Sumtimes i jus t scratch his back hard hoping i will orgasm.Moreover it makes me mad when he seeems comforted and im not after sex.So does this happen to a lot of women or is it only me?
2006-07-06 11:24:52 · 7 answers · asked by Nancy D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try touching yourself during sexual activity. Most woman will get a little added pleasure by touching herself and may reach the point of no return this way. If that doesn't work don't be afraid to try new positions, places, or even role playing. Sometimes trying something new is just what you need to put the spark back in your love life.
2006-07-06 12:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to a lot of young women. Most women don't enjoy sex until they are a little older. Their sexual peek is older than mens'. You actually remind me of myself. When I was younger I felt the same way and did similar things. You should try to get to know your body better. Find out what makes you feel good and how you like to be touched.
Try different things for example: different positions, using props, using foreplay, s & m, oral sex...
Then when you are having sex you can guide your partner, so you both are getting satisfied. What got me to finally enjoy sex and orgasm was first be in good terms with the partner (emotional) and doing it slow helps... then as the female gets more into it.. speed up or stop and do some foreplay.. so the guy can last longer... It might help if you are on top so you can take control.
2006-07-06 18:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by Nutty Butter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you know how all those relationship articles talk about how the key to a good relationship is communication?
This is what they're talking about.
You need to let him know what you like so he will know to do it more. And you need to let him know in a way that makes him want to do it more.
For example, slapping him upside the head and saying "You NEVER get me off, you creep!" is probably not going to get you what you're after (unless what you're really after is another boyfriend, of course).
Instead, try telling him how excited you get when he (pick something he does that you like), or how hot it makes you when he (something else). Then while he is doing that, let him know you like it.
You write that you "often" don't get satisfied in bed -- does this mean that you sometimes do? If so, it's a little easier for you. Remember what was going on when you DO get satisfied and work on doing more of that. (If you never get satisfied, you're going to have to get him to experiment more to find out what you like, and then to make sure it's something that works for him, too.)
And... most guys LOVE being told when they're giving the greatest pleasure to their women, it's a big turn-on and tends to get the guy very excited as well. (That's certainly been MY experience.)
However, you've got to bear two things in mind. One is that some guys need to feel that they're in charge, and if you're constantly saying "harder, now slower, now a little to the left, now shift your weight over here, now can you do it with a sort of twist at the end," it can make them think they're being ordered around. While there are guys who like that, there are also guys who will feel threatened by it. Pay attention to whether this is going on with your man. The object is to develop a relationship that satisfies both of you -- not to turn either of you into a slave.
And the other thing to keep in mind is that what works REALLY well for you on Thursday may not work the same on Saturday. (True for guys as well as gals.) This can be hard for guys to understand -- "but honey, last week you LOVED the whipped cream and clothespins!" For that matter, what works really well at 9:26 PM on Thursday may not work the same at 9:33 PM on Thursday; it can take a while to realize that doing the exact same thing to the exact same spot can make that spot go numb, which is NOT what you want. And finally, some guys (I've been guilty of this) get it in their heads that "she likes it when I do this," and that's ALL THEY DO. Truth is, sometimes what felt good last time doesn't work this time, but it may still work NEXT time.
So it's all about communicating in the moment, being open-minded, and being balanced. And, as I said, it's about building a relationship where you can please each other.
Oh, and one other thing. If you're not satisfied by the time he's finished, but you're ALMOST satisfied -- like, you think that with another 20 seconds you could go over the waterfall -- look him in the eyes, tell him "I'm not done with you," roll him onto his back and climb on. Do whatever it takes for you to climax -- most guys stay at least partially erect for a couple of minutes after they finish (for me, I find that when I have a really mind-blowing orgasm I can stay hard enough to cut glass for two or three minutes). If he doesn't, at least not this time, then place yourself on him in such a way that you can rub your clitoris against him till you finish.
If this freaks him out (I can't imagine it, but still), then when you're finished just hold him close and whisper into his ear that he is SO sexy and SUCH a stud that he can make you come even when he's not hard.
Whew. Gets me all jittery just THINKING about it... enjoy yourself!
2006-07-06 19:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Scott F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you frustrated alright. You want it too bad. And to be honest this has never happened to me not saying anythings wrong with that but you'll have to solve that problem somehow because you make it seem like a must when it's not. It's suppose to be pleasing for both people but your not in it cause you want more than satisfaction as it seems.
2006-07-06 18:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes alot more for a woman to reach that point then it does a man. We need foreplay and men just need any kind of touch. So it's not uncommon for a woman to be like that. Try getting a very quiet toy and when you go to the bathroom after sex please yourself.
2006-07-06 18:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya complainin' 'bout never gettin' satisfied in bed? Well - Hell - I don't get none...NOW stop your complainin' and just B - Happy!!!
2006-07-06 18:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by PinkKitt'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look men donot have the patience or knowledge to make you *** every time so either tell him how u want or go to the porn store and do it your self.
2006-07-06 18:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋