ok theres this girl, i really really like her, we went to 2 proms together.. but... she is my best girl - friend! i dont know where i would be without her! i want to know if she likes me back, i need to be totally sure before i say anything! she has a low self esteem and doesnt think she is good looking (she is - very!!) i often tell her she is beutiful but she just laughs it off as if its a joke! she always tells me how i would make a good boyfriend for some of her friends and she tells me how any girl would kill for me.. but nothing ever happens between us! please help!
2006-07-06 11:18:59 · 31 answers · asked by Steve P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She sounds great ... and so do you!
The next time you're together with her and she mentions that you'd make a "good boyfriend" for one of her friends ... turn to her and ask ... "Would I be a good boyfriend for you?"
If she says something along the lines of, "Don't be silly! You're my friend!" ... just tell her that you've thought long and hard about it and can't think of a better foundation for a relationship than the wonderful friendship you have.
I think the two of you can really make a great couple. Take the plunge, my friend ... she might have been waiting for you for quite a while!
2006-07-06 11:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
If she's trying to hook you up with her friends, she wants you. As far as the "need to be sure before i say anything" goes, she probably feels exactly the same, and she's actually waiting for you to make a move, so come on get up and go get her. O yeah, don't worry about the thing that she laughs of your compliments, most girls do, because the media made it clear that were no match against al the beautiful celebrity babes, unless you get a lipo or boob job or nose job or what the hell more. Anyway, just tell her, i think you'll be pleasantly surprised at the outcome!!!
2006-07-07 09:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by lucky luke sidekick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she likes you more than a friend, If she has low self esteem than maybe she is to scared to face rejection.. theres always reasonable ways to tell someone your already close to that you like them more. Next time you tell her she is beautiful and she laughs really look at her eye to eye and say "I am dead serious, you are." Dont throw to many hints or she might get annoyed but doing little things like that will give her the idea.
2006-07-06 18:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie Deane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been to 2 proms already...you are good friends...if she thinks any girl would kill to have you for a boyfriend, she like you!
You say she has low self esteem- (I understand, because I always did, too) Just spend time with her. Take her out, pay attention to her. (but make sure you are sincere) She is probably afraid that if she lets her true feelings for you out, you might end up hurting her, so she feels it is better to remain friends.
Let me say, also, that if she is trying to hook you up with her friends, don't do it! TRUST ME, that would also hurt her.
2006-07-06 18:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by tweetymay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great relationships sometimes start as Friendships. Ask her out to dinner and a movie. If things go well tell her you should do it more often. She probably allready has feelings for yah but she's feeling the same way you are. Step up it might be the Best step you ever took. Good Luck
2006-07-06 18:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell her...if you are too worried to tell her, do something out of the ordinary for her...buy her flowers, or a sweet card to show her that your feelings go further than friendship and see if she picks up on it. From the sounds of it, she probably likes you too. If she has low self esteem, she may be afraid to tell you how she feels about you because she doesn't want to be rejected. You will never know unless you take that first step.
2006-07-06 18:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by sosassy70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad news, dude...sounds like you have a handicap, maybe your fat or you look like you been hit by a truck, I dont know.
But something kept you from getting any other girl in all that time and that same thing keeps her on distance to you!
But she would NEVER seriously consider to hook up with you!
Thats why she laughs when you tell her she is good looking.
The other thing: She thinks good of her friends, meaning she feels her friends are good people.
So thats why she tells you that you would be a good guy for her friends - they wont look down on your handicap like she does.
Also she tries to build up your selfasteem, she feels a person like you must be in despair and needs moral support, so she says things to build you up.
So that explains why nothing happens between you and her, its not that hard to figure out, why cant you take a hint???
2006-07-06 18:33:20 · answer #7 · answered by ganja_claus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been though this before me and this guy where two peas in a pod i mean we did everything together and i was like inlove with him but i wasnt sure if he was inlove with me so do u know what i did i went up to him and started a converstion and was like will i like this guy and i dont know if he likes me or not" he was like ok" i said if u liked me what would be some actions u would show me u know he said i would joke with u all the time tell u i know someone that likes u and i would be like who and he would say nothing then he asked who is it that u like and everything that he had said is what he does to me all the time and i was like i love u so much and it turned out that he loved me to so we dated for a long time and we still r so what i would do is go up to her and say that u like someone and ask her what r some actions that she would do to u if she liked u and if what she says is what she does to u then she loves u man i dont know if it will work on u but i hope it does i know how u feel. good luck!
2006-07-06 18:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just tell her my feelings. and if she just rejected me, yeah it would be hard but at least she would know it also helps to show her or do something really special for her something that would really mean something to her. even if it is telling her she is beautiful everyday. girls like comments even if they laugh at what you say or dont believe you. just dont break her heart in the long run, that could make her feel worse. especially if she has been broken hearted before. i'm sure you a nice good looking guy, and this girl would be stupid to let something that could be great slip away. good luck and God bless you and that lucky girl.
2006-07-06 18:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by SofiaS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just spit it... lol... are you waiting some other tells her what you want to say. The only way you can know is just telling her, being careful, just that she likes you.
Sometimes guys take time and never talk, some others feel that they could be rejected, because the girl is in a highest level for his expectations.
2006-07-07 02:06:07 · answer #10 · answered by marisa e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋