how do you feel about state laws making parents responsible for their childs antisocal behavior?

Question

child development

Answer 1

parents should always be responsible for their children until a certain age is achieved. then once the child is old he or she is responsible for certain actions. It is tricky. society is so different, and more babies are having babies.

Answer 2

once the child knows the difference between right and wrong they begin to develop their own personality. i dont believe a parent should be help responsible for their 14yo shooting in school. there are some things parents have no control over. look how many parents have to bury their children because of suicide. if parents are responsible for the actions of their children that turns it from suicide into murder. if a child can keep a parent from knowing their intentions to commit suicide then how likely are the parents to know of any other issues that the child has. kids dont talk to their parents. its been that way for decades. there are exceptions to the rules to a certain extent. such as if the child takes a bat and breaks a car window out of anger... either the child gets arrested or the parents pay to have the window replaced and the child has to go into counseling. either way works because something is being done about it. to only make the parents pay does not teach the child a lesson other than they can do things and not get into trouble for them. parents are not the only factor in a childs antisocial behavior. schools, peers, and surroundings also play big parts along with other minor factors. there are a lot of reasons kids become antisocial and to hold the parents responsible instead of society as a whole is not right.

Answer 3

I think until a child is a certian age that the parents are responcable. But I also think that each one needs to be done on a case by case basis. This law is going to be a double edge sword.

I mean some of these kids that go nuts and kill everyone, are teased at school but have a WONDERFUL non violent home life and some of these other ones are abused both at school and at home (or exposed to a lot of violence) and in the case of the later, I would hold the parents responcable.

But where will the ones held accountable stop? Next will they go after the school system for not helping the situation at school?

I got tease from the time I was in Kindergarden until I graduated and I am now teased on a daily basis by someone at work. School officals did nothing and my managers do nothing. But I had to get an education so I dealt with it. I have to make money so my daughter can have a roof over her head, so I DEAL WITH IT.

My mom ACTED like she cared (about the teasing at school and now at work), but she neglected me emotionally all my life. I was also sexually abused by my uncle and my entire family pretty much calls me a LIER and now he is the GOOD son.

But you know what, I LEARNED TO DEAL WITH IT!!!!

Answer 4

Ya know, you can't possibly know what a parent is going through until you have walked in their shoes. From the outside people can judge and give their opinions, but its not always that easy. Raising children, and especially children with behavior problems, is not black and white. There is no one answer to solve these problems. There should not be state laws making parents responsible. Most of them do the best they can. Sometimes parents just don't know what to do or where to turn for help. And believe me, they DO want help.

Answer 5

Well, I am old fashioned and in my household I state the law. If one of my sons didn't like it, I didn't let the door hit them in the rear. Go start your own household to state law. My oldest received his master's degree a couple of years ago and is working on his doctorate. So someone must have done ok.

The state has no business raising our kids, look at all the problems with kids today. Why, because the state says you can't discipline your kids and they can call the authorities on you.

My brother tried that trick on my mother when those state laws first came out. Ask him about the knot he still has to this day. And the telephone cord wrapped around his neck after he get busted in the head with it. She told him he now had a reason to call. He never did. He was 14 and 6"4 but mom who is 5'11 beat him down. Today he is 36 and still says yes maam.

Answer 6

Sorry everyone (who's answered so far) but I do not agree. Children can be born with a defect that makes them behave in an antisocial way (and can also be responsible for other personality disorders). They may have very loving parents who are wearing themselves out trying to make their child behave.

I believe this because I have five siblings, and some of us behaved well, some did not - we were all raised in the same house by the same people - and treated the same way.

Answer 7

My son is seven and has antisocial behavior already. We have seen specialist after specialist and tried medicine, counseling, psychologists. I have been told that he is bipolar, AD/HD, and has oppositional defiant disorder. Some gave hope; others didn't. There is no bigger fear than knowing that your child may have a nuerological disorder or behavior disorder that you can't correct. Now, this doesn't mean we let him blame his behavior on his diagnosis' by any means. Actually, we are harder on him because we want him to have structure and clearly defined rules with consequence. I would say that as a parent you can give the morals, values, and send them in the right direction but they should always face consequences for their own actions.

Answer 8

If the behavior cannot be proven by an official medical/psychiatric diagnosis, then I think that parents should have some accountability in their children's actions. Parents today are afraid or unwilling to discipline their children consistantly, teach them honest values, or spend time with them, instead relying on tv and video games to entertain. Then they throw their hands up in the air and wonder how their children could have gone so wrong.

Answer 9

I think parents shoul dbe held accountable to an extent. If the parents are getting the right systems in place and truly working to help the child then o.k. just work with them, but the stupid parents that just don't give a crap...for sure should be held responsible

Answer 10

Well, who should be legally responsible? How about children who murder or commit other horrible crimes.Thinks would be a lot different if parents were coerced to keep their children from joining gangs or taking drugs.