Why this dude DOSEN'T TALK?

Question

This is he's childhood. He's mother took him away when he was 7 taking him away from his friends and family to a complete different country.
He's father left him before he was boarn, he has never seen neither a picture of him. He was kind of sexually molested by a bigger kid and that left him with fear of someone touching him again for all his life, he even feared he's own mother could do that. In the new country he was treated with racism and other kids went as far as crying if they had to sit by him. When he's friends were mean to him he gived them money so that they would like him again, they also used to force him to blaspheme God in exchange of friendship. Now this dude is 20, i know him, he dosen't talk a lot, he's kind of strange and always wants to be around little girls, he has a strange look in his eyes but he generally wears dark sun glasses, he hasen't got much friends and he works in building constructions, he failed his grade. Why dosen't he behaves like other people?

I FORGOT, he has a step father but he dosen't loves him very much and he does NOT consider him to be his father.

Answer 1

Why doesn't he behave like other people? Because most people weren't treated as horribly as he was. Poor guy.

Answer 2

He doesn't behave like other people because he is not like other people! He has serious issues that need to be addressed. If you are serious about him only wanting to be around little girls, you need to watch him or at least warn these little girls parents. A large percentage of child molestors were actually victims of molestation themselves, so he could potentially harm these little girls! Sounds to me like this man could be dangerous. It's very sad because he was dealt such a bad hand as a child. I wish I could offer you some advice, but it seems the only hope for this person is professional help. Be careful and good luck.

Answer 3

He has a lot to deal with and he's left it inside and now its festered and well lets just say he's not ok. He needs help in the form of serious counselling. He's lost thats all I can say. He's very lost. Sometimes people don't need a conversation to say anything, sitting beside a person, holding their hands and just being there for them is a huge help. Maybe with counselling he'll be able to open up and be normal again. I hope things turn out ok for him. He went through a lot.

Answer 4

That is a lot to take in for any person. You also have to realize that from what I have heard people that we sexualy molested as child are more likely to do it them selves. It has something to do with them only feeling safe with them. You need to be there for him, and show him that there is actual kindness in this world, and that people his own age can show it too. Help him come back, or things could go terribly wrong for him, and I don't want to see that for him. Good luck, and if you want tell him to keep his chin up.

Answer 5

He sounds very troubled. The part about hanging around little girls after being molested is a VERY bad sign. If you are related, you need to tell someone of Authority your concerns. If not, perhaps you need to talk to the little girls and then an authority figure! Sounds like a bad situation!

Answer 6

You know how that dude doesn't talk? Maybe you should take his lead...go to school and learn to write and make sense. In answer to why doesn't he behave like other people, you answer that already in the first part of your question that reads like a novel.

Answer 7

He needs help to readjust to society. Encourage him to seek out therapy .

Answer 8

This dude is you isn't it?

Answer 9

duhhhhh...i duno