It's difficult to be single especially being that your friend hasn't been in a long time...she probably feels like she needs a man in her life to be happy...don't get me wrong, the RIGHT man will make her happy, but if she keeps rebounding all the time when she does find a nice guy, she might not understand or know how to compromise because she is so used to getting what she wants and finding a replacement should she not like something about them. My best advice would be to tell your friend to have some time alone, to help her decide what she really wants and what really makes her happy.
2006-07-06 09:21:23
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answered by Anonymous
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I think this method is unhealthy. If she is looking for people to just date, that is one thing. If she eventually wants some kind of committment or to settle down, then she needs to stop this habit. Why? Even when she meets a guy that she truly likes, when you are in a relationship the grass tends to look greener on the other side, and since she is used to hopping from one guy to the next, she may mess up a good relationship in pursuit of one that looks good but really isn't. In committed relationships when you are dating a good person there are rough patches and you need to be able to work them out. If you always think of leaving then every time there is trouble you will run...
2006-07-06 16:26:42
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answered by vivmaiko 2
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There is nothing wrong with looking for a better, happier relationship, especially if the one she is in is abusive or going nowhere. However, I would like to see her get out of these bad relationships for her own sake, not just because she is now interested in someone else. Maybe she should stay single until she finds a good man, and not settle for "boyfriend material" just to have a boyfriend.
2006-07-06 16:26:02
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answered by 420Linda 4
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Your comparing apples and oranges, yes your questions are about girls breaking hearts but your putting yourself in the picture and a guys point of view is so much different than how a women handles it...The issue with your cousins method is not all that wrong...when dating looking should not be ta bu but touching off limits and your cousin doesn't seem to even start looking until she knows she doesn't have what she is looking for, sounds pretty honest to me, is it the right thing to do, probably not but only because she isn't giving her time to think about what it is she is looking for...she sees and likes, but she knows not whats the best for her...she doesn't give herself time to be lonely enough to realize whats important or full filling and what type is right for her not what type looks right to her.
2006-07-06 16:31:23
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answered by Goodspeed 6
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I don't know where your previous question is, but I'll answer this one. It sounds like your cousin may just be afraid of being alone (a perfectly normal, natural feeling). I don't think it's right, though, for her to stay with a guy she is no longer interested in until she finds someone better. It's good that she tries to break up gently, but it isn't fair to the guy to string him along when she should just set him free. If other guys get wind of this "method" of hers, they may try to stay away from her because they don't want to find themselves in that situation.
2006-07-06 16:24:09
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answered by Anonymous
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wow, that is a hard call, i would say yes and no, on the one point she is messsing with someone elses feelings, and it doesn't matter how gentle the let down is, it can be crucial, but at the same time, you can go into a relationship with an intent on it being short-lived, she shouldn't make it a habit though, due to the simple fact that she may be with someone good and leave him for another potential boyfriend, not saying she will, but she could have done it so much that it just becomes a pattern.
2006-07-06 16:23:14
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answered by Paktown 3
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I personally think she is insecure with herself...
If she was secure she wouldn't need the constant companionship of a guy.
My sister was like this, she was in a long term relationship and when he broke her heart she started dating the most random guys ever. Personally I didn't like any of them, but I supported her weird habit for a while.
Finally I sat down with her and we talked about it. She didn't like doing things by herself and she was use to having someone to do things with. She liked being with someone and she had been since she was 15. So for almost 5 years of her life she was in a relationship so she never really got to experience being independent.
I gave her a mission to try and do things on her own and it actually worked! She did date a guy for a year after that, but now she is single and she loves it!
Maybe your cousin needs to experience her own independence...
Talk to her... Encourage her!
2006-07-06 16:20:27
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answered by kristijay99 3
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As long as she is breaking up with these guys before dating a new one - there's nothing wrong with that. She's only 20 - so she doesn't need to tie herself down at this point. She'll end up eventually finding the right one and he won't be "Mr. Right Now". Hope this helped...
2006-07-06 16:21:06
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answered by laurajc1 3
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I don't think there is anything wrong with how she goes about finding another man. But why does she let herself get treated badly in the meantime. Wouldn't it be better to be alone than to have a man be a jerk to you all the time? I think there are more issues here than just how many boyfriends she's going through.
2006-07-06 16:22:59
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answered by biiha 2
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i think its good that she got out of a relationship if i wasnt going anyhwere.if she isnt happy in the realtionship she has every right to break it off.i respect her for being nice about it.lord knows we have enough hate and hearbreak in this world.maybe next time she should think about it more before she got into the relationship so then maybe she wouldnt have to break up with so many guys
2006-07-06 16:21:40
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answered by fansie 2
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