my bf's parents hate me because im a young mother..i havnt been to his house in the past 8 months.?

Question

what should i do? i know deep down i need a man who will have his family except me and my baby.. why are italians so stubbrn?? i love this guy but am i wasting my time and getting my 2 yr old attached to his 4 nothing>?

Answer 1

First of all, does this man love you enough that he will turn his back on his own family to be with you and to raise your child?

Second, there are many other men INCLUDING his family that will accept you and your child with open arms.

Don't waste your time with this family...

Answer 2

for starters, have you really, truly given them a chance and are you positive they hate you. I am taking by your question that your child is not his. from personal experience, my daughter is not my biologically my husband's and trust me when we first started dating it was a long road. My daughter was 1 month old and I was 19. I thought that his family hated me, but it was my own fears that made me feel that way, I found out later that they loved me and my daughter to death, i was just too shy and scared from past experiences to let them in, but once i started hanging around more we warmed up to eachother, and the fact that my daughter was not biologically his faded away, they treat her the same as the rest of the children in the family. The most important thing is that you are going to have to put some effort into it yourself, give it time and if you notice that they are not warming up to him then maybe it just was not meant to be, but i do not know anyone that could turn a child away!

Answer 3

Hate is such a strong word hon. Maybe they are just concerned about their son having so much responsibility. It is a huge thing taking care of a child, you know that better than anyone. I don't know how brave you are but I would march right in there and have a talk with them. Tell them not to judge you on your past and that you've learned alot and have grown up alot. Tell them their son isn't going to be taken advantage of. Tell them you don't want him to shoulder all the responsibility just to share it with you. It should be a compliment to them that you see that their son is a good enough man to be a father to your child.

Answer 4

No offense but I don't blame his family at all. You have baggage that a young man (who doesn't have that sort) doesn't need to deal with. He should be worrying about college not being a father to your kid. And besides--you shouldn't be introducing your kid to your BF unless it is a serious relationship. It's your responsibility to make sure the kid doesn't get attached to someone who won't be there for the long haul.

Answer 5

Don't let the parents bother you ok. They will eventually look at you with respect. DO NOT let them know you are regretting anything. If he loves you as much as you love him he has already faced up that you have a kid. And if he is still around forget his parents. They'll eventually come around. His parents are a big deal then tell them look I know I have a child but that shouldn't make you look down on me like I'll live in hell I love my son and maybe you can too!

Answer 6

Why doesn't he stick up for you? It doesn't sound like love to me...more fear of the future. Concentrate on being a good Mom, and fate will send you someone. Don't we always find things when we aren't looking?

Answer 7

honestly it doesnt matter what the family thinks once he accepts you and your baby and if he acts different around you when he is with his family i would tell him and his family f*ck you and to kiss both you and your baby a$$.

Answer 8

i don't blame the parents find another man