guys and gals i need your help!!! please give advice or opinions...?

Question

My bf is a teacher and that is how we met. He is also a massage therapist. im just really worried and frustrated for the fact that all his female students give him a lot of attention. and he gives it back to them. one time he massaged this female in front of me, what the heck? how was i suppossed to react to that. one female student has a test for massage and she asked my bf if she can test her massage on him, my bf is open to me and tells me things all the time, i just cant seem to handle it. can he be truely trusted? should i be worried?? am i over reacting? my ex boyfriend was not like this at all. my current bf now is very giving and interacts with mostly females and it kills me, please post some comments, i need help with this one!!!! THANK YOU...

Answer 1

your over reacting
if hes tellin you obviously hes not doin anything

Answer 2

Well, this is an interesting topic. But the overall situation is that you are not comfortable with this situation. You should have a talk with your bf and just straight up tell him how you feel. Since you are in a relationship, you would at least like it to last. So you should openly share what you think as well. If he is acting like this and is telling you about it, he probably enjoys it. This definitely is not a good sign. What if in the future if you do have a stronger relationship together, he may likely do that to you if something doesnt work out between the two of you. Or maybe he is doing it because he has not been given the amount of attention? I think that you two need to talk it through and you need to tell him how you are feeling about his behavior if you want this relationship to last. hope i have helped.

Answer 3

One mistake we make is,we compare other people.Donot base your relationship with your ex-boyfriend.They are 2 different people.You met him as a teacher and a massage therapist.You knew something about massage therapist.What you should do is ask questions about massage therapist.Tell him how you feel about his job as a massage therapist.Both of you need to set some type of guideline so his job want be at risk or your relationship end.That type of job women is going to give him attention,but he need to shut it down out respect for you.It was good you saw that lady massage him.You needed to know what goes on and can you stay in that relationship knowing what his job is.His job is not the only one attract women:bus driver,police office,boss,fire fighter,doctor,lawyer and the list goes on.The question you need to ask yourself can you make your relationship work knowing what he do.I can't tell you no or yes.That have to be your call.I hope this help.

Answer 4

overreacting...its his job 2 give ppl massages n if ur worried wit him givin another girl massages in front of u how do u feel when he does it behind closed doors...but neways ur right 2 be worried but dont kill urself over it i mean it is his job its what he does n he pry figures since he has 2 do it he should try enjoy it as much as possible....if it worries u 2 much id say u should talk 2 him tell him that it kinda upsets u...but as long as he keeps it professional for the most part u shouldnt be 2 worried if he starts makin like special 101 classes wit female students thats when a red flag should go up but as of right now id say ur reacting a lil bit 2 much best of luck in the future

Answer 5

It sounds like he has an overly friendly personality, & it could be innocent. But if it was me, I'd feel the same way. In fact, I would go ballistic. All u can do is talk to him about this behavior (CALMLY & RATIONALLY, no yelling), if he gets overly defensive or refuses to work on it, u should probably leave him. It's going to be hard to have a healthy relationship with him if u can't trust him. You will be stressed all the time which will lead to a lot of arguing.

Answer 6

You should talk to him about it. It takes two to make a relationship work. I also think you have a say so in this relationship to tell him it bothers you. Maybe he'll see it from a different perspective and consider things. Tell him exactly how you expressed yourself here. If he cares, he'll stop. If he doesn't, you have two main options: dump him or live with it.

Answer 7

In any relationship, communication is most important. Sit down with him somewhere private (no interruptions) and tell him how you feel and TALK to him about it. Dont accuse, scream, yell, or cry.......talk in a calm manner and let him know how you feel. If you calmly talk to him, he should calmly talk to you. In my opinion, if he gets defensive about it, he is probably hiding something. Just work through it

Answer 8

yea it sucks your boyfriend is probaly ok just tell him in a nice way you are jealous he will probaly think it is cute and then try to be more sensitive.my bf has a lot of friends who are female so i know how ya feel

Answer 9

gosh.. that's too awful.. well I think you better put your jealously down ... and talk to him.. if you want this matter to be done tell him what you really felt.. you can't blame him to massage a girl because it's part of his job.. if you feel that he betrays you.. you better loosen youir hold to him and better find a man..

Answer 10

hes a male we all love women or at least most men do but if hes a massage therapist theres really nothing you can do bout that its his profession and obviously he enjoys it. if hes open to you bout wat goes on with massaging other women then there shouldnt really b a problem hes just being honest with you miss talk to him bout it and see wat he thinks and try to get through this without any b.s

Answer 11

talk to him about it.. if he says that you are overreacting, tell him that you are acting this way because of what happen to you in the past. Im sure he will understand and make amends.