Is my girlfriend crazy? (long story, bare with me)?

Question

We've been together for almost a year, I barely graduated college and now failed out of tech school (still have $42k job). She wants someone successful, and has stayed with me so far. I am going to be successful, but I'm just getting into the workplace at 26. We live 1000 mi apart, and only I have gone to see her (once a month) because she is "afraid to fly." I was with her last weekend for the first time since I got kicked out of school and she was still upset. We talked and she said she would give me another chance. The rest of the weekend was just fine. She hadn't talked to me for the two weeks prior, and after I left she didn't "feel" like talking. I tried to talk to her and tell her I need someone to talk to at least, but she kept blowing me off. So I got agrivated and hung up. She texted me two minutes later saying we're done. I still love her dearly, am I crazy to try to keep this relationship going?

I already have my BA, I was in a sort of "graduate tech school".

And a $42,000 a year job...

And she is in an Ivy league law school, she is going to make lots of money (nice, but it doesn't really influence my choices).

Answer 1

Did you know that if a person is personally successful they will be successful in all other aspects of life? Also, what is YOUR definition of success? What is HER deffinition of success? Do they match?
As far a making money, you seem to be doing ok. I understand that there's student loans to pay back, car insurance/note, rent, and other bills to take care of but even after all that you should still be doin ok.
What I don't understand is what she's so upset about? Is she mad about the Tech school thing? Because if she is then that's bad news for you. Instead of being mad at you about it she should have been consoling and supportive. I mean really that's a really dumb reason to be pissed off at someone. Graduate school is not regular college. It's actually harder and more expensive.
I understand you have love for her but you need to think about if she's GOOD FOR YOU. It sounds like you need someone to talk to because you need a compasionate ear. You've obviously been through some stuff the past year and you need to talk to someone about it. Not have someone get mad at you over school.
You're not crazy for wanting someone to love you no matter what you do. That's normal. Everybody wants that.
But i'll tell you that it's futile trying to please someone that will never be satified no matter how high up a social / financial ladder you climb.
I wish you the best of luck. I do hope this helps you some.

Answer 2

Word of advice, most long distant relationships do not work. If she does not want to be with you, then you need to move on with your life. Apparently the girl is just stringing you along. When someone tells you it's over then it's time to move on down the road. You will meet someone. Go back to school and be successful. Find a women in your area or town to date. If she is just waiting around for you to one day be able to take care of her, that is far from love, you are a pay check to her. Behind every successful man there has been a women who has been beside him through thick and thin.

Answer 3

It doesn't sound like she is trying to make an honest effort here....I understand that you still love her no matter what....but if she can't bare with you for awhile until you make more money....then....what is she in this for anyway?? Just the money?? I sure hope not, you deserve better than that...give her the time that she needs and give yourself sometime to honestly think about your situation/relationship....is she someone that you really want to end up with if she is only concerned with you making enough money?? Heck, your younger than me and make more than I do.......If I were her..I would be more than satisfied with your salary....at least for the time being.
Go with your gut on this one.....the pain is hard to get over but I would look for someone who wants something a little deeper.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

Take a chance because if you love someone you can't just let them walk away. If you really live her fly down there and apologize. You could tell her how she makes you feel and with her by your side you can find away to go back to college and graduate. But don't forget the most important thing to say to her I LOVE YOU. Good Luck and thanks for the points.

Answer 5

Your not crazy .... but it seems like shes not there for you 100%. I know you probably do love her very much but maybe its time for you to look for someone new. Someone that can appreciate what a wonderful guy you are. She will eventually realize what she left and she'll come back... That's when you have to decide if you want her back.... take this "single" time to do stuff for yourself, I call it "me time".... good luck

Answer 6

well being in love is like being crazy so yes u are. As far as your question to the relationship i think you are expecting way too much from someone sooo far. Ask yourself wht her actions tell you....forget wht she tells you wht does her actions say?!?!?! ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS
Do wht u have to do for yourself and the right girl will just come along.

Answer 7

Sounds like she took one look at you and decided ya'll weren't meant. Sounds there isn't a relationship, and you are not accepting that. Time to go back to school sweetie, finish your degree you started (you can do this) and find yourself a sweet girl who lives nearby.

Answer 8

Ditch that "thing".She sounds like a real loser.Remember people,you can be stinking rich and successfull and still be a loser.Shes not looking for love,shes looking for a wallet.

Answer 9

In short, yes. Try to remain friends, but let both your lives move on, should you end up together (without forcing that hand), then it will resolve itself. If not cherish your memories and carry on.

Answer 10

Maybe you should study more and get a job really fast and show her that you can be a successful person