Wedding Date???

Question

My boyfriend of over 3 years was asked by his attractive female co-worker to go to a wedding as her 'date'.....I feel insulted that he would even consider going with her especially since I'm not even sure if she knows I exist...
He thinks that he should be able to go since I'm attending a wedding without him in August. I say that it's not the same, since the bride at the wedding I'm invited to is his ex-girlfriend who he cheated on! I wouldn't want my ex at my wedding either unless we were friends and other 'attached' people are going to this wedding without their significant other, since the bride and groom want to keep their guest list as short as possible (they already have over 200 guests, mostly the groom's large family).
If you were in a serious (you live together) relationship with your significant other and they were asked by their co-worker or casual friend to attend a wedding as a 'date' how would you react?
Lets say you knew that this co-worker/friend was attractive but you had never been introduced to them and you aren't even 100% sure that they know you exist.
Would you allow your boyfriend/girlfriend to go to the wedding as this person's date? If not, what reason would you give?

Answer 1

Maybe you going to his ex's wedding isn't such a hot idea either.

As for him going with a female co-worker, that's another big no-no. If it was one of the guys, maybe. Why he even believed that it would be alright to consider going is beyond me. You've been together for over three years so he should already know that going with a female (other than your girlfriend/wife) to someone's wedding is never a good idea if you want your relationship to last.

Good luck!

Answer 2

I think that this situation should tell you and your boyfriend that there is something wrong in your relationship. First of all, there is no trust between the two of you. Second of all, you two are not respecting each other's points of views and worries. Third of all, anger and irritation can be detected. If you are attending a wedding in August where your boyfriend is not invited tell the bride and groom politely that you cannot go without him. This would show your boyfriend you respect him, and love him. He on the other hand should tell his coworker that his only date is the woman he loves which is you. The two of you should seriously talk over your relationship and see if it is a strong relationship based on love, respect, and trust. If not, then being single is a better option, than becoming the best of enemies. Have some self respect, you only live once, do it right! Good luck and may God bless you.

Answer 3

Valentine's is a great day to get married. Unlike the unlikely winter, Christmas, New Year's and Valentine's Day (even if its not on a weekend) are the most expensive wedding venue and vendor days, making it just as expensive as getting married in the summer (high wedding season). Just note cost.... I got engaged on Christmas and before the day was over, everyone in my family and his knew about it because families talk alot on Christmas. So, we didn't have to formally announce a thing...our mothers did. As for the engagement, usually within 3 months you'd like to announce the engagment. Don't announce before you have some type of date in your head or on paper because that's the first question people ask after they ask to see the ring. Announcements can be word of mouth or via picture cards, etc. Because of cost and savings, we are holding out for a year and a half (we want a summer wedding).

Answer 4

"I say that it's not the same, since the bride at the wedding I'm invited to is his ex-girlfriend who he cheated on!"

I'd be careful, if he cheated on her there is a very good chance he could cheat on you. You need to take a long, hard look at your relationship. You obviously don't trust him, so maybe it would be better to get out now, while you still can.

Answer 5

No, I wouldn't let him go as someones date. What girl would ask a guy to go as her date if she knew he was in a serious relationship? My guess is she knows nothing about you or does and doesn't care. Why would he even consider going? Thats like cheating in my opinion because he'd be on a date with another girl. She'd probably be holding onto him and dancing with him and what not. Big NO for me. On another note, maybe you shoudn't be going to his ex's wedding either, at least not without him. Maybe he cheatd on her, but still, haven't they both moved on? To me your like a package deal. Either you go to these functions together or not at all. Also...if he cheated on her...he could just as easily cheat on you with miss co-worker wedding date.

ok...i just read one of your other questions and it says this wedding your going to is your sisters so this changes things. you need to talk to your sister and tell her that as much as you love her, its not right to not invite your bf even if it is her ex. you said she didnt care you were with him so why should she care if he goes with you? How would she feel if you and him married, invited her, but not her husband? that wouldnt be right. as for the problem with your parents not liking him, you need to talk to them and tell them that if they want to be part of your life then they need to except him as your boyfriend. Maybe he is doing this thing with his co-worker because he is angry you don't stand up to your parents. I would stand up to mine if they ever said anything about my husband and I have stood up to them over past bf's. If you love him and want to work things out then you need to start with your family.

Answer 6

I trust my Fiance so I would let him go. I know he wold never do anything to hurt me, sounds like you maybe have a trust issue? I must admit I would be a little uncomfortable if she was very attractive, but I know I'm attractive also. So be trusting, if you say he can go then he might respect you even more, and then not want to go. Guys like to be rebellious. So say he can go, then he probably wont want to.

Answer 7

I trust my fiance very much but would absolutely not trust any woman that I do not know and would question whether she knows that he has a woman. I would not allow it because it is disrespectful to me and my relationship. I'm sure there's someone else she could go with....so why him??

Answer 8

I'll tell you one thing - my fiance wouldn't be going!! Just say that you don't think it's a hot idea. Compromise with him, if he doesn't go, you won't go. If he insists on going, tell him that you are going to find a date for the wedding you're going to then!!

Answer 9

I think that it is very disrespectful for him to even think about going with her! how would he feel if you asked him something like that? I defenitely would not allow him to go. And reasons? just be staight forward with him and let him know that it is very disrespectful and that you wont allow it!

Answer 10

I would be very upset if my boyfriend said that and even considered it. You don't need to give a reason why....it's just not right.