What should I do. I love him and I don't want to let him go, but I guess he is not mine. We have been together for 4 years, he has been married for 22.
2006-07-06 09:21:42 · 25 answers · asked by Ms. Good P. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Answer this question ... If he did leave his wife and the two of you got together ... would he find yet another woman when he tired of you?
Getting mixed up on a love triangle is never a good or easy situation. When someone is unhappy in their marriage ... so unhappy that they stray ... they should be a real man and end their marriage before getting into a new relationship. What a coward to find a new lover before he left his wife.
If you ask me ... both you and his wife deserve a lot better.
Good luck ...
2006-07-06 09:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really believe him when he told you he was going to leave her? Why do you want to be with a married man anyway? Don't you think if he was going to leave his wife he would have done it by now? I mean you two been together for 4 years. That man isn't going to leave his wife unless she found out about you two and she decides to leave him. Move on dear there are so many nice guys out there that are not married go out and find you a nice guy that doesn't have a wife. Good Luck!
2006-07-06 16:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by Girl in love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ... 4 years and he still hasn't left his wife of 22 years ... I don't see this one going anywhere other then you getting your feelings hurt ... !
Why not find somebody that loves you for you and nothing else. Find somebody that will make you happier .. I'm sure this guy does but you truly don't feel that complete being the "other woman" in his life ... a real relationship will be so much more gratifying it's worth the loss of a cheating man ( since in fact he is cheating ) .... I say you're better off ... !
2006-07-06 16:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheats on his wife of 22 years and keeps you on the side for 4 long years as well. He's getting what he wants without having to change a thing, meanwhile you obviously want more (and you deserve more, though you should have found someone that was available) and his wife certainly deserves better than some scoundrel who cheats on her. If he cheats on her, he will do it to you. Stop waiting around behind the curtains and find a man who is available.
2006-07-06 16:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my opinion if you new that he was married u should have left him from the start....but since you love him, tell him that he has to break up with his wife NOW, like ASAP, thats the only way that you can tell that he truly loves YOU and not his wife...especially if him and his wife are still living together...(guys are sneaky) He's probably just a player wanting more then his wifes giving!
2006-07-06 16:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by Got_a_question? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has to be the biggest cliche of all time. He will neve rleave her. If he was going to leave her he would have done so instantly. They have been together 22 years - you can't beat that.
Anything he tells you are excuses. There is never a right time to leave. Go get a man who will love you. If he leaves her for you, he will leave you for someone else. It's not worth it.
2006-07-06 16:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by vivmaiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not good at all - your with a man who cheated on his wife to be with you. what does this tell you about what kind of guy he is? Does it not occur to you that when someone else comes along he will have no problem leaving you for another. You know deep inside that I am right and it has little to do with looks or really anything you two share but by what is in the heart. I suggest you look at yourself and end this and find someone who is right for you and one that deserves you and can be faithful and true to one woman. You do not need this. respect yourself and keep your heart open for something you know years later you can continue to hold on to.
2006-07-06 16:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is stringing you along, do you have any idea how many men give this lie to keep a mistress naked, in the sac, and having sex. HE has got his family wife and he's got his hoe wife. One that raises his kids and looks after his house and one that just pleases him physically. If he really didn't love his wife why woulod he still be with both of you. Give him the ultimateum leave her or lose me, but be prepared to be dumped. Also remember any man you take, you will have taken from you.
2006-07-06 16:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets just look at the facts. this guy 'says he loves you'. do you believe him? or do you think he just tells you that to keep you around so that he can sleep with you? why would a man be with someone else for 22 years, but says that he doesnt love her? are you ready to have the wife find out you are the reason they are going to/may split? sometime, shes going to have to find out.
do you think that it is the best thing for him to leave the wife, or do you think that there is still hope for their relationship?if so, dont you want him to be happy with his wife?ask him why he is with you not the wife. is he truly not in love with her anymore? he had to be in love with her at some point, so why did it disappear?just some questions for you to think about. ;)
2006-07-06 16:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by preppycutiepie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trina, I was married for 23 years before I left my wife and yes I left to be with someone else, but I made the decision to leave long before I met the other woman. I doubt if this guy is really ready or willing to leave. If he was serious it wouldn't take him that long. I've been there.
Hope it helps!
2006-07-06 16:26:17 · answer #10 · answered by Michael C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋