how can i stop yelling so much? i have a two year old and a three year old both girls.?

Answer 1

This is a very trying and frustrating age, and two makes it even harder. Congratulations on noticing that you are struggling with your own behavior. You are right to want to stop yelling and respond better. First, try to remind yourself that THEY are going to copy and learn what YOU do. If you want them to eventually learn to be polite and respectful that is the way you need to model your interactions with them and with your partner if you have one.

When I have been under a lot of stress with my toddler I have also tried imagining that I was in a public place where others could hear how I am interacting with her. That has helped me keep my voice down and put more energy into problem solving than outright controlling.

Finally, do your best but don't beat yourself up when you do fail. Just use each time you make a mistake to remind yourself what you want to do better the next time.

Answer 2

this will sound weird but I swear it works... first quit saying "no". Instead use stop, come here and try to redirect thier actions. Secondaly, if you find yourself starting to yell, pick them up and whisper at them. Don't set them down until they have heard you and remember to keep your sentences short. Lecturing at this age doesn't work - you just end up talking to yourself.

Time outs do work at this age, but set them down next to you instead of on thier bed or in a chair in the other room. and only one minute per year of age (2minute for a two year old, three minutes for a 3year old.) Time outs also work better if you buy a digital timer and let them push the start button. Then have a quick chat about why they were in time out, but keep it to a minute or two.

Learn to pick your battles. Is it imporant that they not jump in the house or just not on the couch? Do they always have to eat at the table or can they eat on the clean kitchen floor once in a while?

You could also impliment a reward system. Even two year olds can grasp the idea of getting something special at the end of the day if they do what mom asks. Point systems work well. One point for each time the child does what you ask (hold hands in the parkinglot, help put the laundry away, even a point for putting the blocks away). But try to only take points for real misbehavior -like when they run off down the street and other things that put them in danger.

good luck

Answer 3

Are you specifically yelling at your children? Does it seem unprovoked and you just snap at the littlest occurrence?
One answer might be your age and the changes that your body is going through. You may very well just need to take vitamins everyday. Try a combination of B6, E, Calcium, Magnesium and Zinc (the last three come in one pill). This same thing happened to my mother. I told her she yelled too much and her doctor told her to take these specific vitamins and it would help release the tension in her body causing stress. I'm not saying that this could work for you as well, but consult your doctor.

Also, try stress relieving activities, maybe even spend an hour away from activities that cause you to yell the most.
I hope this helps.

Answer 4

Put them in separate rooms when things get to the point of yelling.
Do what I did, make out a "HOUSE RULES" list. For everything each one does (or doesn't do) they will receive either a check mark for "good" and an X for "bad".
After a certain amount of checks, they will be allowed a small toy, or dollar or quarter, or whatever you decide. Mine now does ALL she can to earn those checkmarks! Works great!
All yelling does is scare them.Hopefully yoou do not want them to fear you, but to obey you.
Keep yourself in check when dealing with such young children.
Remember, YOU are the one that THEY learn from! If you continue to yell at them, you will get yelled at BY them in the future. GOOD LUCK !!!!!

Answer 5

You just have to commit to yourself not to raise your voice. Its not good for the kids to hear and yelling stresses you out even more making the situation worse.

Try walking to another room for a moment when you feel like screaming. Just cool off with a few deep breaths.

Also, try getting out of the house alone each evening. Even just to go to the grocery store by yourself. All mommies need some alone time. You'll be happier and a better mommy for it.

Answer 6

When you find the magical answer let me know. I find myself yelling and have to stop myself midsentence and ask "Who is that crazy person yelling at my kids?"......Oh sh*t...it's me!

I try to give myself the same advice that I give my kids when they are yelling at me.....can you please talk to mommy in a soft voice because I can't understand you when you are yelling. Easier said than done but I have noticed a change in myself now that I am more aware of it.

The fact that you are concerned about it is the first step. You will be more aware. If you find yourself yelling. Try and leave the room and come back and talk to the kids normally when you return.

Answer 7

Wow what great ages. Try to figure out what behaviors really set you off. Keep them too busy to drive you nuts. Send them each to a corner. Me and my sisters turned out fine. When you feel like your gonna go off. Hold your breath and let it out very slowly. Ask them to leave you alone for a moment and then re approach them. They are at the age they are gonna pick up on your behavior and start doing it back at you and just to let you know that's gonna really piss you off. You need to start now showing them how to respond when they are angry. Say " I'm really mad". Also make sure your giving yourself some time to be on your own. Or having grown up contact. If your home all day with two kiddos, make sure your all getting out. Playgroups, parks and some kind of activity. Exercise will make you all feel better and sleep better. and so on and so on. Good luck and remember you are blessed to have two good little girls who sometimes " do bad things" It gets better. I'll pray for you:)

Answer 8

Yelling at your children is a bad habit. Think, the next you find yourself getting ready to yell; why am I going to do this? Do you yell after you have told your children over and over to do something and it's still not being done? If this is the case, the next time you tell them to do something; tell them if it's not done what the consequences will be. Don't tell them again, follow through with the consequences. For instance, if you have told them to pick up their toys (both are old enough to do this) and they choose to ignore you, take action at once. Tell them to pick up their toys or they will have to sit in time-out. Or they will lose their toys for a few days. Whatever you decide to tell them, but you must follow through. DO NOT tell them more than once. Do what you told them would happen. Over the years I have heard a lot of mothers tell their children,"if you do that again you're going to be in trouble". They keep telling the children over and over and over. But they end up yelling at them and the children don't get into trouble. This makes children think that nothing is going to happen because mommy just tells them over and over. Tell your children one time what to do or not do and also tell them will happen. If they don't listen, then follow through with what you told them. It will make believers out of them real fast. I hope this helps.

Answer 9

Take a parenting class. If you spend their childhood yelling at them you are going to end up with grown children who want nothing to do with you and yell at their own kids. Break the cycle. It's not physical, but it's still abuse.

Answer 10

Yelling wont solve anything,because after a while that's all they feel is going to happen.Get down to eye level and talk to them in a concerning manner