My sister is thirteen years old. I found some pretty disturbing poems and diary entries on her computer about how her life sux, my dad is never here, my mom is a "spaz" and i'm an a$$whole. She thinks she's Emo (the way she dresses, does her hair, the way she does her make-up at times, the way she thinks, things she does and music she listens to)She thinks that the only way is to slit her writs and then everyone will be sorry especailly my dad (she has scrathches on her arm if you can call them that!). Although my dad works from home spoils her rotten and never says that he doesn't have time for her or the rest of us. Yes my mom can freak out sometimes but who's mom doesn't? and brothers and sisters arn't always supposed to get along. I don't know why she is doing this or how to stop it. My dad is a hardworking man who helps everyone especailly his kids and for the first time in my life i saw my dad cry when he saw joie's arm and she seemed almost proud that she made him cry. HELP!
2006-07-06 07:43:55 · 12 answers · asked by AmandaS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sweetie, your sister is so lucky to have such a caring big sister but, big sister you need more than just some simple quick fix answers from this site you all need real help, she is hurting so badly and I am not sure if you can help her at all, besides what it is you are doing.
Tell Dad and Mom to take her to some kind of doctor, or even some kind of group help, maybe if your little sister sees that she is not the only person in the world her age going through so much then may be she will open up and except the help she needs,
When a person becomes a teenager, there are things that they do not understand about themselves that can be hard to deal with or to even understand, but to ask family for that help can be also a hard thing to do so may be some out side help can get through to her....
I really hope that you and your family can get through this together, whatever you do do not give up on her, even though she may say some mean things right now, she doesn't mean them, she is just a little confused, that is all. I will pray for you all, and you can always pray to okay....
2006-07-06 07:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't cut for attention. When I was a teenager, I would never call myself "emo" but I cut. I still bare the scars from that time along my arm. What your sister is going through is a serious medical condition. In her position, I did not want attention. I did not want to hear who loved me or how they would help me. I was content dragging the glass or exacto blade along my skin. Personally, I felt as though there was something so wrong with me that it was in my blood. Bleeding helped me feel as though I was getting rid of that handicap. But after awhile, the cutting becomes an addiction. Your sister needs medical help because this DID start as a chemical imbalance in her brain. Be prepared for alot of her screaming and threats. She'll use the word 'hate' alot. She may even write how she wishes she'd just 'die' to make the pain stop. She needs to be on antidepressants, and she should talk to a therapist. She may have BPD.
I wish you the best, darling. And if there is anything further I can assist you with, please let me know. I have been in your sisters shoes and I have gotten well.
2006-07-06 15:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by Genevieve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister was my kid, I would do the following:
(Maybe you can talk to your parents about some)
1. Send her to a boot camp somewhere (she will definitely come back a new girl)
2. Bring her to a therapist of some sort (but...I REALLY don't think this will work...and I most likely wouldn't do it)
I think the first option would work wonders. You need to take action fast, then she will be sure to learn that acting "Emo" isn't the way of life. Or at least she'll stop cutting her freakin' wrists.
God bless you and your family. I hope she finds the help she needs.
2006-07-06 14:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by Scubble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen. Cutting is a deep form of depression. Though alot of " emo's " do this to be like others, most of the time, its deep rooted in depression or an emotional feeling. Try talking to her and asking what is up and why she is hurting her body. Let her know that though she probably can't feel it ( people who cuts experience a high and really don't feel the pain ), she is doing so much damage to her body.
2006-07-06 14:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by mr security 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that you (the a$$hole) can help her. You know what I mean. If she looks at you to be one of the enemy's, it may be she needs serious professioanl help. Call the teen help line.#310-855-4673 The only thing I could even possibly think of is just talk to her, let her know how much you care for her and that regardless of what you think ( don't let her know you read her stuff) she feels about you, you will always be here for her unconditionally.
2006-07-06 14:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by myopinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there - well - as far as i know - EMO is a way of life like hippies ar punks, and there isn`t much you can do about it - of course give her a lot of support, but never be sorry for her, never tell her to stop - it`s not working that way. I know, that you want to take care of your little sister, but trying to stop her, isn`t a way. I have a daughter - 16 with lots of EMO friends - some of them grown to change, some still EMO. First, when I saw them, I was scaried - you know all those scares... But now, some of them changed - I was affraid, that my daughter`d like to be one, but fortunatelly - not. If you want to ask her some questions - feel free to mail me (m_thiell@yahoo.com - to Monika)
Have a nice day
Mia
2006-07-06 14:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mia - Your Friend In Real Estate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutters typically do these thigns for attention. its a way of lettign go aof pain they are holdign inside. Shes probably got other issues which she is not expressign or telling anyoen about,. try ot be a li lmore open to her and see fi shell open up to you. its obviusly not your parents fault, as they seem to be attentive. Call a few hotlines to get afice as to how to confront her about this prblem. it elads to more serious thigns os tyr to get her to stop while shes just beginning...sorry you ahve to go at thsi alone! GOOD LUCK
2006-07-06 14:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by E L M S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a site with info about cutting:
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/cutting.html
Your parents know about it now and should try to get help for her. If they don't act, you can talk to a school counselor or to a minister, asking them to encourage your parents to get medical or psychological help for your sister.
"Most people with deep emotional pain or distress need to work with a counselor or mental health professional to sort through strong feelings, heal past hurts, and to learn better ways to cope with life's stresses. One way to find a therapist or counselor is to ask at your doctor's office, at school, or at a mental health clinic in your community."
2006-07-06 14:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by Ginger/Virginia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man... there is something wrong with ur sister or maybe it is just her way of trying to get ur dads attention is she the middle child? if she is she may feel like she is ignored and wants attention even if she has to do bad things like that to get it. it think you should show her how much she is hurting ur dad, maybe she would realize that it is hurting him.
2006-07-06 14:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by H. Moonshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discipline is the answer. maybe some time away would help her too. like go on holiday to aunts or uncles for a couple of weeks and see how she responds to a different environment
2006-07-06 14:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by I think therefore I am 2210 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋