She is my twin sister and my only sister!?

Question

I am a twin, mother of 3 and single. My twin sister is single and gay. She has no children. I have pretty much helped he through school, scaraficing for her, helping purchase her a car, gas, insurance and any other speniding money she had needed. She has now graduated and has taken a job across the country with her girlfriend. I called her because i was in a fiancial bind and really needed some help. When i asked her for $$$. She decided to tell me that her girlfriend and her are purchasing a new truck and then they were going to Cancun. I hung up the phone. I was upset that she thought that was more important then helping me, thinking back on why the reason i am in a bind is because i did so much for her fiancially. Am I wrong for feeling like i dont matter to her. She pretty much said F**k you. That is how i feel and i am angry as hell. She can NEVER EVER call me for another damn thing, no matter what it is. Do i have reason for being angry.

Answer 1

Yes but you forget the cardinal rule if you lend a family member money you can pretty much kiss it goodbye. Its hard to say no to family members but I am finding it easier, I have found myself in the situation that you are in. I always help my family but when I am in need there are no volunteers to lend me a hand. It is terrible in your case that she is your only sister you have a very good reason for being angry but don't stop talking to her. It will come around that she will need help again and then you can tell her about your upcoming vacation.

Answer 2

Just because she's your twin doesn't mean she's the same kind of person you are. You might have more in common with another sibling, or a distance relative, or someone not related to you. In short, just because you're a twin doesn't mean you're the same people.

So don't be angry because "your twin" didn't reciprocate in giving you assistance after you've given her so much assistance. Instead, be angry because SHE (just as a person, a sibling and a friend) treated you this way.

The anger is appropriate; don't do anything rash while you're angry. Once you're on a more even keel, simply make the decision to never loan her money again. If she ever comes to you for assistance, say "[her name], I helped you buy a car, I helped you pay for gas and insurance, I gave you spending money, and when the time came that I needed you, you blew me off. You're my sister, and I love you, but I don't like the kind of person you've become, and I'm certainly not going to loan you money. Let me know when you feel like treating people the way that you insist on being treated."

Good luck, and remember: you don't have to have your twin around to be a whole person.

Answer 3

I definitely would be angry. I'm planning on going to medical school and for years I've remembered who has helped me out financially and emotionally, and those are the people that I will help if needed. If she's a lesbian, as stated, I'm pretty sure she isn't Christian, or just doesn't show it. If that is so, I would just back off and let her live her own life. Look to God and he will carry you.

Answer 4

Yes, you should be angry. She is selfish and self-centered, and undoubtedly being influenced to shirk responsibility.

Don't ever loan money to family or friends without a written agreement. It works, really. Even if you don't get paid you have the satisfaction of knowing they broke the contract....verbally you have nothing.

My family is very old fashioned Irish American. We solve family problems like this with our fists. I have had more than one bloody nose or black eye from one of my brothers and vice-versa. We get past problems real quick, while we are waiting for stitches in the ER. Hey, it ain't for everybody, but it works for us!

Answer 5

No, you really don't have any reason to be angry. You certainly should have been well aware of the risks when you loaned money to her in the first place. Loaning money to family is NEVER a good idea. Yeah, I agree she's immature and ungreatful, but you should not be angry with her about it.

Answer 6

she is selfish then u have a reason to be angry. but i don't think u can force her to help you. find someone else to get help from. bank loan or something or job. if she ask u for money again, definatley DO NOT go ballistic, instead ask her very calmly "what happened the last time I asked U for help? u remember?" just stay calm coz if u go ballistic, she'll think u r mean and bad or whatever.

Answer 7

Honey family will take advantage of you and never realize that they are doing it. I let my brother borrow 5,000. He promised to make small monthly payments I had a wreck and have not worked in over a year I have yet to see any money, I let him borrow that over two years ago. I know longer talk to him because he jump me one night and was mouthing off to me.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

No, you aren't wrong for being angry, you have every right to be angry! If she ever needs money from you you should tell her to get lost!

Answer 10

well i can see justification to your anger, but anger does nothing to solve the problem. you should calm down, however that works for you, and find a viable solution to the problem. I would not suggest helping your sister with thing any more becasue it seems she has no sense of family