Ok I've been dating this guy for a month now and things are.. wierd. ! he doesnt like to kiss or even hold hands in public. He dissapears for weeks, says he's in the "special ops" through the Navy. But yet can't prove it, 'cuz he cant tell anyone where he's going, when he'll be back, or what he's doing. In person we are great together.. but over the phone it seems like he'd rather not talk to me. Like he's bothered. please help!
2006-07-06 12:44:27 · 28 answers · asked by Punky 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie run for the hills! He is either married or a serial killer! Change your number go get tested for sexually transmitted diseases. Then when you are sad ask yourself if he doesn't treat you right and doesn't seem to care about you........Why do you care about him? HURRY AND GET AWAY NOW
2006-07-06 12:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by amber m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he really is in Special Ops w/the Navy then that's true he isn't allowed to tell anyone where he's going, how long he'll be gone or when he'll be back b/c it's all classified. He could get dishonorable discharge if he were to share that info. Like I said, that's if he really is in the Navy. Ask him to show you his Military ID or he should have a Department of Defense sticker on his vehicle. If he won't show you that then I would guess he is lying about being in the Navy. On the phone it might just be that someone is standing near him and he doesn't want to get all "mushy" on the phone. Also, I would ask him if he is ashamed to be seen with you in public and if and when he should ask why, you can say "Because you never hold my hand or kiss me in public as if you ARE ashamed or afraid to be seen with me." Like I said, if he won't show you his military ID or his Department of Defense Sticker on his vehicle then I would definitely re-think your relationship. Best of luck to you!
2006-07-06 19:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by MERILEI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may have a "Bad Guy" instead of a "Good one". A "good guy" doesn't have unreasonable boundaries. This man doesn't make you feel bad by excluding you from meaningful parts of his life, and he doesn't have unreasonable rules about how far he will go in the relationship or how close he will allow you to get. A "good guy" is capable of commitment. This man wants to have a solid, sharing, committed relationship, and he has a lifestyle that reflects his ability to form permanent attachments. If you want to settle down, you would be wise to steer clear of anyone who likes living on the edge. If he can't comfortably and honestly discuss all the aspects of his life you might one to ask yourself why. If you can't find him, lose him. Any man who is diffcult to find is difficult to keep. Some men typically disapear early in the relationship because they are already involved with another woman. This is a fact! If a man disapears on you, the only appropriate reaction is relief that you were saved from getting more involved with a total creep.
2006-07-06 20:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by Ivy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds almost exactly like the behaivor of my ex. We were together off and on for 2 years and he did these exact same things, course I was too "in love" with him not to realize that he would be cheating on me, and when he thought the other girl was better he would dump me, then when things wouldnt work out with her he would come back to me. A few years later he admitted this all to me. If I were you, I would end it now before you get really hurt and confused.
2006-07-06 19:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by just_beju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it could well be that he has someone else besides you. I would say someone more serious/in a relationship, and that he doesn't want to take the risk of getting seen in public with you.
Get to know his friends and see how reacts when he is around them. Friends can tell so much about a person.
Good luck
2006-07-06 19:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jet7263 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not right at all. My b/f always wants affection. Let me tell you hun, this guy is a jerk and a liar! Sorry to say, but I laugh my *** off about the fact he says he's in special ops. Do not beleive this! Kick him to the curb! You will thank yourself in the future.
2006-07-06 19:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by Casey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Test it out... See if you can get him in a fight with the biggest dude in the bar. If he kicks a$$ then it is cool he is telling the truth.
IF not you get to dump him for being a liar and a loser. He should be really easy to dump then. But his wife at home wont be to appreciative.
2006-07-06 20:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by dora_da_1_explora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to break it to ya hun, but he's probably cheating on you. You should talk to him about it and if he is cheating, or even if he isn't, you should break up with him. If he's not comfortable with you in public, he probably doesn't want anyone to know about you, which leads to the fact that he probably has a girlfriend already.
2006-07-06 19:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by RuneWitchSakura1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes in the navy ask to see his uniform if is just a white seamans unifrons with little giligan hat he aint nothing and is just playing you i doubt he is a navy seal usally they go on long missions for special opps and leave well in advance of the opp in question he is probably just playing you
2006-07-06 19:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by abramelin_the_wise_mage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already know the answer. You've listed all sorts of things that make you uncomfortable about this guy. Listen to what you're saying, you're telling yourself the answer.
2006-07-06 19:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Tracy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋