why doesnt no one want me? i mean i am in ym 20s , and oh i just dont kw anymore... can i really depend on destiney to find love?
2006-07-06 12:28:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay, after what i'm about to say, i'm pretty sure this gal isn't going to give me the 10 points. but i'm going to be completely truthful.
first of all. the tone i got from your question? it said one word... whiney. just like girls don't like guys who complain all the time, the same is true for guys, we don't like whiney girls. to fix this, you might want to reword what you say or only say it to close friends until you get to know a guy better.
the fact that you are in your 20's mean nothing. all it means is that chronilogically you are young. i have met some people who were mature yet fun for their ages (teens and early 20's)... and others who were in their 50's and were still very much kids at heart. people were drawn to them, not because they were "oh, i need to find someone, or look at me, you should be with me" kind of people. but because they new who they were and what they wanted to do.
lesson to be learned here? stop looking. stop thinking that you'll be happy once you find your perfect guy. go out with friends and have fun. plan the way you can BECAUSE you are single. if you have interests, go and do them (travel, rock climb, go to the beach for all i care... just get out of the house). while you are out and having fun, other people can see you and think, "wow, that's someone i want to get to know." trust me, the guys you want are already trying to have fun and trying to find people doing the activities they are already doing. (which is why most guys who spend all their time in front of the comp wonder why they don't meet girls... they haven't figured out why random beautiful girls don't just walk through the middle of their bedroom/living room/computer room and fall madly in love with them... it's because all the girls they are attracted to are more than likely out of the house, having fun)
i mean seriously... who are YOU going to go for? the guy moping in front of his comp? or the guy who is having fun with his pals out in the city or in the park?
destiny will only take you so far... the rest it leaves up to you. and the more opportunities you give destiny, the more chances it will put in your way.
2006-07-06 12:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by kiss my wookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Destiny isn't going to help ... this is one of those areas where you gotta help yourself.
Put yourself in position to be dated. Work on your grammar, make sure you look your best, smile a lot, and just have fun. It's important to be self-confident, too ... but not cocky.
Then ... go places ... do things ... be willing to meet people ... but don't let yourself get "picked up". Let the guys chase you before you let them catch you.
Make sure whichever guy you let catch you is willing to "share" in a relationship ... and not just take all the time. You have needs, too, honey.
Finally, be patient. Nothing good drops in your lap, and nothing good happens "right now!" It usually takes time. Good luck!
2006-07-06 19:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by Rob R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that there is someone who wants you.......you're just not looking for him hard enough try to pay attention to all the guys...go out somewhere and make some friends and you'll find somebody with whom you'll want to take your relationship to the next level. You can try different dating services is you wanna.
2006-07-06 19:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your first prblem is insecurity and lack of self confidence. If you think there is something wrong with you than there is. You need to be confident in yourself and go out and find someone. Be outgoing and (yes theres that word again) confident. Good luck.
2006-07-06 19:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Destiny is busy right now!
And didnt someone say once that we all make our own destiny?
Dont sweat it Tanya, its better to be alone then with someone who will break your heart.
Just keep your eyes open, I may be standing in line right behind you tomorrow.
2006-07-06 19:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend named Tanya,, I used to take her fishing with me, her long blond hair was constantly getting tangled up in her reel !!! That was the only thing wrong with her ,, Maybe you should find some guy to go fishing with !!!
2006-07-06 19:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by john l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask people you like if they know of someone that would be good for you. Go out on a double date so the pressure is off some. Usually someone you know and like (friend) knows somebody you would like.
2006-07-06 19:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant depend on destiny.....it might have something to do with it......but the only thing i can say is talk to ppl and see if anyone knows anyone...have them set you up on blind dates....i know blind dates *ugh* but it helped me to find the love of my life that i NEVER thought i would EVER find......just get yourself out there more..go out to different places if you like someone who likes sports go to ball games....if you like a cowboy go to rodeos...you get the drift.... good luck it will come!
2006-07-06 19:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by Tara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be you are trying to attract people that aren't attracted to you? Could it be that you are not going to the right places to meet people that are looking for someone like you?
2006-07-06 19:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by Rob K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope some times love dose not come to you but you have to go look for it and some times it might be right in frount of you and you dont know it
2006-07-06 19:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by finnlecarb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋