to communicate what you feel before the opportunity leaves..what do you have to lose, pride? who needs that anyway..., but you have everything to gain.
2006-07-06 20:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by me me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him tell him what you are feeling. He will either understand and come around or he won't. If this does not work just tell him you need more out of a relationship and you should just be friends.
2006-07-06 20:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by rascal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would try taking to him . see what has happened between you and him. ask him what has changed and why he is acting so distant tell him that you think your falling in love with him and tell him that if that isnt how he feels then you need to know so you dont let yourself get too involved
2006-07-06 20:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he likes you and relizes you are startin to get feelings for him and it scares him because he's not had alot of experience in with relationships. try talkin to him about it. I don't think it was the loan. cause like you said you paid it back. good luck.
2006-07-06 20:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
games....
I hate games...
If you're interested... let him know. If he doesn't pursue you... you've got your answer.
Dignity is so overrated... especially if you end up ALONE.
2006-07-06 20:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋