GIRLS why am i comstantly chasing my g/f?

Question

i mean i always text her 1st i always ring her 1st, tell her i love her 1st, its like she doesnt care, but then she can just flip and be all loving to me, girls please answer, with a reason and advice

Answer 1

maybe she dosent feel the same way. i know it sounds harsh but it can be the truth. talk to her about it and see where it goes.

Answer 2

Why don't you try talking to her and letting her know how you feel - that you would like for her to do the same first once in a while too. She may just be a little old fashioned and expect you to do all the chasing. I am like that too but not to that extreme, I mean I call my bf first too and I try to more often now. He let me know, and that's all it took. Communication is key. If after talking to her she still doesn't do a thing about changing that then maybe you need to leave her alone for a little bit - that might trigger her to "get the picture" if that still doesn't do it then maybe you might have to move on. Relationships are about compromise, communication and give and take by both parties not just one giving and the other just taking so first thing's first TALK TO HER.

Answer 3

Hey...Sounds like she don't care for you as much as you care for her. (sorry to say that). Maybe you should play hard to get. I know it works good on the guys...you need to quit calling her as much and don't say i love you first wait and see if she says it and if she don't as bad as it hurts still don't say it. Then she will start questioning you and when she does tell her what you just told us. If she gives you reasoning answers then stay with her, if she gives you stuff that don't make sence then you need to tell her you don't want a relationship like that. By the look of your pic you are about 23 24 and you will be wanting to get married in a couple of yrs. and you don't want to marry someone like that! So if you don't like the way she does move on and explore the other girls and find the right one. Don't sit around and waste your time on just that one!!! You are VERY cute and you will find someone and i am sure it will not be hard..look you done got some on here chasing after you alderly lol...You deserve way better.GOOD LUCK in w/e descion you choose to make! Hope i helped

Answer 4

i was like this with my last b/f! he was always first for everything, he would do whatever I said and it seemed like I was in it all by myself. I took advantage of him because I knew I had him wrapped around my finger. I was mean and loving whenever I was in the mood cuz I knew he would take my crap no matter what I did. Not that you should give her the cold shoulder but try and back off a bit let her initiate the the affection, texting and phone calls. She might realize you do a lot for her and appreciate it once it's gone!

Answer 5

Ok darling first of all im no expert when it comes to relationships,Iv had a few failed ones in the past but it seems to me like ur g.friend has no more interest than the man in the moon..Why dont u talk to her about it and tell her how u feel? It looks to me like she is the type of girl that likes a chase.And u are chaseing her...STOP chasing 4 awhile and c how she reacts!!

Answer 6

I used to be in ure position so i tried the aged old technique of not making myself so available all the time.

Text to say good mornin and then don't text again, it's guarenteed she''ll ask why then you got the opportunity to tell her whats on your mind.

Not making the first move all the time is a hard habit to break but stay strong it'll come good in the end once she realises that your not at her beck and call.

Answer 7

I think she does care about you but she's just being overly cautious. As girls we're brought up to believe that if we seem too keen our boyfriends will back off and freak out. And I have experienced that to be true; if I've made myself too available, if I've made too many nice comments or I've rung more than every other day the guy backs off and I end up the loser.

It seems sometimes that guys don't want us to show we like them!! Or maybe I've just been dating immature guys. Anyway, it sounds like your girlfriend's had bad experiences in the past that have put her off showing her true feelings. But you're obviously a mature guy who's ready for a long-term relationship, so my advice to you is to have a heart-to-heart with your girlfriend and let her know that it's safe to show her feelings around you, and that you're not going to run away if she shows you affection. Good luck!

Answer 8

i am not a girl and i know you asked for women's advice on this but you need advice from an experienced guy

the problem is, that you act like you care too much

just forget about her and go off and do something with your friends

let her do the chasing for a bit

if you dont, theres no reason for her to do any of it

Answer 9

Just play it cool for a little bit, don't text her, call her, say I love you first. She just may be doing those things because you do it first. or she may like the attention you give her. Just slow down and watch her reaction. if she gets upset or questions you then you should know that she is paying attention and likes it. Then let her know that you would like for her to do these things first so that it will be a mutual. If you want to know the answer you will have to ask her, there could be dozens of them.

Answer 10

Perhaps, you should have a break from her for a little while... Maybe go on a guys holiday somewhere and give yourselves a chance to decide whether this relationship is going anywhere for both of you...

It kinda sounds like a role reversal here... You should like a woman (being all loving and such) and she sounds like the man (moody and unpredictable)...

Answer 11

Maybe she just likes the attention she gets from you.......she loves the fact that you are the first to do everything because it makes her feel more important to you.....the times when she just turns around and is loving to you, is it at a time when maybe your not showing her as much attention?.....the only advice i can give is to maybe let her be the first to do things.....don't completely ignore her, just let her tell you she loves you before you say it to her.....and let her text you, then you text her back.......let her call you.......your a hot guy....you deserve to have someone show you attention......hope things work out.