To men: Do really expect women to look like they do in playboy or maxim etc?

Question

I mean. In the real world, we aren't airbrushed and we might have a few extra pounds but if we are attractive in the face and average in the body and you claim to love us, is there any let down that we aren't covergirl material when the clothes come off? I guess it just goes back to the society comparison thing. Bottom line...how do you feel about small boobs, a few stretch marks or the like? Obviously this question is for real men and not the teenie boppers online.

Answer 1

I think that this is a really good question.
I am over 30 and male.
The older men get, the more personality is important.
We all love boobs but they don't have to be big.
Even very small ones are sexy if you are confident about yourself. I hate to see women get implants just for men...maybe, if they want to do it for themselves but I like the natural look.
No body is perfect and being a mom is worth a few stretch marks. I think it has a lot to do with how you feel about yourself, your personality, how you take care of yourself and how you sell yourself. No one wants a man or a woman that is careless with their appearance but Maxim and Playboy girls are pretty fake representations of real women.

Relax and enjoy. Be confident. You must be proud of yourself before someone else can be proud of you.

God Bless.

Answer 2

There are certainly some men out there who expect their women to look like that, but most men do not. I am married to a beautiful woman who would closely fit the description you set here. It's not that her boobs are too small, she has too many stretch marks or a few extra pounds. It's only using Maxim or Playboy as a standard that one makes those determinations. I think she's perfect. Even the women who actually appear in those magazines cannot live up to those standards, thus the required airbrushing!

Answer 3

Honestly, I do not believe that men want women to look the way they do in magazines. I think it has to do with society telling guys what they want and telling women how to be, which is sickening.

Personally, I abhore all of the publications that depict women in unreal or unhealthy ways. Breast size does not determine whether or not a woman is attractive. Neither do all the rest of the things that are exploited in those magazines. Women are beautiful and attractive for their personalities. There comes a time in a man's life where he has to stop chasing that magazine image, because he'll never find it. If any woman did have that sort of figure, I can only imagine what kind of narcissistic and egotistical personality goes along with it (read: high maintenance). I want a woman who is secure in herself enough to have a few extra pounds (not to mention the fact that I live in Minnesota, where it's nice to be warm in the winter). I want a woman who has stretch marks and anamolies on her body that show she's lived something other than an anorexic diet.

Answer 4

same reason women fantasize about famous men brad pitt, orlando bloom, etc. we guys truly appreciate the female body because it is a work of art. It is no let down to see the real you, cause we've seen ourselves longer and we know were not what you see on the screen. we guys have an active imagination and we tend to stare. so the magazines just play in our illusion while were at work. So in case something should happen to the magazine its no big deal we can always go buy another one or borrow one. thats why we dont always stare at the picture of our loved ones we cant risk losing those picture cause of their never ending value. Stretch marks, small boobs, dont matter every guy has their taste in women. kinda like beverages some like champagne other prefer red wine, meanwhile some go for old fashion lemonade. Guys are nowhere near as critics as women are. You women are horrible at critizing your own bodies and others. making a mountain out of a hill. Do you see us guys worrying about that extra beer affect our thighs ?

Answer 5

In the olden days, like 50 years ago and everything prior to that women weren't even considered as autonomous individuals. They were not considered to have their own identity so it was expected that they take on their husband's identity/last name. They were thought of as property, an extension to the man they married. Back then, a woman didn't really have a choice in not taking a man's name. The tradition of women taking the last name has very dark and demeaning roots. Now a day's you have the right to choose. @ Slab: In a Native American tribe (I forget which one, I think Cherokee) they took the last name of the female because it was 100% certainty that child came from the mother yet they could never have been sure who the father was(obviously because of the lack of DNA.) Your reasoning supports the opposing cause. You make no ******* sense.

Answer 6

I don't insist on physical beauty. While the girls in magazines are pleasing to the eye, they are simply fantasy. I'd like to see what they look like without the makeup, fake tans, and airbrushing. I don't compare real world woman to them. Small boobs are fine and stretch marks are not a concern. Tans don't concern me. Women who are intelligent, funny, and confident don't need to be extremely pretty. Afterall, I doubt that I would be the definition of "perfect" for any women out there.

Answer 7

No, men do not expect real women to look perfect any more than women expect all men to have thick chests and killer abs. Like everything else in life there is an ideal out there that we all fantasize about ( we'd all like to be rich and famous), but most of us are very happy with what is in the real world and smart enough to know the difference between reality and fantasy.

ahem,... most of us.

Answer 8

WOW - do you think all us guys really expect all you to look like the playboy girls? Well maybe some guys do but they are living in a dream world. I try to stay in the real world - with real girls. Oh sure every guy dreams of that type of girl but I realize its only a dream and as long as I find a woman that is bright, honest, caring, loving, fun to be around and most important.....passionate - looks are secondary. To me a woman can be like that present you get at christmas time - sure the wrapping can be all that, but its whats inside that counts - so you see to me the size of the ribbon or bow (t&a) or the color/pattern of the paper really does not matter - its the woman inside that I look for.

Answer 9

No I don't expect that!

Any dude that does is a rockhead and he's of no good use to anyone to begin with.

Small boobs are kewl. Hell, boobs are just plain kewl. As for a few stretch marks? Shyt I probably have a couple and I'm a small athletic guy!

Don't let that crap concern you there are plenty of men out there that aren't fooled by Maxim

Answer 10

The girls of Playboy et al are an ideal: that's the kind of girl we'd date if we had a choice. Of bloody course we realize those girls are few and far between,and of course we realize they'll use those exquisite physical attributes to excite the interest of the most virile-appearing and well-to-to men amongst us - men who in reality are as rare as those picture-perfect girls you were talking about. So what? We're still going to look for such a girl in hopes that she'll see beyond our warts and our skinny pocketbooks and see the truly worthy specimens we are.

Yes, there is a let-down that you aren't a cover girl when the clothes come off. We're insanely jealous of that guy called Fabio who looks as if he were designed by Mighty Zeus, fer cryin' out loud. Can't she see he's just a shell, a fluke, a self-centered freak who'll use 'er and lose 'er so fast her head'll swim for a month? Can't she see we'd give our left brass one for a chance to hop inna sack with 'er?

Look, you're dealing with human nature, which is that we want the best there is in all things. We know bloody well we can't have it. We know bloody well most of us can't hold a candle to Fabio's looks and wealth. We even know that an embarrassing percentage of those ultra-luscious girls are scheming, shallow and the ne plus ultra of dumb broads. But we're guys, and there's something called "the biological imperative"!

We appreciate you gals with the smaller boobs and a couple extra pounds and the less-than-perfect mane of hair and the chipped fingernail and a wart or two - 'cause in reality, we know you appreciate us with our shortcomings, too. But this we also know: you'd show Fabio just where under your bed to park his shoes had you the opportunity. In other words, you're just like us: you prefer the ideal.

So how's about we allow each other our private dreams, and even, when we're being jerks, our not-so-subtle ogles and drools when those Images of Gods and Godesses sashay across our visual field, and when our "idiot moment" is past, clasp each others' hands warmly and go on to our ordinary, somewhat boring, but ultimately satisfactory lives together? Heck, I'll even point out the Fabio to ya in case y'didn't notice, just so you can have the pleasure of a moment's fantasizing! That work for ya?