should i just move on?

Question

Well ive had a crush on this guy for like five years now but now there are rumours that hes going out with this other girl... they deny it all the time and say tat the rumours arent true, but i noticed them getting sappy and stuff. The worst part is that the girl is one of my bestest friends!!!!! What should i do???? should i just find another guy or steal him before he actually does end up going out with her??????

Answer 1

Whoa, calm down. Little one always remember that a crush is just that. A crush.

Listen what you need to do is be mature about this. I mean really it's just a guy. You can't possibly imagine how many more guys you're gonna like after this one.

As far as your situation.....If you like this guy you need to tell him. ( How else is he supposed to know you want to get with him if you never say anything to him ) Tell the guy you like him and would like to pursue a relationship with him. If he says yes then, yay! If he says no, then you'll have to be mature and respect his decision.
As for your "best friend" you need to talk to her as well. Be honest with her and tell her how you feel about this guy and how much it would hurt you if she and the guy you like were seeing each other and lying about it. Now if it turns out that they are dating and they've been lying to you about it.....Express your dissapointment and hurt about being lied to and then let it go. You can't ask someone to break up just because you like one of them. Your "best friend" and this guy deserve to be happy together. I know with this it sounds like you're getting the short end of the stick. But it's not really.
Think about it this way. How much is this girl a "friend" to you if she knowingly and willing went after a guy that she knows that you had a crush on. That does'nt sound like too much of a friend to me. My best friend would die before she did that to me.
As far as this guy, how is he supposed to know you wanted him if you never said anything to him. And if he does know you liked him and went with your "friend" anyway then there's nothing you can do about that. He's obviously a guy that only cares about what he wants no matter what. Is that really the kind of guy you want? Don't you feel like you deserve better than that? I do.
In a nut shell hun. If he does'nt know you want him, tell him and see what she says.
Tell your "friend" how you feel about this dude, if she fesses up then she's not a real friend and you can cut her out of your life. If she says nothings going on, tell her you're going to talk to the guy about it. If it turns out they've been lying to you then drop them both. You don't need people that lie to you in your life.
Hope this helps you hun. Best of luck.

Answer 2

Five years? And you have said nothing. Then you talk about stealing him? You don't steal people, especially people that you have had a crush on for five years and have said nothing.

You sound young. Anyway, you should step back and take a look at the rest of your life because if you are able to have a crush on someone for 5 years and say nothing, there might be other areas of your life that you should be doing something about but are doing nothing. Then only doing something about it when you feel threaten as you do by your girlfriend.

Best of luck.

Answer 3

If he wanted to be with you, don't you think that by now (after five years) that he would have given you some kind of indication. I think that you are wasting your time with this guy...if he can't admit that he is in a relationship with your friend but acts like he does...I would just like by gones be by gones. If he can't or won't tell the truth about that, what else will he keep from you...why all the secrecy? Plus, why would you want to go behind your "bestest friend"? I wouldn't take sloppy seconds no matter how they are dished up.

Answer 4

So you have made a big deal of having a crush on this guy and he and his girl friend are trying not to hurt your feelings.

If she is one of you best (not bestest) friends, why would you consider trying to steal her boyfriend. Obviously that would not be possible because if he had wanted to be with you he has had YEARS of chances.

Move on.

Answer 5

If you truly like this guy. Then let go , after five years of harboring a crush you should have told him by now, sometimes its hard, but if you like him so much then just pray he's happy, even if it means seeing him with someone else. You never know he might just wake up and see you !

Answer 6

Move on becuase there are other men out there for you. Don't sweat it! If you guys are meant to be together, nothing at all will stop it. It is a matter of destiny. Don't steal him, because that would be downright desperate of you. Just let nature take its course.

Answer 7

You say that she's your friend, but you want to steal him away, with friends like you , who needs enemies? You've liked this guy for five years and you haven't made a move? How is he supposed to know you like him if you don't let him know.

Answer 8

well sounds to me like he doesnt like u if its taking 5 years for him to make a move or he is just shy unlikely... but possible and how caan u have a crush 4 five years dang he must be fine my crushes last like a week!

Answer 9

i would just move on. i had a crush on a girl for 2 years, and at the end i finally figured out that it wasn't worth it.

Answer 10

Forget about both of them. If they have to hide things from you their not worth it. If they have a relationship leave them alone, don't be a stupid b!tch and ruin their relationship. It's your fault for falling for a guy for 5 years and either never telling him or not facing the fact that he doesnt want to date you.