Attention: wifes Do you like your husband being in the Army and why? free child care? free food?

Question

schools? living on post? if living on post are your neighbors nice?

My neice left with her husband in the Army and I am trying to figure out if Army life is good?

Answer 1

I already answered a question of yours similar to this. As others have said, there is no free food or child care.
In the military, you get the same kind of people you do everywhere: Some are ignorant idiots, some are geniuses; some are nice, some aren't.
I have a couple of nice neighbors, and then I also have evil neighbors...like the one who buzzed our doorbell because she could hear my hubby and I having...ummm...alone time. I know it was only because her hubby was deployed and she was jealous, but still.

Answer 2

God, I hate ignorant questions. I don't know why these rumors persist. Nothing in the military is free, there's no free food, day care, schools. Military housing is supposedly "free" but you have to live by base rules. It's not free because you're living in government housing, if you didn't you'd be getting BAH. You don't ever see the money, but you're basically paying the military for the housing. There is no free food, military personnel also pay for that. And most people tend to forget that military also pay taxes, they aren't exempt. I always said the hardest job besides being military was being a military spouse. Most of them are fresh out of high school and are plucked away from the only life they've known to some strange, strict world where there's a rule for everything you can or can't do. Most spouses don't know anyone besides their spouses, don't know the area or what it offers, don't know where to go for help, don't understand what it's like for military and it's not something you can understand unless you've served. So you're in a strange new world, and everytime you talk to your family and friends back home, you get more home sick. The 4 years I was in, I saw a lot of Marines get married, thinking they would make it last. Out of probably a dozen or so, only 1 or 2 were still together when they were done with their first enlistment. Because military spousal life is so hard, there are quite a few divorced older enlisted and even officer ranks. I had 5 different room mates in the barracks and all 5 had kids, were married, or divorced; or a mixture of all three; by the time they got out. It's a hard and lonely world and very few people make it. The ones who say that it's easy lucked out or are lying through their teeth.

Answer 3

See it is people like you that make our lives as military wives so much harder. You think we all live this great life getting free stuff and that it is just great over in the military world. Let me tell you it is not, case in point yesterday I had both a live squirrel and mice come in my base house. Because the house is so old they are able to get in the house and there is nothing I can do about it, now I have mouse traps in the house and by the way I have a 5 year old child running around too. Free food does not exist and the money that we are given does not cover what a family needs to feed them for a month. And well child care that is not free either or I would be happy to have gone back to work or school years ago but I could not because we would have ended up not really getting any income from the job. Ignorant people like you and so many others are the ones that walk around thinking that we have all the money in the world when in reality we are the ones that are trying to figure out how to keep food on the table, gas in the car, and clothes on our backs. We don't take vacations, we don't eat out, we don't get to go to movies because in most cases there is just not money for it. Your question is insulting for all the military spouses who everyday make it work, and even more so for the spouses (like me) who make it with a deployed member because that is when it gets even harder. Do all of those people a favor and the next time you have a question about the military life either enlist or marry a military member don't insult us.

Answer 4

We live on a Army post, the housing is good for the age of the building we are in. But as with any home/dwelling, things go wrong, the AC goes out the faucets leak, and so on. We have a maintenance staff we call and usually in a few days the problem is fixed.

As for free child care, the only time I have ever been offered free child care is if the FRG is having a speaker come to a meeting and we don't need the kids making noise.

We have been military for 5 years and have never been given free food. The kids and I went out of town without my husband and he ate at the chow hall while we were gone, he had to pay for each meal he received.

The schools on post, in my opinion, are much better than civilian schools. They understand if the kids are down cause dad is deployed, if dad comes home for his 2 week R&R they excuse the child so he/she may go on a trip. They understand the military kids better than civilian teachers.

We have some great neighbors. We all hang out together when our husbands are deployed. It is a great support system when the guys are gone.

Hope this helps
GOD BLESS OUR TROOPS

Answer 5

One of the worst questions I've seen and there are some lulu's on this site. Are you nuts!!! Free lodging? Have you ever seen military lodging for families. I don't think they've built anything new since Korea. Child care, by other military wives some of whom are not certified. Free food--did you know that the families do not get free food? No? well they don't and alot of military families are on food stamps because they don't make enough. Oh and if that isn't enough your husband is over seas getting shot at and might die any day now. And even if he's lucky and comes home in one piece, while he's overseas you are alone raising the kids by yourself. I don't know where you get your info but boy are you off.

Answer 6

I am in the Army and there is no free child care or free food for wives. The schools on post are good, living depends on your neighbors and it is usually 50/50 if they are good or not.

Answer 7

How about worrying every day that he may get killed.. My husband did 2 tours in Viet Nam . I dreaded each time the phone rang, I never knew if it might be the Army telling me he was dead or MIA. Grow up this is not a game. Oh and wheres the free food ? Are you serious? You don't get free food as his wife .you go to the commissary and shop and pay for it.

Answer 8

Terry L...the plural of Wife is wives.

The military does not give free food or free day care.

There are schools on military bases but military kids often live off base because there is not enough housing.

People are people, you will have nice neighbors or not so nice neighbors just like anywhere else.

Answer 9

Like the other guy said, no free food, you do have to pay for it and you also pay for child care too. You do get a choice of living on base for free or getting an allowance to live off base. The base housing is getting much better but I still live off base becuase I like the location better.

Answer 10

i used to be an army wife. i chose to stay in state because i did not want to leave my family (trust me, he was a lousy husband) . i never felt like driving 2 hours to the nearest commissary for groceries, they weren't free, just discounted. daycare was free, but it was also 2 hours away at the federal building. did have good medical insurance though. i also had a tax-free membership at SAM'S CLUB.......

Answer 11

There isnt anything free in this world nor in the military world. I am a proud military wife but this life is hard and it isnt for everyone.