I met this Brit last week, he really intrigued me. I asked him how old he is and he told me he was 21, so I got the message that I should forget about him. But I loved the idea of being with someone like him, no matter how old he was, but i've always gone for people older than me. So for some reason I got off the computer and later that night, I stayed up til about three in the morning thinking about him! He was really in my head the entire day and I kept going on the computer for the whole day of the Fourth of July while a party was going on to see if he had sent me an email or anything. I pictured him with green eyes and black hair and a soft, soothing voice. Exactly the kind of Brit I wanted. He was very sad though and depressed and I kept day dreaming of us both laying in bed, in this huge aprtment in some city with a balcony outside looking at the street. Then I saw a picture of him and that all went down the drain, not that he was ugly, just not exactly what I wanted. We still speak, but I dont think of him as great a person anymore. Am I shallow? Or did I just put him up to be more than he was? Please help me out
2006-07-06 12:09:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should keep an open mind about him. Just because he didn't live up to the ideal you had built up in your head doesn't mean there couldn't be something more there in the future (as you get to know him better). Don't worry, you're certainly not the first person to pass initial judgement on someone by how they look. We all do it...even if we don't admit it.
2006-07-06 12:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't the man you "made up" in your mind so of course it was a disapointment. You spend way too much time day-dreaming. Try to enjoy reality for a change.
2006-07-06 19:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by Dellajoy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not shallow.You very dreaming about perfect guy.Well i guess he's not perfect and that's the reason you don't really like him.You spend alot of time day-dreaming.Try not to do that anymore.Enjoy reality
2006-07-06 19:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first your obviously a child probably 16 or 17 and yes you are shallow and you live in a fantasy world
2006-07-06 19:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the guys fault that he didn't live up to your expectations, but you have to get real, what you were thinking about was a total fantasy.
2006-07-06 19:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by imspookysminx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reality of him didn't match the fantasy that you invented. quite the letdown. doesn't mean u r shallow. we all like to have daydreams, its nice to fantasize!
2006-07-06 19:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by stillatello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the victim of the reality that will always hit after you've set your expectations too high. you're not shallow, you're human.
2006-07-06 19:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by luckyirishgirl2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit expecting so much and you wont be disapointed anymore.
2006-07-06 19:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no a Dreamer
2006-07-06 19:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just created a fantasy.
don't worry it happens..........
2006-07-06 19:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋