I have been seeing someone for 3 years. She regularly communicates with exes on myspace and by telephone. The myspace profile is secret. She says her exes are just "friends" and refuses to delete them from myspace and/or to stop talking to them. One of them she meets for drinks while with her girlfriends (without me present). I feel that her communication with these men is disrespectful to me, and wrong, even if they are "just friends." She is 38 years old. What do you think? Am I being irrational or too insecure? What would you do?
2006-07-06 07:44:25 · 6 answers · asked by Steve D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave her -- you don't trust her and she doesn't respect you and she put you in this position on purpose just to give her an excuse so when she does cheat she can come back at you with you are controlling and made her leave her friends -- do not invest in this person emotionally ---- just use her for sex and hide your money
2006-07-06 07:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong if she's purposely not including you in their activities and if she's being secretive about it. Bottom line is this - the fact that you've posted this question and are giving it a second thought proves that you must not have 100% trust in this woman - go with your gut! By the way - what 38 year old woman is on myspace?? red flag #2!
2006-07-06 14:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mom of 4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're being insecure - she is.
I always saw "Myspace" as being for teenagers (my lil sis and all her friends in mid school use it) - so for her to be using it, sounds as though she doesn't want to let go of the past.
I'm friends with all my exes, but my current bf (when I have one) will get a chance to know them if he wants. I have nothing to hide.
Try again and ask if she wants to go out for happy hour drinks and tell her to invite her male friend(s), if she says "no", then yes, definitely be irrational.
2006-07-06 14:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by NyceGyrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, based off of personal experience communication with exes is bad. Sure theyre not together for a reason, but it doesnt mean he wont say 'i've changed my ways'. I dont cheat on the guy im dating, but my ex still believes Im his girlfriend...they don't give up, they keep trying to get what they want. I would be worried about the exes...
2006-07-06 14:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely Not! what could she have to say to them that she couldn't tell to you and if she has told you why is she trying to get there view point. You should be asking her why she feels the need to speak to other men, you no what are they doing for her ?
2006-07-06 14:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by roxysreality 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of trust - both ways. Split up now or split up later. Your choice, but one of them means you might meet the right person sooner.
2006-07-06 14:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by U. N. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋