I am going to Bolivar, New York on tuesday and won't b back till August 9th. I love and trust him but I'm just freaking out cuz my last b/f cheated on me when i was out of town. How do i make sure he isn't. It would just b easier if i could bring him w/ me, but i can't so now i don't WHAT to do!!! HELP!!!!!!!
2006-07-06 11:05:29 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
has he ever cheated on you or any of his past lovers? that makes all the difference in the world. i would recommend that you trust him. you'll only cause pain and strain on your relationship by constantly worrying that something bad'll happen between the two of you. if that's too hard to do, maybe you need some healing time where you're not in a relationship.
2006-07-06 11:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by Benjamin B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going away for awhile, enjoy yourself.
Don't worry about if he is going to cheat, because there is nothing you can do about it. Why would you want to keep him, if you can't trust him not to. I understand your last boyfriend cheated, but they aren't the same person. Has he given you any reason for worrying. If so then, maybe you should look for someone in New York while you are there. Trust him till he gives you reason not to. Don't judge him for your ex's past mistakes. Or, he may decide it's not worth the effort to keep on reassuring you that he's not playing. So, trust till you can't, to make it work.
Have fun!
2006-07-06 11:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally feel u girl.. but sadly, the truth is, there's nothing we can do because we wont be here with them so what can we do? if this guy wants to cheat then he will cheat regardless so we just have to face the reality if he really does.. if he does then that means he doesnt truly love u, since u trust him then just give him a chance but make sure u have a idea whats going on over here while u're away. be prepare.. if he cheats then u should just leave him.. kuz once the trust is gone, the love will soon be gone!
2006-07-06 11:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by Jade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the insecurity he is not your last boyfriend. Why be in a relationship if you can't trust someone that is no fun. I have a friend that can't go out because his girlfriend won't let him. He kissed a girl wasted before they were officially dating. Every time he tries to go out they fight resulting in unhappiness. People are going to do what they want when they want to but if he truly cares about there should be nothing to worry about. Play it cool and watch it unfold. You will drive your BF to the limit and he will leave you so don't play the insecure card. Have a good one
2006-07-06 11:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by RAPPINGROBO90 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really trust him, then trust that he won't cheat on you. Just because your last boyfriend cheated on you doesn't mean that this one is going to. I understand how hard it is to trust someone when your trust has been broken before. Trust is easy to lose but hard to gain. If you guys make it through this, you will be a much stronger couple. Good luck!
2006-07-06 11:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is you can't. The only person you're able to control in this life is yourself. Now, hopefully, your boyfriend cares & respects you enough not to run around on you, but in the event that he does cheat, wouldn't you rather know about it sooner rather than later, say after you married or committed yourself to him? There are too many people in this world looking for a good person to share their lives with not to be able to find someone else should this not work out.
2006-07-06 11:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by kibbie01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has not given you any reason to believe he would cheat - don't compare him to your ex. For one thing, he might be wondering if you'll be cheating on him while you're away (he could have had a bad experience too).
If there is a way for him to go with you - use it. Are you at least planning to keep in touch by phone and/or email/messenger while apart?
Have faith, and hope that this guy cares enough not to do anything that would hurt you.
2006-07-06 11:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't. sorry i know u wanted something foolproof, but the reality is if he is going to cheat then he just will. even if you dont go out of town. i've had it happened to me and ruined relationships worrying that a new b/f will cheat. i didnt want him even hanging out with the guys cause guys are pigs (most of them anyway). they will dare each other to do the stupidest things, even if they know he is in a relationship with someone or they will try to set each other up. just talk to him and have some trust. after all you're going out of town and how does he know he can trust you.
2006-07-06 11:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him emails often. call him. tell him you love him and mean it. you have to trust him in order for your relationship to work. just because your last boyfriend cheated on you does not mean all guys are the same! talk to him about what you're feeling. tell him how you feel but dont hurt him by making him think that you dont trust him...but be firm at the same time because you dont want to make him think you were joking. if you're really worried about this, make a time every day when you two can talk! you have to talk to him as much as possible because if you talk,you'll be more likely to have a good relationship. things like not talking and telling him he cant talk to other girls can really ruin a relationship. boys will be boys...let him act like who he is! if he loves you, you're already his everything and he wont have to make you his everything because you dont want him to cheat!! hope this helps!!
2006-07-06 11:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't Judge every guy by the way your last BF treated you. If you don't get some trust soon your in for relationship troubles for ever. Trust UNTIL they give you reason not 2 trust.
2006-07-06 11:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋