Me and my boyfriend have a honest relationship. We talk about everything and we are very straight forward. He told me before that this girl at work has a crush on him and she is very attractive which she is. Then other the day he tells me she was grabbing on his crotch. I asked him what did he do he said nothing. I asked y didnt he do anything he said because she can grab all she wants to but it doesn't mean she is going to get whats inside of his pants. So then he told i shouldn't be upset because he loves me and would never cheat on me which he has never done. I mean i guess he is right and he told me about it when he didn't have 2.
2006-07-06 12:18:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Him noticing a girl at work who is very attractive is fine. Allowing her to grab his crotch is sending very bad and open signals to her. What he is really saying is, " I like the idea of you wanting me and I love the contact, maybe one day soon we will take this one step farther." Even in an open and honest relationship some lines must be drawn. It is acceptable to flirt and joke with members of the opposite sex, it crosses the line when physical contact, especially repeatedly, comes into play. If he does respect your wishes to stop this play, there will be troubles down the line. You might not want to break off the relationship, but definitely cool it down, to see his reaction. Someone in love, will be hurt and try their best to win you back, others will take the chance to roam, and you will have your answer. As far as him telling you, it is a classic way to ease any quilty feeling you are suffering, you tell the injured party, get forgiven, and then continue to have fun.
2006-07-06 17:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that he did not have to tell you but what he is allowing this girl to do is wrong for a couple of reasons. One by letting her do this he is allowing another women to touch him in a personal way that only his girlfriend should be allowed to do and the second reason is that this is happening at work. This may be the first step to him cheating on you. If I were you I would try to express why it upsets you when this happens. Use the example that if a guy that had a crush on you was grabbing your breast? Turn it around on him and try to make him understand. If he can't understand then he is not worth your trust or love.
2006-07-06 12:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by rascal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok think about what he said and ask him how would he like it if you told him some guy was gabbin ur boobs or crotch but you didnt stop him because he wasnt gonna get what was in there...That makes no sense trust or no trust let my man tell me some woman grabbed him and he did nothing I would let him know how disrespectful he was being to me and that by allowing it he really doesnt care about your feelings at all...I know it might be hard but leave call his bluff he believes youll stay no matter what....Good luck
2006-07-06 12:26:20 · answer #3 · answered by shell b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He only told you to clear his mind. He did it because he likes the attention. Men can have the best girl / wife at home and still do the cheat. Men have to have the opportunity to mature and use common sense in those instances. How do you know he hasn't cheated? Placing her hand in his crotch? He wants her as much as she wants him. Stay quiet and observe. Check for subtle changes and behavior. Your instinct will never lie to you. Follow it that is why God gave it.
2006-07-06 12:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by Dana M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋