Ok by this I mean... females say they have a problem ie the car don't work...
Their girlie mates hug and give sympathy etc , sit there and listen... but the car is still broke...
A gay would get a tool kit, get her to help, fix the car, make her watch so she sees how to fix it, car owrking, next time she can fix it...
Thats the crux of it...
Ie teen girl, hates self, balemic, cuts self etc...
counceller listens yak yak Uterly point less.
Joey here would take her down beauty r Us, sort the hair, loose the glasses, and the braces. Get laser eye surgery so no more contacts, fix the allergy., manicure, pedicure, maybe palstic surgery... get her looking buff. Then get clothing coaches that will work with her personality to get her sexuy confident clothes... ie rock chick, surfer babe, biker chick, hip hop chick, goth, trendy, etc.
Prob sexy uniforms too... nurse cheerleader etc...
Pole dance lessons, exotic dancer lessons, how to charm boys lessons
2006-07-06 10:08:06 · 9 answers · asked by Joey 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
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Had councilling... it was usless.
teaching me how to beat up muggers and jerks, get the girl, and keep her, and sort the job was what was needed, plus someoen to get me fit and work out why I could not understand people or body language...
Others maybe different...
ie seen shy girls pushed on a stage by mates in a backpacker (think frat boy) bar and as they started to dance the girls gainsed confidence and started to get out of their shell, get sexy and confident and then no longer a wall flower but sexy tiger...
Likewise listening wont help someon bullied, Combat lessons will... etc
2006-07-06 10:58:56 · update #1
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Why not ditch the coach and get a martial arts and fitness teacher.
Or pole dance lessons and a makeover for the girls
or skydiving for those scared of heights...
Or something akin to the mirro scene in the film 'Cool Runnings'
Ie big dude takes buillied mummys boy into toilet was bullied to teach self respect.
Asks him what he sees,
Mummy boy says junior...
Tough guy says
' Say I SEE A BAS AS MUTHA WHO DON'T TAKE NO CRAP FROM NOBODY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
Tough guyy makes mummies boy say it over and over till angry, fired up, ready to punch the mirror then drags him back to bully to smash bullies head in as he now so mad...
Surely thats better then a chat on a couch?
2006-07-11 12:05:12 · update #2
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Make this simple...
By feminising I mean lets have a chat...
But thats no use...
Guys need you to fix the car, mand them a weapon and some fighting lessons so not bul;lied.
Or for you to pimp their car, give a make over, sort out a trainer for muscells etc and sort the problem...
Chats dont do ****...
Thats what Im trying to say...
thats what I mean by useful...
If bullied the bully is still there,
If you cant pull you still cant pull after a chat.
If scared of heights still are unless the councilling involves skydiving and absailing.
2006-07-15 11:24:19 · update #3
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Can someone please state what on earth Thronbird is on about as post made no sense...
Miine in simplified tersm is basically saying that id you had a problem (why else get councilling)
Have a chat with a councillor to fix it is pointless (ie how girls want to give you a hug and say its ok).
Whislt what makes it better is fixing the damn problem...
Ie if u ugly get a makeover so you can find love.
If buillied teach you to kick the crap out of bullies so no longer bullied.
If scared of hiegh get you bungee jumping till no longer scared...
Ie deaming with the probel...
Now can someone please explain how that makes you sick? or in some nightmare?
2006-07-18 12:36:04 · update #4
what's the question????
Women counselors are just that - counselors. They dont' get out there and fix your car anymore that a man counsleor. Their job is to sit and talk to you and help give you the confidence to fix your own car!
I've known both women and men counselors. If you find a counselor you don't like, try another. You can't get along with everyone. It has nothing to do with male or female. I have met female counselors and male counselors that I don't like.
2006-07-06 10:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by helpme1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you keep asking the same question?
You don't understand what counselling is; you are confusing sympathy and supportive behaviour (a social behaviour) with counselling. It doesn't matter how many times you ask this question, the answer is the same.
Plus girls are still brought up to be 'nice', unassertive and impractical.
I think you misunderstand, there's a difference between counselling and sympathy. Counselling is not just about listening and agreeing 'yeah, isn't it terrible'.
Plus there are different types of counselling, all demand some degree of input from the client, not just a long list of moans and grumbles. Counselling is a tool to develop insight and self awareness to deal with emotional problems, once those are understood you can also learn practical skills.
You are saying you can either have one or the other; and that girls have emotions and boys have practical skills; you can have one or the other. Its just garbage.
If you want to make a difference, teach your daughters to be practical.
2006-07-06 10:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by sarah c 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually no. A counselor does allow you to talk about your problems. It is also comforting that unlike those we meet in the general community, these people are prohibited from discussing what you tell them by law. So it may be easier to talk to them then your buddy next door. Also they give more educated advice than are peers who have not studied this field. They help to teach coping skills, anger management skills, relaxation ....the list goes on and on. Also if there is a more serious mental illness involved they know how to identify these illnesses. Counseling can be very beneficial on many levels. It will only work if you go in open minded though. You will only get out what you put in. I think a lot of men who think they are too "macho" or "manly" to at least attempt counseling are the real cowards!
2006-07-06 10:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by geni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, but sometimes all a girl wants is a big hug and to know that some one is listening; that's half the problem most of the time.
2016-03-27 06:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Regenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counceller can do something if anf only if full details are disclosed.Full disclosure is necessary to solve any problem.If the listener(patient)doesnot understand,nothing can be done.
2006-07-17 00:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by leowin1948 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him ladies, he's making a lot of fuss but saying nothing; and its coming from the wrong hole in his body!
2006-07-15 02:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jimbo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to awaken from your nightmare, Your sick!
2006-07-17 17:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have something better .
2006-07-17 18:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by khan a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no idea what you are talking about
2006-07-16 21:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by Neil G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋