My gf and I been living together for 9 months. She's been unhappy these last couple of weeks because she says that she doesn't get the attention and affection that she deserves. She wants to breakup and move out. I love her dearly, and don't want her to go. I've tried to reason with her that I can change, but she does not believe me. She says she needs some space and that she don't think she can be with me anymore. Needless to say, I am very hurt. I tried to let her go, but I find myself always scheming to get back with her (cooking her dinner, buying her flowers, talking with her). It would be easier for me to move on, but she still lives with me mostly (sometimes she stays with her friend). Everyone thinks that she's not right for me, but I can't see it right now. I want to do anything to keep her in my life. What can I do? Or how should I cope? I'm going nuts...
2006-07-06 08:45:33 · 7 answers · asked by wc007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just don't understand how she can turn her emotions for me on and off like a switch. She says she feels numb. It kills me to see that I'm the only one hurting... shows me how little she cares.
2006-07-06 08:55:48 · update #1
you know what that seems to happen allot your better off just letting her go if she is right for you then she will come around if shes not then she wont that's something that's out of your control.
2006-07-06 08:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been living with my boyfriend for 2 years now and I have been unhappy with him. I know how your girlfriend is feeling and my boyfriend is just like you (doing everything in his power to keep the girl he loves). Just like your girlfriend I wasn't getting the attention and affection that I wanted and needed to be happy. The best thing for you to do is sit her down (just you and her) and talk about each of your feelings and see if she can settle with one day a week you two spend one whole day together (watching movies, or whatever you two like to do together) or ask her what she wants to do on that one day and do it with her. If she does that, then after a few weeks make it a couple days a week of alone time. If she is the romantic type then, one night of your alone time light 10-15 candles and place them around a bath tub and have a bubble bath waiting for her or take the candles and place them around the room and enjoy a special evening at home.
2006-07-06 09:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by jareds_gurl862002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont want to tell you that you should let her go, but there are a lot of fish in the sea and maybe she's not the right one for you. I would give it some time and see if things work out and if they dont seem to be then I would move on. :)
2006-07-06 08:52:12 · answer #3 · answered by iloverharrypotter_7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, let her go man.. the harder you try to hold on the harder your going to fall. she is going to do what she wants regardless. its a hard lesson learned and it is going to hurt. maybe down the road she'realize what a mistake she made, or you might find out you dont need her. im sorry to say this, but its going to hurt either way. I know, because i have been there. i think she has issues as well, why does she want to drag you along with her indeciciveness. she doesnt even know what she wants, because obviously if she didnt want to be with you she wouldnt be. you shouldnt have to talk her into staying with you.
2006-07-06 10:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by daniel e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK WELL ACUALLY I WANNA LEAVE MY BF CAUSE HE CHEATED ON ME AND THEY SAY ONCE A CHEATER ALWYAS A CHEATER AND WE BEEN T/G 4 A YEAR THIS MONTH BUT WE'RE NOT LIVING T/G AND SO IF YO GF WANNA LEAVE DONT HOLD HER BACK. LET HER GO. AND THEY ALWAYS SAY WELL...... I ALWAYS WAY WHENVER A PERSON LEAVE A PERSON THAT THEY LOVE THEY ARE MORE LIKELY GONNA COME BACK OR IF THEY DONT COME BACK THEN SHE REALLY DIDNT LOVE U IN THE 1ST PLACE. SO TAKE MY ADVICE MY FRIENDS SAY THAT I GIVE GOOD ADVICE ANYWAY. HOLLA!!
2006-07-06 08:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by courtney o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say move on sounds to me if your giving her flowers and cooking her meals and trying to show her how much you truely love her if she still isn't impressed she has moved on with her own life more likely with someone else and maybe using your home as a place to stay
2006-07-06 08:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a two way street. what does she do for you? you should not be her servant. if you aren't getting a compromise from her, move on you deserve better. you will get over her in time.
2006-07-06 08:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by hilton hottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋