Dont know what to think about upcoming coffee "date" - Please let me know how I should take her invite

Question

yesterday i was looking @ a dating site and saw this profile that looked really cool. im like wow -im mailing her -so i did.
note her name nor pics were posted
so i send the email & got a quick responce and guess what...
i knew her years ago and see her here and there.

shes like how did you not know it was me. and im like well lets see we havent hung out in forever, you didnt have a real name posted or any pics... geezzzz i wonder.
anyway nuts embarrassing

the crazy thing is when she writes back she is like "maybe if you didnt smoke" (she just quit and i am trying)
then she invites me to an art reception tonight and gives me her number so i can call her to go out to coffee w/ her.

--question:
is she just looking to catch up
or is she interested in possibly dating me.

note: we never use to really hang out so the invite seems a little strange. as this will be the first time weve ever went for coffee.

The last time i saw her was about 3 months ago. She told me how good i was looking lately & invited me to come to some yoga lessons she was giving. THATS RIGHT YEAH ---YOGA INSTUCTOR --
anyway ive always thought she was hot and would be interested in dating her but dont want to get the wrong idea.

Answer 1

She is interested. For herself, not a friend.

Go out, have fun, enjoy yourself. Don't smoke! Be a gentleman. Ask a lot of questions. Get her talking. Give her the opportunity to make her intentions clearer.

Answer 2

1) Take a chance. Go! Call her. It seems as if there's a spark of interest in there somewhere! I know it's confusing, and it might just be for her too. Maybe this is something that she's trying herself to see if there is any real chemistry with the two of you, or if it was just a fluke chance.
2) The "maybe if you didn't smoke" thing... maybe this is kind of her way to let you know that she's noticed you.
3) If her profile on the site interested you that much, and she actually gave you her number then it's worth taking the chance.
Look at it this way, if you go out with her, or meet her for coffee then at worst it's an evening catching up with an old acquaintance or at best it's the start of something special. Even the worst beats sitting at home or in a coffee shop alone right?
Good luck. & if you go Have FUN!

Answer 3

Don't get paranoid about it--it's just coffee. People drink coffee in shops with strangers all the time. Study groups get together in coffee shops. You can run into an acquaintance you haven't seen in 20 years, and sit down for coffee.

I'm wondering if it's you who wants to date (rather than just catch up on old times). Either way, nothing wrong with that. It's very easy to "go for coffee" and never see the person again - or to make plans to do something at a later date. It is up to the two individuals.

Answer 4

She probably likes you, maybe she had a crush on you back in the day? I would just go with an open mind, don't expect anything. You'll know if she's flirting with you or not. If all goes well, ask her to dinner and see what she says. I personally invite a guy for a drink or coffee when I'm not sure how it's going to go, that way I'm not stuck for a long meal if I don't end up hitting it off with the guy. If I do end up hitting it off with them, we can always extend the date or make a second date.

Answer 5

She's looking to check you out, take a look at how you've done over the years & measure you up for possible dating material!!!
I say, go - have a nice time, talk about old time & new things. Be yourself - be candid, be comfortable. Don't go in with high expectations - let this develop & see where it goes. Hey, if you got someone you know in real life - it could be Fate has stepped in & taken a hand in your love life!! Sounds like perfect plot for either a great romance novel or a wonderful chick flick!!! Let me know how it goes - good luck & BE YOURSELF!!!!

Answer 6

Well coffee is casual because she isn't sure if she wants to date you..yet. It is to catch up and if she's intrigued hopefully one of you will take the initiative and ask the other out. I think she's interested, but like I said it's casual so if you don't hear from her after don't worry about it. And don't look too much into the meaning of meeting up with her.

Answer 7

Possible look see, catch up and see where it might lead. You never know.
Just play it by ear. Nice slow and easy. Feel her out by what questions she is asking. One step at a time. She trust you enough to give you her number. That is a good thing.

Answer 8

Seems like she is interested, it can't hurt to go and see what happens...
My opinion- she already likes you as a friend and has the thought about dating you but she wants to see how you react first. Just go to the are thing and have fun, if you click it may be something great...

Answer 9

basically she might have liked you at one time but wants to see what your like now so is making absolutely no commitment by inviting you to coffee. If it's a "no" than no hard feelings it was nice seeing you. If she likes you I'm sure dinner and drinks will follow.

Answer 10

dude, the invite is the date. Think about it, what is a date? Don't blow this opp by asking too many questions to yourself. Engage her into conversation. Ask her questions, find out what she wants in life and go with the flow.

Answer 11

I don't know. Meet her for coffee and see. If she is interested than great, if not you had the chance to catch up with an old classmate. It seems to me a win/win situation.