I got in a big fight with my brother, help! Police came.?

Question

Hi I just got in a big fight with my brother. It was because he was mad I moved his DVDs a couple days ago, and was angry that I "can move his stuff" but he cant touch my stuff. He started challenging me to fight him, I was mad and a the other side of the kitchen and I threw a box at him, then a bag of rice, and then he came at me trying to choke me and punch me and my mom was in the middle trying to stop us and he broke the closet door. He is much stronger than me, so I had no chance if my mom wasn't there. I have red marks on my neck and arms and I called 911, the police came and I played down what happened so he wouldn't go to jail. They just talked to him and he was crying like a baby and they left. What should I do now, I am tired of this crap, he is 21 with no job or school and I am 20.

I just looked at my back in the mirror and I have bruses and scratches and blood bruises.

Answer 1

See a family counselor or get your own place.

You've gotten a lot of answers, but I wanted to add something.

I saw a news report of a mother in court, trying to get the judge to go easy on one of her sons who had killed the other. She looked like she was broken and dying inside.

Your mom probably has bruises now. She is probably broken a little bit inside, and she probably died a little bit too.

DON'T EVER LET THIS HAPPEN AGAIN. Walk out, bite your tongue, do whatever it takes, but don't let it happen. She doesn't deserve it. I don't care who did or said what, don't let it happen. At the very least, take it out of her house.

Answer 2

Well, why did you move his stuff in the first place? Did you ask him if you could move it?

To avoid any more further fights...just don't touch each others stuff. Respect each others belongs and always ask. You guys are brothers.....brothers for life and you shouldn't be fighting like that, but helping each other!

There maybe some things your brother is going through that you don't know about. Wouldn't it just kill you if you woke up one day and he's gone or dead and you'll wish you would have talked to him or hung out with him....and that goes for him too!
You "young men" aren't teenagers or children anymore. Start acting responsible and be the young men that you are.
Life is too short to fight with family! You two can become very close brothers...so stop fighting and let him know that your sorry for moving his DVD's, and that you should of asked....then give him a dap dap (ya know the hand/fist thing guys do). :-)

Answer 3

I think that when you are both thinking rationally again, you should go to him and apologize for your part in the argument. Tell him it was really stupid of both of you to fight like that over such a small issue. I would point out that you are supposed to be family and family should be understanding and there for each other, not attacking each other. I would also suggest you both apologize to your poor Mom, who must be so terribly stressed over this... You'll put her in an early grave as well as yourselves if you keep it up! Perhaps you could agree on a truce? Agree to be more tolerant of each other and discuss disagreements properly instead of flying off the handle in future? For the sake of your family. It's all up to you and your brother, but I can tell you one thing for sure. It will make life a lot more pleasant for all if you learn to get along. Who knows? You may even get to like each other if you give each other a chance!

Answer 4

Well i think it's about time you both move out on your own. When you get older do you think it is fare for your mom/dad to support you both for the rest of your life? He needs to grow up and find a job..and your mom will have a break down before long if you both are not on your own. Find a friend who works and talk about finding a place to live where you can share the payments..this would do you both good..you have your own life and no troubles..thats if you work..?

Answer 5

Try talking to him. You could tell him that it was your fault. I'm not poking fingers, but saying it only helps. You can tell him that two young adults thrashing one another is littel more than immaturity. You should apologize to him. DON'T tell him to apologize. Say that you were stupid and were a jerk. You could have mom talk to him to cool him down. In fact, that might be better. From my own experience, when two people fight, an intermediary greatly helps. Good luck. Don't worry, siblings always fight. Simply don't let it happen again.

Answer 6

You could always press charges. Go to the police station and file a report and tell them that when the officers same out, they would not do it for you. When is he going to get a life and move out from your moms house? She has probably babied him and now the will sponge off her as long as he can. If you are able, I'd move myself. Do you have a place to go for awhile?

Answer 7

Oh man! all these touchy feely answers! Forget all of them. You're brothers, you will fight. Then you'll get over it.
I have 2 brothers. The older one used to beat me up all the time for stuff more stupid than that. So you know what I did? I beat up my little brother. haha. Seriously, it's just the way things are with siblings. Now that we're older, we get along great.

Answer 8

fighting is not the answer. what does that really solve? that one of you can kick the other's ***? that is so childish to fight. what you need to do is be the bigger man and tell him how you feel. violence does not solve anything but only creates a bigger problem. be a man and tell him that you both need to stop being so silly. and on the contrary, he was right. if he cannot touch your stuff, then why should you be able to touch his? how would you like it if it were the other way around?

Answer 9

Wow, until I got to the end I was going to guess 10 or 11. You both were behaving like little brats. You both need to learn to settle disagreements with out violence. Move out of mom's trailer, get your own place and deal with life.

Answer 10

OK...well that was kind of a stupid fight. fighting over something that has no meaning at all you guys are immature. over some DVDs all this **** happens? your broke the door, he tried too chock you, you threw rice at him and then a box, and after that the police came? what the hell is this world coming too?