It's not the money, because I really wanted my girlfriend to have this cashmier sweater. For her birthday I got her this great looking, soft as butter, Ralph Lauren cashmier sweater that topped out at $700 + . A few days later it's still sitting in the box on a chair in her room. She said, "it's nice...but I may not wear it." I gave her the gift receipt that is void of a price. Still, she won't wear it or exchange it for something she likes (and she's not lazy). I am tempted to tell her that the sweater is valuable, but I don't want to mention how valuable. Otherwise, it's going to be a $700 sweather in the Good Will store someday.
2006-07-06 06:58:29 · 13 answers · asked by stoneriprock 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should tell her that you would really like it if she returned it and got something she actually liked...
2006-07-06 07:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you've been dating. You don't want to tell her and make you look cheap, but then again that $700 could be going towards a lot of good gas. If it's been a good while, and you're comfortable doing it, tell her how much it costs. Otherwise, if you guys are a fairly "new couple" it might come off as a little insensitive.
In the end, keep in mind that she doesn't really want it anyway, so maybe YOU SHOULD return it, and get her something she would prefer.
2006-07-06 07:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by C.C. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably be afraid that I'd hurt my boyfriend's feelings if I exchanged the sweater. Maybe your girlfriend feels the same way. I'd start by reassuring her that you'd like her to have a gift that she will enjoy and wear. If she still does nothing, I probably would, in this instance, mention the ballpark price of the gift so she realizes the value of what she is letting sit in a box. Good luck.
2006-07-06 07:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by leahcutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how much it cost, so that she knows that you didn't just chump change it. Let her know how important it is for it not to be just sitting on a chair in her room. If she doesn't appreciate that, YOU take it back to the store, get your money back, and by her a wal-mart sweater. Then start a savings account with the money you spent on her in the first place....
2006-07-06 07:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by ♥o_wise1♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you looking for here? Undying love because of how much money you spent on a friend? Just forget it, okay? You gave it to her as a gift and it is now hers to use (or not use) as she sees fit. Maybe she is saving it for a special occasion and that occasion just hasn't come up yet. Its not clear to me if you are her boyfriend or not, but if you are, why don't you try asking her out for a special dinner and then you can "request" that she wear that sweater. Otherwise, just let this one go.
2006-07-06 07:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe next time you should not buy something so expensive. Girlfriends are rarely worth it. (but that's just the "mom" in me talking)
Honestly sweetie, it's July. It's too hot for a sweater. Plus, it may be as soft as butter to your hand, but did you know a woman's back and stomach is softer skin than butter? My husband bought me a cashmere sweater from Germany, and I think it's itchy! Live and learn darlin.
2006-07-06 07:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to tell her to exact price, but you should let her know your concerns, and that you'd rather it didn't just end up in the Goodwill completely new. If she wants something else instead, encourage her to go exchange it. You do have a legitimate concern about wasting money, but ultimately it's her decision -- once it passed into her hands, it became her property, even if she didn't like it. She could still send it to Goodwill, even knowing that it was expensive, and that's her perogative, but she should be sensitive enough to your concerns not to do that to you.
2006-07-06 07:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by theyuks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she isn't going to wear it, I would suggest to her that it would a great idea to take her shopping and exchange it for something whe will wear or use. So what if she knows how much it cost. It would satisfy you both better if she was to have something that still came from you, but something she will keep and cherish.
2006-07-06 07:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by roseygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if you gave it to her recently, were you not thinking of the weather? IT'S SUMMER!!! Second, if she says she may not wear it, take it back to the store where YOU bought it from, and get her some pretty panties or something.
Next time, don't spend so much money on her.
2006-07-06 07:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by patience3987 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sorry you should o probably gave her money cause uimm if she isn't wearing that she doesn't really like it she might want to wear it on a special day or you can let her know how you feel
2006-07-06 07:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by Charnele B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋