Why are some people made to feel ashamed and unworthy if they admit to not wanting to spend life alone. Isn't it the goal of humanity to pair up?
2006-07-06 10:10:10 · 13 answers · asked by Lee 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah but do you really wanna hear somebody ask your son: Oh, so your brought your grandma to the ballgame?......
find a guy....skip the kids....
2006-07-06 10:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by elwoodo0oo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people put off marriage and (especially) children until they are about your age these days. The reason some wait, is that they want to be financially stable before having a family (or at least very good at what they do for a living). Also, some have not met someone that they care for enough to have children with at a younger age.
No one should be making you feel ashamed or unworthy because of wanting to share your life and love with others. That is a normal thing in life.
Some people who are used to living alone don't really want a husband or live-in (and the lifestyle change that goes along with that). Yet they still do want to have children to raise and love. There is nothing wrong with that either - and many ways to make that happen.
Many people have been raised to believe that it is the goal of humanity to pair up - but as to what age they do that at varies. It is up to the individual. I wish you all good luck, and a nice family around you in the near future. :)
2006-07-06 17:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by Terri C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to want to have a family at the age of 40. You can have a family at whatever age you want and when your ready. I have a friend that is 42 and he is single but still very much wants a family. People shouldn't feel ashamed or unworthy for admitting that they don't want to spend life alone. No one should be alone but just DON'T be in a hurry or settle. Too many people have done this and they are not happy.
2006-07-06 17:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by JanLeo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like society (especially women) are into being independent and the goal is to be as good as a man. They want to have the jobs men have or the money they make or the work hours they do. We're known as the weaker sex, but not in a bad way. I think it's meant more as to say we're nuturing, gentler, kinder, but it's not always looked at that way so women now a days are more capable and have more freedoms than they used to. There's nothing wrong with being single and there's nothing wrong with wanting a family. I think it's what you want and you shouldn't feel bad for that. Just because society thinks so doesn't mean it's right for you.
2006-07-06 17:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. if you are healthy you can have kids at late 40s.
My friend had a kid at 45 and the boy is very healthy.
you can also adopt. I heard kids with older parents are much smarter. Most people in their 20s should be having kids anyway because i feel people in their 30s and 40s are better equipped emotionally to raise kids.
And the goal of humanity is not to pair up. Its to be happy and live fruitfully.
You can be fruitful without having kids. Be fruitful in your deeds.
2006-07-06 17:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by iamlaura2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling 40 isn't all THAT old. I know many people who are still having their last babies while in their late 30's and early 40's.
Yes ... we weren't made to stand on this earth alone and you shouldn't feel like you have to either. You may not get the children you desire ... but never give up on the hope of finding someone to spend the rest of your life with.
Remember to always stay true to yourself.
2006-07-06 17:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 37 and single and at least hear ware i live i don't really feel ashamed of it ya i would love to fall in love but been down some bad roads already i feel i don't need to rush it and hell if i get married at 50 it should be OK and it is
2006-07-06 17:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by problemchild20032003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong. It's definitely very hard to have kids at that age though. You can adopt. I never wanted to start a family at that age, because I want to be somewhat young when they move out of the house and then when they have grandkids. But it's still possible!
2006-07-06 17:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by rebmav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no objective judgement of your situation. If you feel comfortable waiting to a older age to fall in love and presume your loving family life then the more power to you. I would feel it to be unfair to my kids to do it unnaturally at a staggering age of 60 or even late fifties.
2006-07-06 17:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by trigunmarksman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, we all have our own view of life and our own pace of moving through life. No one should be judged for their choice of how to live their life. Unfortunately some people feel like the world is best when everyone thinks and acts just like them. They forget, that is exactly how Hitler thought.
2006-07-06 17:15:37 · answer #10 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not wrong hun but time is passing you by - at 42-44 you will be in the danger zone for having children
find a solo dad - buy into a ready made family
2006-07-06 17:19:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋