I am so pissed at my boyfriend for ruining my fourth of july since he made an a$$ outta of himself getting drunk and high(pot). Almost damaging my car and purposely starting a big argument with me and saying very hurtful things such his family never liked me and they laugh at him for being with me. I have been ignoring and brushing him off since then. I dont even want him to touch me that's how angry i am and i have never been that angry. He is trying to talk to me and act like nothing has happened.
2006-07-06 08:55:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LOL he just called saying that his bank wont allow him to withdraw money from his account. all i said was bummer!!
2006-07-06 09:23:57 · update #1
Well, that's a typical male response...wanting to sweep everything under the carpet and act like nothing has happened.
If you have any hopes of saving your relationship or even feel like you would want to, after the way he acted, then you need to sit him down asap and talk to him about about how his behavior made you feel. If he brushes it off and attributes it to his being high or drunk, then that will show you that he is just too immature to accept responsibilty for his actions. It could also be the start of how he will handle things throughout his life...always blaming others and making everyone and everything else the scapegoat...and eventually you will wind up being the scapegoat for all his problems.
You have a good reason to be angry. Don't let him get away with trying to trivialize your emotions. Your feelings are important and they do matter. And, if after talking to him he still can't see that, then value yourself enough to cut him loose.
2006-07-06 09:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by DG 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
When you cool down so you can talk without blowing . Sit him down to talk about that day . It had to come from somewhere , not just off the top of his head . It must have been on his mind and when he got high , it just slipped out . So find out why he feels that way . No yelling , just calm talk . There is more to that day then he's letting on . If he won't talk , tell him you'll stay away from him till he does . He hurt your feelings and you want to know why. D G has good advice , listen to it .
2006-07-06 09:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While your boyfriend may be sweet to you most of the time, you have to wonder after a time like this if this is the type of guy you want to spend your time with. You will never forget those hurtful things he said to you no matter how much (if he would) appologize. It may be time for you to move on and meet someone you will treat you with respect.
2006-07-06 09:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ronna P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need some space to yourself and that he should just back off for a while. Honestly though, I'd dump him. Men like those cause more trouble than they're worth. Besides you deserve better treatment than that from a guy.
2006-07-06 09:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something like that happened to me at a concert only a few weeks ago. You really need to tell the guy that you want a break. and then the old rule follows- if you love something let it go, if comes back to you, it was yours all along. If he comes back to you begging to be back with you and PROMISES that it will never happen again, take him back. But if he does... MOVE ON.
2006-07-06 09:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by Star888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No No No forget it sweetie, leave the bastard you don't need a dame pothead anyway. Much less one that gets you soo upset, believe me I had one of those and literally he gave me migraines, migraines so horrid I had to sit in a dark room and cry until it got better! Don't talk to him, or email, or even look at him!!!
2006-07-06 08:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. My boyfriend says things that hurt my feelings everyday. I try to ignore it, but it is getting harder for me to do. He never even gives me any time to myself, to calm my nerves down. Let him know all he did and said. See what he says about it. Let him no it is coming between you all. Plus most men don't even think about what they are saying. They think so highly of their selves. Men are starting to really getting on my nerves.
2006-07-06 09:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by maxine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, just recently i had a disagreement with my significant other. instead of brushing him off, i was determined to show how angry i was. we work in the same department, so instead of listening to him during the meeting, i stared and glared at him. he was so distraught that he lost 2 days of sleep. eventually we iron out our opinions and we are back together.
2006-07-06 09:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth usually comes out when people get drunk
2006-07-06 09:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. Mine doesn't have to do with alcohol or drugs though. Just everyday life. I kind of wish it did have to do with alcohol. At least then I can figure out why my girl acts the way she does.
2006-07-06 08:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋