help!!!!!!
2006-07-06 10:54:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Never a good idea to ask *other* peopole how *you* should feel. You see where this goes wrong, don't you? No one can tell you this.
2006-07-06 10:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by The Resurrectionist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, normally I would say congrats, but I am ot sure just what to say. I am sorry that you and your family is going through this difficult time. I will pray that God will see the baby through. I have just sadi a prayer, and I hope that all turns out well.Although you want the baby, what ever is best for your mom, is what needs to be done. Do you want to loose this baby, and have another chane, or loose your mom? Don't get to attatched, and don't let her either. Some friends of mine mothers lost there baby,and they grieved a lot. Just be there to support her. If you have any other younger brother/sisters, don't talk about the baby not surviving much to them. It could cause them to be scared, and it would put more stress on your momnd as little stress as possible would probably help. Don't be too emotional about it in front of her. If she opens up, you keep a back bone, which can be hard, but, God will do what is best for all of you. I hope that all works out and that the baby is healthy. Take care of your mom and may God Bless.
2006-07-06 18:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by vmbbfreak06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very serious and important time for your family; even though your new brother or sister hasn't been born (and may not be), your parents already think of him or her as one of their children.
So this is a very important time for you, too, because there are many ways you can act -- but your parents will be sensitive and upset if the baby does not survive, and so it's possible that they'll be sad and moody and impatient no matter how you act.
That's because this situation has nothing whatsoever to do with you.
So you go ahead and feel however you feel; you might feel sad, or angry, or you might not feel anything -- if you're young enough, you might not have developed the types of emotions necessary to deal with this sort of thing.
Whatever the case, feel however you feel -- but when you talk to your parents, give them lots of hugs, tell them that you're sorry, and make this the time that you avoid being selfish, or throwing tantrums, or being difficult -- the best thing you can do for your parents is love them, and remember that you're lucky enough to be there, alive, healthy, and loved.
2006-07-06 18:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few things you have to realise first no-one can tell you what to feel or think. Just remember this is going to be really hard on your mum. You'll have to be really supportive and for a while you'll feel like your walking on egg shells, but things will change over time. Just help your mum grieve if the worst happens and celebrate if the best happens!
2006-07-06 20:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be 100% supportive and help out to improve her chances. Stay positive since there's a chance it "may" survive. If things don't go well, then deal with it as a family. It will be every ones joy or every one's loss. They key here is to stay close and mutually supportive. This is where love takes over. Follow your heart.
2006-07-06 18:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my niece was pregnant with her last baby (after doctors did some tests), they said the baby would have down-syndrome & gave her the option to abort... they said he probably wouldn't even live to be a year old, anyway. She told them, "No, how it comes out is in God's hands."
He was born with down-syndrome... & is now 7 years old.
If the baby doesn't survive, just remember that it's ok to allow yourself to grieve (cry & be sad) ...& it's ok to feel good in knowing that the baby will be at peace, in heaven.
You're all in our sincere prayers.
2006-07-06 18:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a bad sign. u just asked ppl how u should feel. yikes. but i do feel sympathetic, i happend to my big bro. and his wife. all you can do is pray and hope. if your hope is strong enough maybe the baby will survive. but im not going to lie. life is not a fairy tail with happy endings. just no that when a storm comes the sky always looks even more beautiful when it goes away.
2006-07-06 18:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try your best to be supportive to your mother. I know it will be hard on you, but it is going to be extremely hard on your mom if the baby doesn't make it. Try to stay positive. One of the best ways to look at it is that no matter what happens it is meant to be. I hope that all goes well!! Good luck!
2006-07-06 17:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by rebelwitch80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is the time for you to support her. Just give her support when she ask for it and also help her at home or whatever that do not make her feel tired or that will put her in danger of loosing the baby. have nice gestures with her.
2006-07-06 18:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by confuse06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most importantly, don't panic. Support your mother, let her know that everything is going to be fine. Be there to support her and be careful not to say anything about the baby until she is ready to talk about it. You guys will get through this.
2006-07-06 17:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Namie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should pray first. then try to be as understanding and supportive as you can be. remember that its your mom that has to go through this ordeal is she will be very emotional, so some things she may do or say may seem hurtful or out of place, just remember that she loves you and needs you to help her make it through this
2006-07-06 18:02:27 · answer #11 · answered by zmacwt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋