Divorced parents.....mommy spends all her time with new boyfriend.....daddy is never in one place for more than a week...the kids want us to go to court and get custody......should we?
2006-07-06 10:52:52 · 9 answers · asked by ilovebsbl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Going straight to court is a little extreme. Depending on how long the parents have been divorced and separated, it might be better to first intervene on a relational level - communicate with the parents. See if something can't be resolved on that plane, first. If things don't change, that may be the time to step in and begin the process for legal guardianship or what have you.
2006-07-06 10:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by Benjamin B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong at all, because in the end it will be the grandchildren to thank you and appreciate what you did for them. It is showing that you love them and by stepping in to help raise the kids will also help make the parents realize that they are missing out a special part of life! But if I were you I would I would definately go to court cause it is obvious that those kids are being neglected and they want someone to be there with them and that someone is you two and those kids love you and want you to step in for there parents cause they see that you guys are in a stable relationship and can make time for them! Good Luck!
2006-07-06 18:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) How old are the kids? 2) How old are you? 3) Is the mommy or daddy your child? 4) What type of relationship do you have with your child and how do they feel about you taking custody of their children? 5) Have you talked to a counselor or pastor to talk any problems/questions through? 6) Do you have the finances to take on more kids? 7) How is your health and your spouses? The questions go on and on. I understand you want stability for the grandchildren and you love them. You and only you can decide if you can take on the responsibility and you have many soul searching hours ahead of you. My thoughts are with you!
2006-07-06 18:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're willing to take custody of these children, and they want you to have custody of them, it would be wonderful for you take them on.
However, you should talk to their mother and father first. Let them know that the kids have approached you about this, and that while you love them and are happy to have custody, you don't want to take them away. Then offer to have them spend more time with you, perhaps for days or weeks at a time. It doesn't have to be official custody at this point; simply make yourselves available as full-time babysitters for a while.
If the situation works out, their parents might say "you know what? okay, let's make this official" -- and if it doesn't work out (for the kids, for you, for the parents, whatever) everything just goes back to the way it was.
2006-07-06 18:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try other options first before you do court and end up with everyone fighting and hating each other and making the kids even more miserable. Spend equal time with mom & dad and see if you can find a solution. Maybe counseling too with all of you. I think it's a messy situation whatever you do.
2006-07-06 17:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by cindyspiderucla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you. If you feel you can take on this large of a situation and the kids want you too, I'd go for it. I don't know how far you will get, but you could check it out..
2006-07-06 18:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the state you live in. We couldn't get our grandkids because we don't have any rights in our state. Mom is a drug addict and Dad was out of the picture. It took us several years for CPS to step in and help our little ones. Then we had to find their father and get his permission to get them. He stepped up and did all that was required of him and got them just a few weeks ago. In the mean time we had them for several months.Thank goodness we had a happy ending...Good luck to you, hope your state gives you Grandparent rights...
2006-07-06 18:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to court and get it, the kids are old enough to know what they want if they asked you to do it
2006-07-06 18:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by shortymama006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unlikely you'll get it unless you have the mothers endorsement.
2006-07-06 17:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋