2006-07-06 07:15:42 · 35 answers · asked by beautifully broken 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actually, it's me who's afraid of being hurt..so I figure I should get out now...if I can muster up the courage. We just have so much in common and share some of the same friends..very tough..without hard feelings!
2006-07-06 07:24:18 · update #1
well, it's hard because I respect them and they respect me and neither of us wants to hurt the other..I can't be friends b/c I will only hurt seeing them with someone else, etc.
2006-07-06 07:33:29 · update #2
You decide that you don't have to put up with someone who doesn't care about your well being, you decide what kind of life you are willing to live, and just how much you can handle emotionally and physically. You decide that if someone isn't right for you , then there is some else that is, and you are going to find that person no matter what it takes. If you feel like someone isn't right for you , then they probably aren't and may not be able to meet your expectations, because you already feel like they aren't the right person for you in the first place. If it is abuse, move on (physical or emotional) If it is a lack of interest on either part, move on, it is hard to regain interest in something that you have preconcieved notions about. If this person is not what you want in life, and has different interests than you do, move on and find someone better fit to love you and someone that you can love for who they are. Relationships are hard, and even harder when you know they aren't right....good luck and NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOUR WORTH!!
2006-07-06 07:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by cutipi_1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to stop loving someone just because you should. First, you've already made the first step by realizing that this person isn't right for you. Now you just need to gather up what's left of your strength and move on. I know it's easier said than done (been there, done that) but as cliche as it sounds, time really does heal. You'll soon begin to see just how wrong this person is for you and you'll start feeling like yourself again soon. Make sure, once you're on your own again, that you take time to heal and to get your head back on straight so that you know exactly what it is that you want... from yourself, from life and out of a relationship. Then the right person will come along.
Good luck!
2006-07-06 07:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with the person so he or she knows why you feel the way you do.
Make a clean break. A fresh wound heals faster than one that is allowed to fester.
If you still want to be friends, put some time and space between the two of you--at least six months--to allow the other person to make the adjustment.
Finally, pick up your feet and walk. It will tear both of you apart--but only for awhile. You both will be better off in the long run.
2006-07-06 07:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's very hard because you're content, you probably could sit around with this person for a couple more months, or even years, but trust me it is so worth it to do it as soon as possible. tell him your feelings have changed, people and they're feelings change every single day. tell him you need to move on. do not answer phone calls from him or hang out just as friends, I've been there too, it's only because they think they can get you back. do not live one more second with a person that you KNOW is not right for you. seconds are all we have and everyone deserves to be with the RIGHT person!!
2006-07-06 07:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question.. you have to spend more time with your friends.. i would just tell him that things are not right now, you both need some time away and that well you never know what the future may hold but right now you just need to walk away, then i would pre occupy your time with the gym, friends, work and even when you want to call him you just have a friend that you call instead. it will be hard at first but it gets easier. also have your friends not get in the mix of it all... dont have them telling you what he is doing and vise versa! be strong, why invest and waste time if you know its not right. you could pass up other great opportunities.
2006-07-06 07:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to them. Calmly, rationally. Explain why the relationship doesnt' work for you. This can be done without being nasty to the other person. Just explain what you want and need in a relationship. Chances are, if you're unhappy, the other person also has issues. Especially if you are both very different.
2006-07-06 07:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by tams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As weird as it sounds, but end it quick. Think of the band-aid trick-pull it off quick so it doesn't hurt as long. The longer you wait the harder it will be and the more involved you will become. Think of yourself and figure out what you really want. Obvisously you've done that so you have to get the rest over with. That's what I had to do, but it involved quitting my job to pursue school, but you get the idea. Follow your heart!
2006-07-06 07:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You turn around and move one foot in front of the other in a forward motion. jk. Seriously, simply tell them how you feel. Be honest. Don't keep going in a relationship that you know will ultimately go nowhere
2006-07-06 07:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pick yourself up, dust yourself off, take a deep breath, and just do it. If you know in your heart that this person isn't right, then you need to end it now. Life is too short to spend with someone like that.
2006-07-06 07:21:56 · answer #9 · answered by prettypixie1997 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Sound corny but its true. That way you don't have to remember the lie you told if you bump into them later on down the road.
2006-07-06 07:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by bk2bxrican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋