Long story... I'll try to make it short.
I have a best friend, know each other since 5th grade. We make each other laugh. I moved away 3 years ago but we still keep in touch through chat and e-mail and instant messages. And he just asks me whether there is a chance for us to get together and become a couple? I tell him maybe. In the future maybe but right now is no. As a best friend, I love him to death. But I don't have THAT kind of feeling toward him. He has this prince-ego: he thinks he's the most handsome guy on earth. When he dates, instead of coming by and pick up his girlfriend, he expected his girlfriend to come and pick him up. Beside making me laugh, he knows nothing about me. It took him 2 years to remember my last name and my birthday. He is a nice guy and I have high standards for a boyfriend. I don't know if it would work out. Should I just give it a try? Should I lower my standards or just keep things the way they are? HELP?
2006-07-06 07:21:33 · 17 answers · asked by Mercii 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you should. He likes you and that is probably what started your friendship in the first place. If he is asking you out, he has probably wanted to do so for some time. Consider this. If he is talking to you about dating you, then even if you turn him down, dating you will still be on his mind. It will eventually come up again later or maybe he will give up and the friendship will end altogether. Go for it. If your friendship is so strong, it will last even if your dating doesn't work out. Look at Jerry and Elaine from Seinfeld.
2006-07-06 14:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest keeping your relationship 'as is'. What's the point of ruining a wonderful, lifelong relationship with a best friend if you don't even harbor that same feelin for him? If you know that you don't share the love, then there's no point in dating- all that will happen is that you'll be cold and distant, and it wont' work out.
Sure, maybe if you thought there was something between you and him...then maybe there woudl be a chance for a successful relationship. But if he isn't you up-to-standard boyfriend, then why end an amazing relationship fr an uncertain coupling?
2006-07-06 16:50:04 · answer #2 · answered by sweateredpanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should give it a shot but don't lower you standards. Like if you are going out make him come get you and if he does not want to then it will give you a sign that he does not want to change even for someone he really cares about. So i think expect the worst but hope for the best you never know he could be ready to change just to make you like him. Good Luck and thanks for the points.
2006-07-06 14:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Brooke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you crazy?:) you pretty much answered your own question. 2 years to remember your last name!! ego's have no room in a relationship!! besides that i don't think best friends should date! it only works out like one in a million times, then you're out a best friend. later on in life even if you two are too busy to talk all the time, you are gonna feel great because you had a guy best friend who you never hooked up with, and that is rare now-a-days!!
2006-07-06 14:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!never lower your standadrds no matter how you may think of him....If you guys are great friends..you don't wanna ruin that by dating....take it from a girl with expieience..I dated my best guy friend we broke up and got back together and now we barely talk....I think leaving friends as friends is a good idea....especially if you'd have to lower your standards for a guy that lives like 3 hours away
2006-07-06 14:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by ArmyGirlfriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he really know you? Does he know your standards? If so Maybe he is tired of worshipping himself and wants a real relationship. I married my best friend, now 5 yrs later + 2 kids, I'd do it all over again. We even dated for 4 months from 2 different countries.
2006-07-06 14:26:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling that YOU will be just the girl to get this man to come down from his throne! You should tell him all of this. If he is truly your dear friend, you would have told him all this. What is the hold up? Tell HIM! I bet it will make a world of difference. And then, well, who would be better to date---a friend, or someone you don't even know? Come on now! Friends are the absolute BEST to date!!! But, I would wait till he came down off his throne.
2006-07-06 14:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay...i think you shouldn't because it would be a long distance relationship..and you know how those are...very hard! He seems like a nice guy but i think that he wouldn't make a good boyfriend because if it takes him 2 years to learn your last name and your birthday hes not the guy for you! I hope this was good advice!
2006-07-06 14:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by Meg! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say you dont feel anything - well maybe thats because youve always just viewed him as a friend? give it a try what do you have to lose. you never know he could turn out to be your soul mate. and at least if you give it a go youll have no regrets in the future. good luck
2006-07-06 14:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by mandymooma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was in a relationship like that once and told him my feelings about how I thought about him so if I were you I would tell him that if you and him were to start dating he would have to stop being so full of himself and maby pick you up.
2006-07-06 14:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋