My ex-fiance has come back into my life after 3 weeks of being apart. We were supposed to move into our own place this past weekend. A lot of people are telling me that he had cold feet and thats all- but i want to make sure that what it is. When we first broke up- he pushed me away everytime i tried to talk to him- i cried for weeks. Now- the tables have turned. He wants me back. how long do i make him wait- how long is too long and how far should he go to get me back? He says the past month has been hell for him and he can't live without me- if so, why tell me it's over then? Help!
2006-07-06 07:38:30 · 13 answers · asked by monetmanagement 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
first do all the negative wht she wants it & then give her excuses & then say that u dont love her u love somebody else.
2006-07-06 07:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by Vaibhav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If he got scared once, he's going to do it again - and the next time you might be married with kids to worry about. If he was truly the one, he would not be scared. I dated a lot of guys I couldn't commit too - particularly 1 who I was with for 2 years and he wanted marriage. I FREAKED out and dumped him. Less then a year later I met a wonderful man who is now my husband. Everything felt right and everything went right. Our engagement was smooth, effortless, and calming. On our wedding day, I will never forget how at peace I was - and I'm always nervous regarding everything!!! But I just knew I was making the right decision. This guy isn't the one - give him the ring back and be done with him.
2006-07-06 07:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somethings wrong with this picture - 3 weeks apart - sounds like he was checking out another girl but probably it didn't work out - now he wants you back. Cold feet is a poor excuse for being scared of just moving in together. I could see cold feet if marriage was being considered.
2006-07-06 07:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wanted to try something else, it didn't work out, now he is back, because he realized how much you really mean to him and he is afraid to loose you.
It's your call. If you think that you want to marry him then take him back, otherwise move on as this game will continue for years.
Good luck
2006-07-06 07:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after time dealing with someone sort of like this (obviously I don't know your situation) my phliosophy is:
if you break up you don't get back together.
if you were so upset/frustrated that you broke up obvioulsy there was a reason why, and odds are, it will happen again.
best to spare your heart the vicious cycle of make-up/break-up and just end it now.
2006-07-06 09:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're going through this.
I think you just have to ask yourself one question: what will make you happy?
And then, tell him what that is.
What he does after that will help you figure out what to do.
It's not about how long do you make him wait and what should he do.
It's about how you feel.
2006-07-06 07:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow you gut feelings on this one. This is a sticky situation and only you can know. Only you my dear! You know him more than anyone on yahoo answers. We'll give you answers, but because we are looking at the situation from the outside our opinions will differ from you who is on the inside looking at the situation.
2006-07-06 07:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by sassy_sexy_honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to be careful what you wish for because you just might get it. He said he wanted it to be over and he got his wish. Find someone with the balls to go through with making a commitment to you
2006-07-06 07:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused about your story. But if he wants you back and you want to wait, you should wait. Listen to your heart and your gut instinct. Do you really want to be with him? How do you feel about him really? Ask him how he really feels about you? Ask him why dose it have to be over? Ask him why you two aren't really moving in together and how you really feel about moving in together.
2006-07-06 07:44:54 · answer #9 · answered by delawaregirl83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love this guy you are willing to give him another chance. You put too much time and effort into this relationship why put it to waste.
2006-07-06 07:44:30 · answer #10 · answered by aznflippgurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you take him back he'll dump you again. Better to be the dumper than the dumpee. I said dumper.
2006-07-06 07:41:58 · answer #11 · answered by mutterhals 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋