2006-07-06 11:36:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay, well here are some details. I have known him for 6 years now and i have been dating him for 10 months. He is a great guy, and we aren't thinking of sex, just touchy feely things. He is really sweet and hasn't done anything to hurt me, but he is the first guy i have ever felt this way with. I love him and we are talking about getting married. I am 17 he is turning 19. it seems like a good thing to do, Now?!
2006-07-06 11:45:47 · update #1
As long as it feels natural, and passionate- as long as their is love between the two of you, I don't see any reason to wait. If you're an adult, and no what you're doing, waiting is just going to be a frustration and it will put a strain on other elements of your relationship.
2006-07-06 11:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey my gf and I are in a very similar position with you and ur bf, but I am 20 and she is 17. And we are still waiting to have sex. We want to try and wait till we are married before our first night. I know its hard but we both feel it will be a good thing and a good example for our children. I would advise you do the same. Hey, I read somewhere that when a boy has sex with a girl he devalues her, now this may not be in all the cases but in most cases. So make sure he genuinely loves you and you alone before starting out. Good luck in your relationship.
2006-07-07 06:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by ciyire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when you fool around it is like you are giving a part of yourself away to each person that you fool around with. When you get married how much of yourself will be left to give? When married, do you want to be jealous of your spouses ex's or he jealous of yours because they got something he didn't -the firsts.
If you have given your first hand-hold, your first kiss, your first time, etc, then what is left to give him? Even if you are engaged, sometimes even fiance's break up, so I personally think it is best to wait until after "I do."
2006-07-06 11:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by rainhider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this century, a meaningful sexual relationship no longer starts with a kiss; it starts with a conversation about protection against sexually transmitted diseases. Ask your partner-to-be to provide adequate information about his sexual history. Insist upon a monogamous relationship. If a man is genuinely interested in establishiping a serious relationship, he will agree to practice safe sex to make certain that no one risks disease; he will beprepared to take a blood test; he will be honest if he has herpes and protect his partner accordingly; he will agree to stay monogamous for the duration of the relationship.If he is reluctant to do any of these, and you are really concern about STDs, then it is smart to exit the relationship.
2006-07-06 11:51:32 · answer #4 · answered by Ivy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are married and in a committed relationship.fooling around has many consequences you may not be ready to deal with BUT will have no choice but to deal..fooling around is common..are you? what are the benefits. an unknown feeling(may not be the one you expect)diseases,pregnancy,reputation,etc. why do it because everyone else is? common again..if you do not like fooling around you cannot take back the act,it is a done deal.once you mess around...you are on your own
2006-07-06 11:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by restored 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 days is the most i will allow usally more like 30 minnutes to a couple of hours but i am a old pimp so for you only you can tell
2006-07-06 11:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by abramelin_the_wise_mage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on how long you known this person,if it's somebody i just met i would wait for about two months if it's somebody i've known for a while,when it felt right
2006-07-06 11:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by BIG MOMMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least four drinks..... unless they are really strong.... then you can fool around after two.
2006-07-06 11:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by BrownTown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
till your at least 21 sorry
2006-07-06 11:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should fool around whenever it feels right...
Dont do it because you are forced into it...
Do it because you feel it...
2006-07-06 11:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by kristijay99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋