I AM STUCK IN REALTIONSHIP WERE THE GUY JUST WON'T QUIT , HE HAS A MOUTH AND HE ALSO KNOWS HOW TO MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY YOU YPU TRY TO WALK AWAY. SO HOW DO YOU LET GO OF SOME ONE THAT SCARES YOU
2006-07-06 07:32:48 · 15 answers · asked by JADOSGIRL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not as simple as "just leave him". There is a women's shelter in your area for abused/battered women. The shelters hold meetings once or twice a week for people in your situation to attend. They are held at inconspicuous places like the library, a church, etc. You need to find out when and where the meetings are by calling the crisis intervention hotline, and you need to attend.
The reason you need to go to the meetings is because there will be specialists who can help you make a plan. When people in crisis make decisions, they sometimes wind up in another bad situation (homeless, no transportation, credit ruined). You need to make a plan that will protect you now and in the future.
You do not have to be alone. There are people who can help. Good Luck !
2006-07-06 09:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by SpongebobRoundpants 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Walk away and don't give a crap about his feelings or making you feel guilty. This is a free country and you have the right to be or not be with someone. The guy scares you, but you stay because you feel guilty. Not the smartest thing to do.
This relationship will never imporve and will probably get worse. Has he started physically or emotional abusing you yet? That would be next.
Have some respect for yourself.
2006-07-06 07:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You open your mouth, and you allow the words to come out, that says, "I have tried to make this relationship work, but, its just not happening"! Then you walk away and never look back. Why should it be that easy?? Because no woman deserves to be in a relationship thats not stable, or one that is scary. You need to realize that you have control over yourself, and no one makes decisions for you, but you! You deserve to be respected, start by respecting yourself, and never settle for anything less!! Theres NO such thing as being "stuck" with a guy!
As Im sure you know, theres help out there too, in case he's a threat, but, just do it, for......you!
2006-07-06 07:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back in the 1970's Paul Simon had a hit song with "50 Ways To Leave Your Lover".... find that tune and heed it's advice.
2006-07-06 07:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by RAllen1st 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone scares you, you shouldn't be with them period. Intimidation is a way for some people with phycological problems to deal with life and untill they do something stupid is when the people around them finaly get a chance to see that they were just mental. So my advice don't be around when he does something stupid, and if you are really scared contact your local police station and speak with someone there, explain then the situation and if you like to remain anonymous i am sure they can arrange that with you.
2006-07-06 07:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by wiseornotyoudecide 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me once... Try:
1.)Telling him you have a disease.
2.)Stop taking his phone calls/seeing him. If he tries to make you feel guilty - you should ask yourself why you feel guilty. Remember, no one can make you feel guilty without your permission.
3.)Can you annoy him? I've tried non-stop nagging, extreme clinginess, openly stealing from him, constantly going through his things/invading his privacy, developing a sudden fascination with male gay porn (plus hanging up posters of buff guys - gave him an insecurity complex), etc. This eventually becomes alot of fun.
4.)Worst-case scenario: get a restraining order.
Good Luck.
2006-07-06 07:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by Sahara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT NOW! okay right now he's just giving you some lip, soon he's going to giving you some licks. If you know what I'm saying. Get out while your still in one piece. The best way is to tell him strate up, and give him the reason why.
2006-07-06 07:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by willi willi lump lump 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it! Walk away!
Whatever slight indignation you may feel at first will be more than offset by knowing that you are free from a megalow-maniac for years to come if you don't!!!
2006-07-06 07:37:28 · answer #8 · answered by love_2b_curious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking to a woman's counsellor would be a good idea. almost every city has free ones - just look up "women's shelter" and they will have all your resources.
i'd say just "leave," but if you are actually afraid of him, i'd get some professional advice first, so he doesn't hurt you physically.
good luck!
2006-07-06 07:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by carolynnnna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave, and if he bothers you, get a court restraining order. If he persists, he'll be in the slammer.
2006-07-06 07:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋