What would make you think a woman was "unapproachable" or "undateable"?

Question

Are there unconscious signals that she might not be aware of that turn off potential suitors? Or is it that she has to look like a hot centrefold before she is worthy? If I looked a hell of a lot like my avatar would I be hideous or cute and would you (a man) be interested?

Thanks for all your straight forward answers. Oh and not that it matters my avatar and I are very very similar...of course I'm not a cartoon and I'm not a "look-a-holic" but I think most of us try to put together the all elements that the program allows in order to best represent ourselves truthfully in an anonymous setting.

Answer 1

nothing

Answer 2

I think that the promble is that most guy don't understand the signals anymore. The art of the signals is dieing away. And people not set dating rules or what are the signals that women put out and what they mean. And most females don't know what the signals mean. Because I ask about the signal thing and even females didn't know what some of the signals mean. Plus if a females looks at the floor instead at guys that is one person you don't approach, or if she is so engross with talking to her girlfriend makes her unapproachable, Or a guy friend that is all over her is a signal that she is unapproachable. there are thing that females do to stop approached. If she is mad or upset, it has a sign of unapproach.

Answer 3

Have you ever seen a french poodle wearing a diamond collar with all its little toenails painted oh so neatly? The poodle has its nose in the air and basically gives the impression that its s**t don't stink. People can look like that too. That's only one example but it's a big one. Aloofness. Stuck-up-edness. High maintenance. Nobody wants to put up with that unless they're desperate. Or a woman who dresses like crap and looks like she's trying to decide the best way to commit suicide. Well, I've got my own problems. I don't need hers too. Other women look like they're just too much trouble So why bother? There's easier prey out there. If you look too easy that can only lead to trouble.
Here's the important part and I know you've heard this a million times but it is basically true, "It's not the outside, but the inside, that really matters". Hear me out. Granted, super-model looks certainly gets attention, but after meeting, looks pretty much become secondary. I would think a woman should look neat in appearance (I'm not saying to dress like a librarian) but not prude or slutty. Be self confident (not too much), And look like you have a brain in your head (but not too much). You don't want to scare the guy off. Yup, we get scared too.

Most important of all. The first impression. First impressions are lasting impressions. So, just be nice (but not too nice).
And if you do look like your avatar your a lucky lady.

Answer 4

Yes there are actions that a women can give a man the impression that she is unapproachable. But they cary depending on the receiving individual.

They could be turn off, is body piercings, tattos, too much makeup or things of that nature. It could be the way she talks to a clerk in a store or it might be the way she failed to talk to a sales clerk in a store.

There are litterally millions of ways a man can be turned off. These were just a few.

Answer 5

Some men find very rich, or very beautiful women unapproachable. They hesitate to ask them on dates because they figure that someone like that has to be already taken (or that such a girl might laugh in their faces).

Men are sometimes intimidated by very intelligent women, or by women who hold positions much higher then they do.

Your avatar is cute, and I'm certain that if you resemble it many men would find you attractive. (I do not believe that most men would really want the Playboy centerfolds as serious relationships).

Good luck - the right guy is out there - just be patient. :)

Answer 6

1. Too good looking. We all want to drive a Ferrari, but who wants to pay the insurance or the upkeep? If she looks expensive, she probably is. No thanks.

2. Would your soulmate make you feel embarassed or uncomfortable when you politely ask for a dance etc? Chances are, this is not your soulmate, run for cover.

3. Is she permanently attached to a girlfriend and always on the phone with her? Bzzzt! Hello? Turn off! She won't have time for you either, and you are dating by committee.

4. Does she smile and look like she is fun to be around? If not, she is probably an uptight btch.

5. Fat, loudmouthed know it all, pessimisstic, defeatist etc. major turn offs.

If she looks around and makes eye contact, smiles, looks fun, laughs easily, she will draw a crowd b/c men are watching her every move and look to see if she is easy going and fun. If she looks like a wallflower with her back to the crowd and never smiles, surrounded by her girlfriends, men don't take their chances and move on.

Men play the percentages and look for easier targets in which the rejection is easier to take. And some men are stupid and approach despite the physical signs to stay away.

Answer 7

The only women I've not approached in an appropriate setting were:
A> Women in large groups of friends, theyre unapproachable; and

B> Women who, as you apporach them, do this "mental credit check" on your shoes, your watch, and your shirt. Those types of women are not my types so I tend to avoid the ones more interested in my wallet than my spirit.

It's not looks so much, thats an accident of genetics (or plastic surgery). A woman who spends all her time worrying about how she LOOKS bores me pretty quickly on. And I like a woman who has her own opinions. I DONT always know where to go to make a good date, some suggestions would be nice. Im way more interested in what a woman has to offer when we're NOT having sex. I prefer intelligent conversation, but you cant know whether a woman is capable of that when youre walking up to her. It has to do with how she carries herself; Confident, but not arrogent, not that "Im a woman making it in a mans world, hear me ROAR" attitude some women who've done well for themselves get. Men get it too but I dont date men.

Answer 8

If she refers to herself or her attitude as a "BEOTCH". Or if she acts like she doesn't need anyone because she is a strong, confident, independent woman. Here's a tip: If that is the kind of bait you're putting out there, is there no wonder why you keep landing assholes you do? Just be yourself. Don't act like you have to be a supermodel with a supermodel attitude. Men will approach you because of how we see you carry yourself. The second you start with the finger snaps and the almight attitude, then it's just a turn off. Heck some guys like it. Don't get me wrong. But if you have been having problems with attracting the "right" man, see my comment about bait previously.

There's a huge difference between Mr. Right and Mr. Right-Now.

Answer 9

I do not know, but this is on my watch list. I am the sort of person that never meets anyone even when I do out to places where you are supposed to be able to.
I am told that I am good-looking, well-dressed, smart, interesting etc...but I feel like I am ignored when I go out (or I only draw attention from the wrong sort of people. You know the ones, pervs honking or whistling from their cars).
I do not feel that I am making myself unapproachable. I make eye contact & if someone smiles at me I usually smile back. It is not like I am sitting there with my arms across my chest or anything.

Answer 10

I used to keep a unrealistic expectation of the females that I am worthy for. For example, WOW! she is the homecoming queen and is always so sweet to me, but she would never want to date me because she looks that good. I guess its a immaturity that must be overcome. Also the negative turn offs are to loose around men, fat and other signals that she does not take care of her body and is/or unstable.

Answer 11

Yes there are signals the way a woman looks at you like the look don't even think about if she is wearing a engagement or wedding ring then that's a no no and yes your avatar is very foxing do you really look like her WOW.