My Mom and Stepdad want to take me to court to get visitations with my son they cant stand my husband so he is totaly against them seeing my little boy..All I want to do is keep peace in my family what can I do?
2006-07-06 08:23:23 · 18 answers · asked by gamble010676 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
In Texas, grandparents have rights to see the granchildren. Not sure of laws in your state. But keeping peace in the family should be your #1 priority. Being in the middle trying not to tick anybody off (your hubby or parents) can be hard. Explain to your parents that this is your husband and they better get used to it. Let them know how torn you are and how unhappy this is for you. Then explain to your husband that these are your parents and its not right for them not to see the baby. Also, you may want to sell it to your husband as a free babysitter! Whatever works, right?
2006-07-06 08:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by heathermama_tx 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When my brother and his wife divorced his ex wife wouldn't let anyone see their daughter, who was 2. My mom & dad had a very close relationship with their grandaughter and it was hard not only on my parents but on my niece as well. Whatever happens, I only hope that you and your husband can keep in mind that conflicts like these are harder on the children than just letting them visit with someone one of you might not like that well once in a while. If there are honest concerns for your son's well being and safety when he visits them then by all means keep him away, but if it's just a personality conflict that's at the heart of the matter then try to resolve something between your husband and your family. If neither side is listening to reason perhaps a counselor can mediate between the two sides and help you to come to a happy or at least bearable solution. I hope that both your Mom & Stepdad AND your husband can step back and realize that if they fight over the "right" to see your son in order to "win" or "beat" each other, it will really only hurt him, if they've got a problem with each other they need to work that out without involving him. Take care, and I hope you guys can get some help in this.
2006-07-06 08:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by metzlaureate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they decide to take you to court, there really isn't much you can do, in-fact it may even make the tension stronger. The only one that's truly gonna be hurt here is your Son. Your Husband need to understand this. They don't have to see each other, after all it the grandson they want to see not him. He should just be the bigger person and allow him to go, cuz in fact the judge just may tell him he has too. Good luck I know this sux to be torn...been there done that.
2006-07-06 08:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by myopinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in a mess. Can't you make some arrangements for them to see your little boy. After all they are part of his life. Why doesn't your husband want them to see him? It doesn't matter that they don't like each other, that has nothing to do with the grandparents seeing the boy. Your husband is doing that for spite. Not good.
2006-07-06 14:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first concern is your son: what's in his best interest? What reason does your husband have for not having your parents visit? I was in a situation a long time ago where my ex-mother-in-law wanted visitation with my children. She was not healthy emotionally, so I stood my ground and did not allow her to visit with my children. The bottom line is that you have to do what's in the best interest of your child. Everything else is secondary.
2006-07-06 08:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by apt. dweller 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if you imagine you could or not.. see a lawyer.. many components you with a free consultation. Many states DID bypass grandparent guidelines... and placed later that they were not per the federal structure (seem up Troxel vs Granville). the fashion one situation will be even if mom is a in nice condition ascertain. There are in simple terms some grounds on that you will be able to report for visitation with the grandchildren. Please communicate to a lawyer, who's the purely individual who knows what the easily guidelines are, on your state.
2016-10-14 04:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by porterii 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
out of control situation. Oviously you've tried talking, maybe it would be good to bring a mediator into the situation. Doesn't have to be court, since grandparents don't have parental rights, and your child is already in custody of his parents. Perhaps call friend of the court, and see if they have any services available for mediation. And your parents and your husband need to pay for it, not you!
2006-07-06 08:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by hichefheidi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can take you to court, but it probably won't go far. I would talk to your husband and tell him that it's important for your parents to see your son (if it is to you of course). If he refuses to give in, go yourself. Make a day once a week or every other week or even every month to go to your mom's and let them hang out with your son.
2006-07-06 08:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is family. No matter what they do or say they are your family. Your child needs to be in a close family relationship. Families are an awesome thing they can help you when he gets older to keep an eye out and make sure he's not getting into any trouble.
2006-07-06 09:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by girlpower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband has no right to deny his child grandparents that love him. i know you want to keep the peace, but youre denying your child something no kid should be without. if he cant handle being around your parents, he doesnt have to, but you can definitly take your son to go see his grandparents without him, you dont even have to leave him alone with them, just as long as your little boy gets to know and see his grandparents. screw the peace, family is important, and your son will be angry later in life if hes denied a relationship now. this is what my father did to me, and it took a long time for me to forgive him, and even longer for me to develope a good relationship with my grandma, unfortunately i missed out on my grandfather, he died before i got a chance to meet him. your husband has no right to do this, you have to take a stand and do whats right, even if he is angry.
2006-07-06 08:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by sslowbliss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋