why's havin a relationship so bloody hard?

Question

each time i get into a relationship it goes great for the first couple of weeks then it goes 2 ****. my most recent gf split up wit me this mornin and once again i ave no idea wat iv done wrong. im generaslly qutie a caring guy who likes 2 ave a laugh. i just want to kno wat i can do to stop avein such bad luck in relationships? can anyone help? no piss takers im not in the mood

Answer 1

The beginning of relationships are always the best...what follows is the struggle to get used to that person and accept them. It could be on both sides. But once you are able to get past the bumps in the road which all couples go through, it will make your connection and relationship stronger.

Answer 2

Sometimes things just don;'t work out. I always know within the first 2 weeks if a relationship has potential or not. It may not be anything you are doing, or not doing. It may simply be that you are not compatable with these girls. Do you tend to go for the same type all the time? If yes, that may be your answer, that you are going for the wrong type. Try shaking things up a bit. Go somewhere you don't normally and meet new people and give a different type of girl a go. You never know, she may be the one. If you don't like her after the first couple of dates, move on.
Also, how about texting or emailing your exes and asking why they finished the relationship? THey might not answer, but it might give you some answers that you are looking for. DOn't give up. The right girl is out there somewhere. You just need to find her. But don't look too hard. YOu will never find love that way!

Answer 3

Maybe you should take the relationship more slowly. Leave your girl wanting more, so shell stick around.

Of course the first few weeks will be great, because you two are so overwhelmed that the person you like likes you back. Your awestruck and more in love with the ideal of having a boyfriend or girlfriend., than that actual person.

then soon the curtain drops and you start noticing all of the person's faults, and you debate whether and why you really liked this person.

If you were meant for eachother you'd stick it out, and work through their defficiencies, remember you have some too.

If not then you'll know you were just desperate and looking for the "right now", when you should be looking for the "now, and to be continued......."

There's someone out there for you, just wait and dont lower your expectations for anyone!!

Answer 4

I definitely understand what you mean. Relationships are hard work but they're also rewarding when the work is put in. If girls KEEP breaking up with you, you need to evaluate yourself. 1. Its possible you're just picking the wrong girls; or 2. After dating a girl for some time you begin to come on too strong and push them away. Neither of these may be the case but are just suggestions. If you are still cordial with any of you exes, even your most recent one, give her a call and just ask her what went wrong and tell her to be brutally honest, that way you can know for the future. For all you know it may not be you at all. Hope you feel better and know that when its time you will meet the RIGHT person.

Answer 5

It's all communication man. Men and women really want some very similar things. It's because we're both humans. But we are raised to express everything differently. I was in the same boat all the time, always getting in arguements, until I took a step back realized what she was arguing for, and compared it to what I was arguing for. They're practically the same thing, we're just using different words and actions. Best advice, is just be very careful in what you say and how you say it, you'll learn to communicate better, which in turn will help you determine women that are more appropriate for you in terms of relationship goals, personality, sex, humor, all the stuff that makes a relationship hard, yet once you know how to communicate, will make the relationship exponentially more enjoyable.

Answer 6

First off, you seem to have a bad attitude. Relationships are more than "having a laugh". You sound a bit immature and should get yourself together before you spread yourself yet, into another bad relationship. If you are serious, you will start reading self help books, ask a trusted from to give you constructive criticism. Ask someone who you know has a good relationship what it really takes. You have to put in some effort and be willing to seriously look at yourself in the mirror and make changes.

Answer 7

I believe everyone attracts a certain type of person. Maybe you attract those that want to have that sweet beginning relationship feeling but once the butterflies are gone, they also leave. I would suggest to become friends first before getting into a serious dating situation. It's an old remedy but every now and then it works out for the best.

Answer 8

Nothing is wrong with you, its just you may want something that these girls don't want. When you meet some one start with a friendship and casual dating. Get to know one another before jumping into a relationship. Be open and honest with what you want. If you are looking for marriage then let her know, if not and all you want is to have fun time then let her know. If you don't know exactly what you want, then you should just casual date and not get into anything too serious until you know thats what you want. It takes time to find that right person for you, so don't rush it. you will find that special some one soon enough. Just be patient.
Go to your ex-girlfriends and ask them why they broke up with you and for them to be honest. Don't get mad if they say things that may hurt you, after all the truth hurts.
Good luck and hope you find your Ms. Right soon.

Answer 9

I think the biggest thing is that its very hard to get someone that close, you have to be able to reconcile big differences with each other and its very hard to let someone in close to you, so alot of relationships don't go well because someone or both just can't open up, I think the biggest thing is to start off slow if you open up to quickly they might not be able to take it. If everything starts off slow then people are more likely to open up as time goes on.

Answer 10

Dont work too hard to make it work.....Just sit back and let it happen if it was meant to be then HURRAY! If not then theres another kick in the ball$ for ya! It always works for me, well not the kick in the balls part I suppose that would be kind of hard but it was always a swift kick to the tit$!!
Dont tell them I love you within the 1st year. I dont knao about other girls but I hate it when a guy i just started dating is all weepy going I love you smookie wookie *gag*!