Here's the show down.
There's a boy interested in me but i don't want to go out with him because he is a brother of my friend. He's already gone out with a staggering three mates of her's and im another friend. she had a serious and bitter fall out with one of the mates who went out with him and im still friends with both of them because i love them both equally and i never say anything about seeing one of the other because they'll b!tch about each other. They fell out because of him he said some stuff to her because my friend who went out with the brother wanted to finish it and he didn't want to, so he told porky lies to his sister.
He waits for me on msn so i've a second email BUT now he wants to do stuff with me and im scared of saying no because i mite lose a friend.
I went to her house party once got drunk and her brother kept following me everywhere and he annoyed me SO MUCH!! wen i got drunk he kept wanting to dance with me and put his hands all over me.
2006-07-06 10:08:54 · 22 answers · asked by bluestar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont do it!!! I have three brothers and am the only girl. My brothers use my friends as a sexual feeding frenzie! LOL Out of all of the "friends" my brothers have "swacked" with, I've only been able to remain friends with ONE. She's a mature woman and the whole while, she REFUSED to pull me into whatever they had going on. She didn't use time with me as a way to get closer to him or find out what the heck he was doing. He was sleeping with other people and so was SHE. LOL I just stood by and enjoyed my time with each of them and everything turned out super cool. They still are very warm with eachother when they cross paths at my house or a family event, even though they've stopped sleeping together and it's all good. On the other hand, the "others", they either became bitter because they expected me to wave a magic wand and make a "good" man or a husband out of one of my brothers (which was an absolute JOKE) or our friendship ended up fazing out because they knew they "got played" and couldn't say crap about my brother, because then they'd be "played" and "beat up". LOL
All you gotta do is act like you guys are playing, hit him in a sensitive area ONE GOOD TIME, the next time he follows you around and believe me, he will get the hint. OR...I've done this before, while watching an excellent romance movie, when the guy does something stupid say, "If I was her....I'd slap the **it out of him" He'll probably leave you alone. LOL I've learned that most sane guys do not like angry/violent females. That's one of the quickest way to get a man away from you.
2006-07-06 11:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by fiteprogram 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him you are not interested. Be honest and upfront, and leave no room for doubt. Guys get rejected all the time, and it is better to tell him up front than play around. If you loose a friend over something stupid like that, then they weren't really a friend worth having/keeping anyways.
2006-07-06 17:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by cognitively_dislocated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all dont go out with someone who can't respect you and understand when you're drunk. Also I don't get why you'll lose a friend if you don't go out with him? Your friend will probably appreciate your problem. why dont you ask her to have a word with her brother to stop pestering you? She'll be happy you put your friendship over a boy...
2006-07-06 17:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by sminter2nd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I've seen girls try to do this too many times with guys. Guys are usually very straightforeward about things, or at least they want to be, and try to be. We want straighforeward answers to our questions, and not anything that beats around the bushes. It might be harsh, and he might wonder why. If he asks you why, tell him why, but with a smile. If you don't want to be with him, tell him that, but don't be rude or insulting. Try to do it with class. That way, maybe you can work out a friendship with you. Also, try to consider that he might have been drunk too (just a thought!)
2006-07-06 17:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by The Lonely Skywolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say, Hun U only have to do one thing and that is make yourself happy, and do what is best 4 U! If you loose a friend because of that then they probably weren't much of one to begin with, if they didn't want U to be happy yourself!
2006-07-06 17:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by Laura W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is not about the family and friends they are associated with. In my opinion if you like him go out with him. If not, talk to him in private and explain that you are not ready for a serious relationship with him. Be aware of his emotional state and give him a sympathy hug.
2006-07-06 17:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by trigunmarksman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would avoid your friend and her brother all together and if she as you why your mad at her. Tell it is her brother and tell her if he keep bother you then you don't want to be around her. They maybe working as a team to get a fast one over girls. and set you up. There are some brother and sisters that do that.
2006-07-06 17:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by houtexknights330 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to explain why you don't want to go out with anyone. you have the right to say no without explanation. just say no. if he doesn't take no for an answer then tell your parents. if you lose a friend from saying no then they aren't your friend in the first place.
2006-07-06 17:24:42 · answer #8 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend for one is a real firend she wont have a problem with you saying no to him. He seems very very dangerous for a guy. Who follows people while their drunk and start touchin them. I say trap him with something to show his sister. Ask him questions one day and record it or something. Play it safe girl
2006-07-06 17:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to go out with this guy.. then dont and tell him. If you lose a friendship over this.. then it wasnt a true friend to begin with.
2006-07-06 17:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋