I'm new to the whole best friends getting married thing. Is it ok to call and say hi once in a while to her. Not like all the time, like once every few months? I know the husband too, not as well as her, but he knows me. We've done dinner before so I'm not like a total stranger. What do you all think?
2006-07-06 09:33:29 · 17 answers · asked by Jim2386 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think it totally is okay to call her... you should actually do it lots. I actually think you should become more familiar with her new husband and vice versa. I mean, she's your best friend, so you wouldn't want any awkwardness between you and her spouse, and at the same time you wouldn't want her marriage to get in the way of your friendship.
2006-07-06 09:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by psykhaotic 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I would not be a good idea to have a man as your best friend, well unless he's totally gay then it should be ok because then your husband would know for a fact that nothing bad is going to happen. When someone becomes your best friend that usually means that you have deep love for that person. The only man that you should consider your bestfriend should be your husband. Having a guy as your friend could be ok at first but could totally escalate into something more since you have such caring thoughts for that person. If you really love your husband you should just try to limit your time with the "other man". Defining the boundaries of friends is basically what ever you do with your husband you should NOT do with your "friend", that includes kissing and holding hands (those things usually lead to other things in the future). Ask you husband how he feels about the situation and respect his feelings.
2016-03-27 06:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by Regenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why not, you said she was your best friend. Seems to me like she would be very hurt if her best friend just up and dumped her because she got married. Now if it was more than friendship, then you need to let her go, she made her choice. You should also try being friends with the husband, you & he may have a lot in common if you take the time to find out.
2006-07-06 09:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by Blessed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call her and talk to her about it. Maybe you can go over for dinner and have a discussion about all this. I mean, the more you are fearful or on edge about it---the stranger it will become. Let her and her husband know that this is uncharted territory....I am a little surprised that in her dating him that this has not already come up and been resolved!
2006-07-06 09:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't have to change your relationship with your best friend hardly at all except that now her husband will be aprt of your life too. Don't think of it as losing a best friend think of it as gaining a new friend. The worst thing you can do is start to leave your best friend out. She still needs you in her life. She will let you know when she needs family time.
2006-07-06 09:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a woman to go on dinner outings with the three of you. Make friends with her husband, and go do guy things out with him once in a while.
2006-07-07 06:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be fine however you must be sure its OK with the Husband.Not so much for his sake but for hers. I have a male best friend and unfortunately my fiance is not secure enough to handle any contact.I really miss my friend and resent my fiance for coming between that.At first he was calling and I refused to turn my back on him but now he doesn't call because hes just that good of friend.
2006-07-06 09:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by newmanandwife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can still call her. She's your best friend, after all and getting married isn't going to change that. You have to respect and acknowledge her husband, but her marriage shouldn't get in the way of your friendship.
2006-07-06 09:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by Cyn90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've noticed newleyweds, not matter who they are, are pretty much glued to each other for at least the first year. Give them space. I'd still call but don't expect it to be anything like it used to be. Once they get over the cheesiness of it all they should be ok to act normal once again.
2006-07-06 09:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by beckymagic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine to call her, but I would ask both of them what their comfort level is. I think communication is the best solution to your problem. I would start by asking her what her comfort level is and what she thinks is appropriate. Take it from there. :) You sound like a wonderful friend!
2006-07-06 15:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by crazygonuts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋