Arguing over parent's place..?

Question

my brother and I both recently started a family. He is trying to sell his co-op and wants to move his family back to my parent's place. He told me he wants him, his daughter and baby's mother to live in my old room. I very often visit my parents and stay in my old room with my son, most of my belonging are still there. I currently (rent) live with my son and his father a few miles away and are stuggling to pay rent. My baby's father and I are not on speaking terms with his parents. My parents' house is my saftey net. He is also going to try to sell my parents' co-op to buy a big house for his family and my parents to live in. My parents also want to buy a house and ofcourse they want all their children and grandchildren to be invited to stay. So my problem is he's taking that away from me. I told him how I felt and he told me that having a saftey net is being selfish. And if I really need to move back I can stay in the living room of my parents' place.

Answer 1

I understand the value of a safety net, I used my parents as one when I went through a rather nasty divorce a few years ago. The issue here isn't that you're going to lose your safety net (somewhere to go if things go bad) but your room... which technically you gave up when you moved out. Your parents home is their sanctuary and should not be regarded as yours or your brother's property. You both need to back off and worry about your personal situations more than who gets what room if you have to move back in with your parents.

Answer 2

well ultimatley it is your parents decison and he has a piont of the saftey net is a little selfish,your a grown woman and you can do it on your own it is possible you just have to try every venue available for single moms. You can get food stamps and child support help, single moms has a wonderful group.
this way you dont have to depend on your parents and if he goes to sale it try to buy it your self. as a first time home owner youd get a good deal.