My brother has anger management problems. I know it, my parents know it and his girlfriend knows it. He gets angered easily, he belittles everyone around him and he is starting to show signs of physical abuse. How can we help him see that he needs help? He will not go to a counsellor. He refuses to acknowledge that he has a problem. What can we do?
2006-07-06 08:57:22 · 9 answers · asked by cyber_music 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
he's 24 and lives with his girlfriend. Me and my parents live in a different city.
2006-07-06 09:10:28 · update #1
Even if you can't get him to go, the rest of you should go without him. It will help you deal with the stress the situation is causing you.
2006-07-06 09:03:26 · answer #1 · answered by Nobody 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough situation. How old is your brother? Does he still live with your parents? If he's under 18, or if he still lives with your parents, technically, your parents can make him go to councelling. Unfortunatly, if he doesn't get some help now, down the road his anger will lead to physical violence, most likely affecting the girlfriend first (statistically men are violent towards a spouse/girlfriend first rather than a mother or father) and that situation will get him involved with the police. I was in an abusive relationship with a boyfriend, and his violence just increased. Your brother needs help right away. Maybe your parents could try to get him into a boot camp or something.
2006-07-06 09:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the above answer. If it really is going to develop into abusive (counting on the degree) you could call the police and they are going to stand there at the same time as the fellow packs some issues and leaves the abode. Than you could bypass right down to the courtroom and get a restraining order. i understand its not the perfect difficulty as a results of the indisputable fact that man or woman receives even extra disillusioned yet when it must be carried out...it must be carried out. i truly do sympathize with you because it really is a terrible ingredient to not sense secure and emotionally delicate in you own residence. i'd advise you also seem up Phillipians 4:6-8 on your bible, because it tells up there to, "not be stressful over some thing, yet pray to GOD .... and he will seem after our psychological powers and end peace". at the same time as HE"S determining the issue. it really is so encouraging. i'd be praying for you.
2016-11-06 00:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try spending more time with him and doing things that are lest abuse like playing ball or something.play video games and instead of taking him to the doctor see if you can find a doctor that will come to your house and pretend that y'all are friends and occasionally strike up a conversation about his problem and how he feels.and when he feel like he want to show abuse to any siti him down and talk to him.tell him that if he don't stop actin up he gone have to go or either a mental place.
2006-07-06 09:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step is try to find common ground with him and work from there. He must open up and trust before he will address his problem. With guys, it is a matter of pride, so trust must be established as well as something familiar to them so they can associate. Once they feel comfortable they will let you know where the problem lies.
2006-07-06 09:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds like he has got a major problem but for one thing i would never let him talk to me like he talks to everyone else around him, for one thing i would act like i could care less about him and show him that it's not you he's hurting he's hurting everyone in his path, your parents can sign him into a mental institution that will help him, i know because my friend was just like him and her family finally signed her into one and she's been acting better ever since bcuz she saids that she never wants to go back so it really helped her. my prayers are with u and your family, please don't give up on him.
2006-07-06 09:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by christina j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to them as soon as possible. If you if cant seek legal help
2006-07-06 09:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by ladieshellzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep asking him to go to a counselor.dont give up on him.give him some tough love.
2006-07-06 09:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by JessicaR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tolerate it. Don't enable him. Pray.
2006-07-06 09:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋