whats next after a funeral?

Question

this is serious please. we had my uncles funeral today.. no jokes im not in the mood.

im mean whats life afer for my family, mom more than anything. its been so sad for her..... what can i do next.to help her..... sorry about the mix up.

Answer 1

Limbo. After my mums funeral, it was like I was just expected to carry on as normal. In everyones mind it was all over, back to work, get on with it.

The shock, even with an expected death, takes time. As does the rest of the grieving process. There are plenty of books if you think it will help you, or maybe seeing a councillor. Personally, I found just talking about her helped.

Hope you are ok.

Answer 2

It would help if you could be more specific in your question.

If you are attending a funeral for someone you know but not a close relative, I guess that as far as the time after that day, is simply move on, but check on the surviving spouse or family members at least once a week during the first week, and once a month for the rest of that year, at least so that they don't feel they have been abandoned. Too many people simply move on and don't look back, making the bereaved feel that the friendship is changed or over now that the person in question isn't there. There will be a time that you'll have to move on, but do so in a way that won't affect the bereaved as much.

If you are the surviving spouse, or surviving significant other, then this is an answer that only you can have. I have never been in your shoes so I wouldn't know what to say, except to take it one day at a time, and not necessarily listen to anyone else say how they coped, unless he answer is appealing. After all, they're not you, and you're not them.

To the surviving family members, it depends on what kind of a relationship you had with the deceased, but ultimately it is the same as I would say to the surviving spouse or significant other.

Check on each other often, send the significant other a card (and/or flowers)on what would have been their anniversary or his/her birthday and write down "We miss him/her too, and my thoughts are with you today. Love, Name"

Answer 3

You have the funeral service, then the cremation or the burial. The cremation (or burial) has to be held on the same day as the funeral, by law. I have no idea why!

Then you normally have a get together with everyone and people tend to swap stories about the deceased. I have been to two funerals so far this year and the wakes have been excellent although the funerals were very sad.

Of course, a lot of families only get together for 'hatches, matches and dispatches (Christenings/baptisms, weddings and funerals!) so it is often a good time to catch up on family gossip!

(Nobody has ever come back after they have been cremated or buried to tell me what they do after the funeral!)

Hope that helps.

Answer 4

I believe the funeral is the final step. In my family we have a gathering and remember the life of the beloved one who has passed away. We then make sure the family left behind has someone to visit them and help take care of the small things they may need to help this transition go smoothly. This is a difficult time for people so we try a do all we can (with respect to the family) to help. Again I do believe the funeral is the final step and family left behind moves on sadly one member less.

Answer 5

Depends on the religion and culture. I would say most have a funeral which I define as a formal religious service. Many people I know have the wake (or visitation) prior to funeral. Then the burial. Then possibly a reception depending on the wishes of the family.

Answer 6

Hey sorry to hear that your Uncle passed away. I know what you are going threw, I promise you. Only difference it was a double whammy for us. I lost my grandma De.8,2004 and then less than 30 days my brother Jan.2,2005. His was very unexpected. We are still trying to get over our lose. It does hurt and it hurts a lot. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of them and especially my brother. Time will ease the pain, but it does take time. The hurt never goes away totally but it does ease up. If you ever need or want some one to talk to I will be there for you.
Be there for your mom, my own daughter was there to comfort me when I lost my brother, after all it was her Uncle!!

Answer 7

Sometimes the group who attended the funeral will go out to eat (or to someone's home to do so).

The funeral, in most cases, is after the wake and/or church, now people begin to realize what has happened - and begin the mourning process. Different people mourn in different ways: some go back to school/work right away, some want time off to themselves. Some like to keep busy, others want to take it easy. Some want to be around a lot of people - others want to be alone.

If you are the person who lost a loved one, my sympathy.

Answer 8

I'm sorry to hear of your loss.
After losing my grandmother last year, I felt my whole world was going to collapse, but believe me with time the grieve ebbs away
Just be there for your mum. It will be hard at first. I found it easier to deal with the grief by talking about my nan.
I was angry, i'd cry then I felt guilty, all the emotions in the world

There is no easy answer to this question as people deal with greif in different ways. Talk about your loved one and never forget them. Take things day by day, and remember you may not have your loved one, but you'll always have your memories.
I hope i've helped

Answer 9

The wake. A tea party type affair where the bereaved and family/friends get together and discuss the deceased and hopefully share some good memories. Or fight. Depending on the family.!

Answer 10

The Wake. A time to honour the persons Life